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Deborrah Cooper

Writing under the pen name “Ms. HeartBeat” social researcher and author Deborrah Cooper has been positioned at the forefront of the dating and relationships field since 1993. She operated a successful singles events club and produced/hosted a Bay Area television show for four years before launching AskHeartBeat!, the first site on the web devoted to Black and interracial relationships. A dynamic, memorable speaker that holds no punches, she is a uniquely positioned authority on Gen-X, the war on women, interracial relationships, and other controversial social issues affecting black men and women.

Deborrah has tackled the most emotionally charged gender and dating topics with an engaging wit. Besides authoring more than 1000 columns and articles, she is the author of three books. The award-winning best-selling dating advice book “Sucka Free Love: How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional and The Deranged!” examines the many mistakes and questionable choices singles make in relationship. It’s filled with witty often hilarious insight and street-smart analysis of the games singles play. The second book in the Sucka Free series “The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid” outlines two dozen of the most common types of men a single gal is likely to meet.

Her controversial article entitled “The Black Church: How Black Churches Keep African American Women Single and Lonely” exploded onto the web in the fall of 2010, and single-handedly caused a firestorm on blogs and radio shows nationwide. Deborrah’s third book “The Black Church – Where Women Pray and Men Prey” soon followed. This book expands upon the original premise by setting out in detail the many ways men in leadership positions at black churches abuse their power, harming black women and children in the process.

Deborrah also produces and hosts The Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show, a lively and entertaining internet radio podcast. Going where other advice gurus are afraid to tread, Deborrah bravely addresses topics such as “Settling vs. Compromising – Should We Settle for Mr. Good Enough?” “Low Self Esteem in Partner Selection,” and “Get a Clue – Your Man is on the Down Low!”

Recent media and publishing credits include CNN, FOX TV, BET, Ebony, Essence, Jet, Black Enterprise, the Tom Joyner Morning Show, the Michael Baisden Show, Keepin’ it Real with Al Sharpton, the Dallas Morning News, Yahoo.Com, and dozens of other print and broadcast outlets.

She resides in the San Francisco Bay Area with her daughter and two pet turtles.

Dr. Boyce Watkins interviews Deborrah Cooper about her new book, "The Black Church: Where Women Pray and Men Prey."

 

The Black Church - Where Women Pray And Men PreyThe Black Church: Where Women Pray and Men Prey
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Paperback: 254 pages
Publisher: lulu.com (June 9, 2012)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1105636879
ISBN-13: 978-1105636875
Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.8 x 0.6 inches

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Black churches were once the cornerstone of the Black community and looked at as a source of guidance and strength. Indeed, the war for freedom waged in the 1960s battle for civil rights was born within the walls of Black churches. But that was then, and this is now. The pews of African American churches are filled with women, many of them lonely single mothers. These women come to church to be spiritually uplifted, but that is not what happens. Instead, twisted Scripture is used by unscrupulous men to manipulate and control them. Church is where black women are being preyed upon sexually, emotionally and financially. Are most pastors in black churches nothing but pimps smiling from the pulpit instead of from a Cadillac? 

 

The 24 Types Of Suckas To AvoidThe 24 Types Of Suckas To Avoid
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Paperback: 102 pages
Publisher: lulu.com (March 26, 2012)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1105623513
ISBN-13: 978-1105623516
Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.3 inches

What every single woman tired of short-term relationships with losers needs to know. This book teaches you how to quickly recognize and eliminate time wasting jokers. You'll get the tools you need to avoid dead-end relationships with commitment phobic jokers, heart breaking players, immature mamas boys, angry woman haters, mooches, and a host of other rogues women run into on a daily basis. Change what you seek in a man and how you look for it with some no holds barred straight talk about how to find true love and the relationship of your dreams.

 

Sucka Free Love! How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional, and The Deranged
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Paperback
ISBN: 1419653857
Format: Paperback, 242pp
Publisher: BookSurge, LLC

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Sucka Free Love! provides down to earth, street-smart insight into hundreds of the tough issues facing dating singles today. Relationship expert Deborrah Cooper shares her common sense and often hilarious insight and no-holds barred advice in a hip, 21st century style. Interracial relationships, handling racist friends and family, booty calls and friends with benefits, dating convicts, ferreting out child molesters and other weirdos, exes that won't let go, jealousy, what women REALLY want in a man, older women/younger men, and how to date with aplomb are just a few examples of the many subjects addressed. Appearing on the list of Best Black Books of 2007, this unique dating guide translates manspeak into English women can understand, and exposes the games and codewords used by manipulative players and gold-diggers around the globe.

Sucka Free Love! delivers all that single women need to turn confusing romantic situations around. Inexperienced high school and college-aged women can learn by reading about the poor choices and foolish mistakes of others. More mature women back on the market are provided with tools to date smarter in a changing social market. The book also contains a quiz for those having relationship problems that can help determine if you are dating a sucka or not. Makes a great gift for females of any age struggling with making smart choices in men and love.


Why Your Woman Won't Have Sex With You

 

Deborrah CooperRelated Links:

  • Follow me on Twitter
  • You Tube:
  • Facebook: Ask Ms. HeartBeat Fan Page
  • The Black Church (book) site
  • BlogTalkRadio: Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show
  • Examiner.Com : San Francisco Dating Advice Examiner
  • Surviving Dating.Com: Dating Tips and Advice for Mature Singles
  • AskHeartBeat.Com: Celebrating Black Love and Interracial Relationships