I am watcher. I sit back at lunch, on break, or in the mall and I just watch. It’s amazing what you see if you sit back in the cuts, as I like to call it and just watch. Even those close friends, family and associates. People close enough to you will no doubt show you who they are without saying a word. “Queen” Maya Anjelou said it best; If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain. You can learn a lot about a person just by watching and if you listen well you will learn even more about a person’s character, beliefs, and motives.

One thing that is prevalent is the despair that most are living in and walking in daily with the mask of victory triumph. But deep down inside, they don’t like anything about themselves nor do they like you, for whatever reason, be it true or false. Most of the conversations I hear are like this, back in the day this or that. Back in the day he or she did this or that. I used to be but rarely do I hear, I am. God gives us a choice to either lead or follow. You cannot put a comma where God has placed a period. The young woman and men have a false notion of, the good life. Some of our seasoned men and woman are stuck, in the past. I say to this, you cannot unscramble eggs. Let it go, move on, burn the t-shirt and shred the cd. Everyday I witness to many and in my speaking, I get the question ask, how do you keep smiling? why are you so upbeat with everything that’s going on? How do you keep the positive energy you show? One word, God. I too have been caught in the status quo, the mentality of lack, and the desperation of how will I make it. But, with those thoughts I also have the thought of Jesus Christ, the one who bore my sins and yours, who died for all of us so that we would not have too. Then He rose. God, plain and simple.

If its not working, change it. If it hurts, remove it. If it blocks you from your goal, turn around. You can do it and only you will do it, or it wont get done. Look ahead. Out of the mouth the heart speaks. If you speak defeat, you are. If you speak rage, you are. Stop it, step back and really look at the glass, is it half full or half empty??

You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it. – Maya Angelou