Posted 22 September 2011 - 06:56 AM
Who gives a shit anymore? Seriously.
Black men are not the only men in the world.
And the SLOWEST way to get a BM is by being a black female who
"looks" black advertising her unyielding loyalty, love & devotion.
I have 4 boyfriends right now. And I like it this way. I'm 42 and wish
I had done things this way long ago. 1 is Black American, 1 is African black,
1 is White and 1 is Latino.
I truly believe this is the way of the future and I'm writing a book about it.
This girl is probably really young. She has my sympathy.
Posted 22 September 2011 - 07:29 AM
The problem I have with the analysis, is that the comparions assumes all the women actually meet the criteria that have been used to eliminate the available men. In order words, it ignores that fact that there are also fat women, uneducated women, gay women, incarcerated women, etc.
The analysis also fails to consider that man of the men fall into multiple categories and as a result are double, triple, quadruple counted which greatly exaggerates the number of men eliminated from contention.
The are many problems with the data as presented.
Then of course there are the social ramifications of using flawed data, misinformation really, to promote an agenda which is not based in reality. If a woman finds it difficult to find a "good" Black man it will not be because of the reasons describe above.
Posted 22 September 2011 - 09:26 AM
besides, this question is way too broad, and we all know that broad questions can never be answered in any practical way. in fact, broad questions can be a really sneaky way of holding individuals back from looking at themselves. it's personal questions that are more useful... i.e., 'why do *you* want a man in your life?' and 'what do *you* have to offer a man?' etc.
and i'm also with troy: yes, this sounds like a young woman's question, and yes, "data" is useless in answering such a personal question.
and finally, troy, you've never known me to publicly entertain topics like this. WTF am i doing here? hmmmmmmmm... maybe i'm trying to procrastinate on a deadline... ? :-)
Posted 22 September 2011 - 09:47 AM
Don't get me wrong, I'm not shooting down data as a tool for understanding issues like this. My problem is with the way the data is used in this particular case.
Posted 23 September 2011 - 01:50 PM
If an informal survey was taken of single, childless, professional black women who are not obese, it wouldn't be surprising if they prefaced the requirements for their "Mr. Right" with the "in a perfect world" phrase. One reason they are single is because they have high standards. They want the "best case scenario" and the odds of this happening are, indeed, low...
I don't think black women are against dating outside their race, but once again they have to compete with white women for this pool, and the results could be discouraging.
Posted 23 September 2011 - 09:32 PM
Posted 24 September 2011 - 12:43 PM
As you suggest there are of course good men that are overweight, perhaps a child from a previous marriage, and recently laid off.
Of course some women might look for Brothers that are Christian or has some form of spiritual beliefs, and many other criteria that are not on the list above.
At the end of the day women (and men) need to have realistic expections of what another human being can and are capable of offering. Humans are all individuals and should be evaluated as such.
Using a laundry list like the one above, as the basis for your selection criteria for findling a "good man", will virtually guarantee that you rule out many of them.
Posted 24 September 2011 - 01:06 PM
Posted 25 September 2011 - 10:27 AM
I completely agree with what you wrote. Ignoring the analysis presented, what do you think about the validity of the premise: That there are very few eligible Black men for Black women?
Posted 26 September 2011 - 06:28 PM
Posted 27 September 2011 - 03:47 PM
"Chapter a Month" is a really big deal--those are major authors in that program.
I've become friends with Bernice McFadden (we're also on the same label). I believe she
has a continuing story on "A Chapter A Month."
Well...I can't wait to read your story and will be posting the link NEXT WEEK because I go
into the hospital the 29th for some routine brain tests (nothing serious).
Congrats. You've always been a brilliant mind on this board, that's for sure.
Posted 19 October 2011 - 03:05 PM
Read a review of Ralph Richard Bank's book Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone
Posted 20 October 2011 - 03:08 PM
Who gives a shit anymore? Seriously. Black men are not the only men in the world.
Good point. I agree. Black women are going to have to find and create their own happiness. If black men are that disgusting, weak, inept, undesirable, worthless, horrible, unaccomplished, unworthy, etc, etc, by all means, seek non-black men who are not. Unfortunately, life is not a rehearsal. You only get one shot and that is that....no second chances or re-takes. Do what you have to do and do yourself a favor -leave 'em the fuck alone! E'nuff said.......
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