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 \n\n\n\n IN AMENDMENT\n\n\n\n   \n\n\n\n Why The Disposable Black Girlfriend Is A Problem\n\n from  \n\n Princess Weekes\n\n https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VIDOUXna8EA\n\n\n\n   \n\n\n\n \n\n\n\n TRANSCRIPT\n\n  \n\n\n\n 0:00\nI am a pretty solid fan of the series the first season was incredible the\n0:05\nmemes were fantas tic and with there being so many different superhero deconstruction shows and adult animated\n0:11\nseries it managed to still feel fresh I will als o watch almost anything with JK\n0:18\nSimmons in it almost anything but t here was one aspect of the show I've always\n0:24\nstrongly disliked I hea rd you took a few on the chin for me again Invincible was originally a com ic book series by Robert\n0:31\nKirkman who also co-created and co-wrote T he Walking Dead it began publication in\n0:36\n2003 and lasted for 144 iss ues and 25 volumes ending in 2018 as the show has\n0:43\nbeen adapted for the animated am*zon Prime series Kirkman has admitted to rewriting certain parts of the series\n0:48\nand updating it the comics had a lot of very P eak 2000's humor gay jokes rward\n0:54\npoorly written female characters m essy depictions of sexual assault so with over a decade Plus distance chan ges were\n1:01\nmade and I think that's commendable I think that it's real ly cool to be able to know that your work can be updated\n1:06\nand then w hen you're given the opportunity to do so you take it Kirkman told radio t imes when we sit down with\n1:11\nthe source material if we feel like ever ything is working we just try to make sure that we uphold what existed in\ n1:17\nthe comics trying to put a Fresh coat of paint on it trying to expa nd things where we can expand them truncate things\n1:23\nwhere you feel l ike that's necessary following the finale for this past season a lot of at tention was made to\n1:28\nthe monologue that the character Conquest made that was not present in the original comic no one wants to be my\n1:34\nfr iend they think I am unstable [ __ ] me too when I write an episode I alwa ys go\n1:40\nthrough the comic and think about how I can make things more interesting because I'm writing myself I feel an extra\n1:46\nresponsibili ty if I'm going to write the same thing a second time I need to make it in teresting for me and hopefully make\n1:53\nit better for the audience one change that happened while\n1:59\nmaking the new series series was having the main character Mark Grayson also known as half Korean I think\n2:05\nr epresentation matters not to get on a soap box or anything especially in t he world of superheroes you didn't start\n2:11\ngetting nonwhite superhero es regularly until the 70s and even then through the\n2:16\n' 80s and '90s and 2000s they're still somewhat rare yeah but they don't tell them that they all think it's organic\n2:22\ndiversity there's nothing about his rac e that is essential to that character his race could literally be anything I think\n2:28\nbecause we were in that position we decided it'd be a resp onsible thing to do and a really cool thing to do and do\n2:35\nsomething with his race that was interesting in the animated series and that's why w e decided to go down that\n2:40\nroad down down down the road down the wit ches Road in the comics Mark and his\n2:46\nmother Debbie are very white-c oated and I did see the arguments about the our style being ambiguous but using just\n2:54\nkind of like media General literacy like we can inert th at they are white because that is the default in American comics\n3:00\nan d I think up until Mark was confirmed to be Korean in this I don't think a nyone would have doubted his whiteness\n3:05\nanyway Steven Yun is Korean and was cast as the voice actor for Mark and Sandra o voices his mother an d so visually they\n3:12\nwere changed to be more Korean in design the sho w however has never really given\n3:17\na lot of cultural markers for the characters beyond that not even the obligatory like no shoes in the house\ n3:22\nbut that's not my culture or background to critique it is just inte resting that I think the most explicit mention of\n3:29\nMark's non whiten ess recently was like Dr seismic calling him like token diversity which is like it's my old\n3:36\nfriend's token diversity and gender stereotype an other character whose race\n3:41\nwas changed was Amber in the comics Ambe r was a white character who is L show the difficulty of being the\n3:47\ng irlfriend of a superhero it's very like early Gwen Stacy Lana Lang except she\n3:52\ngets to live so in the adaptation they wanted to add a bit more layer to the character make her more fleshed out and\n3:58\nbecause she i s voiced by zaz beats she was turned from a white character to a\n4:03\nbl ack character and this as often happens with race bending is where the\n4: 10\ntrouble [Music] begins hi I am princess weeks if you\n4:17\nenjoyed th is video please like share and subscribe I talk about the intersections be tween pop culture and gender 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in\n6:33\nthis case is there for diversity she is there to be a foil to whomever the end game romance will be 50/50 she has\n6:41\nnatural hair and the character doesn't have to be poorly written but she is funda mentally a prop and is never a real\n6:48\ngenuine romantic Choice while I am being specific to black women in this Trope people of color in general can often be\n6:54\nwritten to fill this role I can think of many black m en who have served this\n6:59\nfunction oh my God you're Jimmy Olen the ph otographer from The Daily Planet but let's get back to Invincible even bef ore\n7:06\nI looked into the comics I felt like Eve was always intended to be endgame for Mark I always got the feeling that he\n7:13\nwas into Eve and that if she hadn't been daing Rex he'd probably have gone for her in t he first\n7:19\nplace and when Mark and Amber started dating at least for me it never felt like this was like his great one first\n7:26\nlove it alw ays felt like I'm going to watch him go through all of this just to get to his actual soulmate Eve who is\n7:34\nnon- derogatorily the like comic cl iche of overpowered busty redhead who can't\n7:40\nactually use all her po wers because then she would just break the format tragically boring but a friend of mine is working on a video about that and\n7:46\nthey'll cover t hat there but like yeah that undercurrent poisoned my entire experience of watching Amber Amber was\n7:52\nalready not liked by fans because she was seen to be the worst kind of thing a woman on a show like this can be\n7: 59\na hypocrite did you hear what I just said I know you're a superhero yo u know\n8:05\nyou you know I'm not an idiot I figured it out weeks ago oh she knew he was invincible the whole time oh does she\n8:12\nnot want him to save people why is she so mad about the goddamn soup kitchen\n8:17\nit' s not about the soup kitchen she's not really mad about the soup kitchen i t's about the whole lying thing but no\n8:24\none cares and I'll say this I think Amber was always going to fail with an audience because that kind of character\n8:31\nis always hated the CW arse hate boards are filled wit h angry comments about\n8:37\nwomen who don't understand why their partner is always ditching them and they don't understand the mission and their\n 8:43\nstruggle and their Journey like this happens all the time on Arrow d espite the fact that we the audience knew that\n8:50\nOliver cheated lied and kept personal stuff from his then partner Laurel in\n8:55\ntheir relat ionship including the fact that her sister who he cheated on Laurel with w as alive Laura was always framed\n9:01\nas the bad guy because her reactio n to being lied to was an endless patience\n9:08\nplus they already had li ke two cool girl side options on the roster for him anyway but people alre ady hate the kind\n9:14\nof character narrative Amber was a part of tie th at with a character who is opinionated and assertive and black mess\n9:22\ nand even when they do this as well as they can you are never really set u p to\n9:28\ntake the side of the person you were always made to feel like that woman is tripping it's already hard and then on\n9:34\ntop of it this is not an important long-term relationship it is meant to teach him a les son and it's a lesson\n9:41\nthat we have seen done all the time so that's annoying and then on top of it\n9:46\nbecause Amber is black we now have to experience racism and Amber is now the only female black character of n ote in\n9:53\nthe entire series as of right now and when I brought this up on Tik Tok there was a question of if Amber was always\n10:00\nmeant to b e sort of a disposable character as a love interest why does it matter if she's black or white why is\n10:07\nthis so of Merit that it has a name an d any relevance\n10:17\nwell I have another video coming up shortly about the tragic motto stereotype so I don't want to repeat\n10:23\nthings over and over again so for the sake of this video I need to accept a few things that I would hope you you\n10:29\nknow but here we go race is a construct but it matters in terms of society\n10:34\nbefore we had the concept of r ace as we know it now a lot of stereotypes about women men sex Etc was all nationalistic\n10:42\nif you look at something like genital herpes which has existed for as long as there have been humans in England they\n10:48\n call it the French disease in France they call it the napole disease you k now white on white violence very elegant um\n10:56\nwhich is why when peop le say they want European nationalism it's like the global impact of the t ransatlantic\n11:01\nslave trade and then later European colonialism did h elp refine race along\n11:07\ndifferent Norms than previously nationalisti c borders this is why even though there has always been slavery\n11:13\nim perialism Empire Etc we talk about this so much as having an impact becaus e we are still actively dealing with those\n11:20\nrepercussions today tha t's why we like oh whatever was over Savannah we know Savannah I hear\n11: 27\nyou but we have sociology that tells about how it infects us right now in Sabrina strings fearing the black body\n11:32\nshe explains the racial roots of European and American fat phobia in early parts of the book stri ngs\n11:38\ndiscusses beauty standards in the 14 and 1500s when the Portug uese started the slave trade major cities became more and\n11:45\nmore fam iliar with African women and therefore they became part of the regular con versations and trius on\n11:51\nbeauty African women were described as wel l proportioned and plump and consequently viewed as physically\n11:56\napp ealing yet the burgeoning discourse about African suggested that their pur ported distinctive facial features\n12:02\nmade them facially unattractive black women were further denigrated due to their surval status therefore despite\n12:09\nblack women's reputations as well-formed Beauties their pu rported African physiy\n12:14\nand status as slaves became the early basis of social distinctions between low\n12:20\nstatus African women and their High status European counterparts strings then explains that one of the b ig\n12:26\ncultural Transformations from African women being seen as physi cally appealing to a more hypersexualized way was the\n12:33\nexploitation of Sarah Bartman also known as the hot and tot Venus Bartman was an\n12:3 8\nAfrican woman who was part of an erotic freak Show in the 19th century she was a slave who was brought to places in\n12:44\nEurope where people e specially white men would gawk at her cartoonishly depicted large backside it was usually very\n12:51\nexaggerated and used to place the African fem ale body as Savage and primitive but also inherently sexual\n12:59\nthis r acial ftiz worked to do two things hypersexualize black bodies and establi sh their sexuality as something\n13:06\nthat did not belong to themselves but to white people in the public sphere when\n13:11\nwe think about the r ole of gender in this time under the patriarchy the ideal woman was meant to be an innocent\n13:17\ndomestic being and this was one way to remove bl ack women from Womanhood\n13:24\nculturally but then especially in the Ame ricas it was also done legally In\n13:30\n1855 the state of Missouri prose cuted a slave named Celia Celia murdered her master Robert Nome while he w as in the\n13:37\nprocess of sexually assaulting her something he allegedl y did to her since he purchased her as a teenager during\n13:42\nher trial her lawyer argued that the laws in missoury concerning ravishment include d enslaved women courts rejected\n13:49\nthat as IR rationale the enslaved could neither give nor refuse consent nor\n13:55\noffer reasonable resist ance yet they were criminally responsible and liable\n14:01\nthe slave was recognized as a reasoning subject who possessed intent and rationality so lely in the context of\n14:08\ncriminal liability as a result Celia was fo und guilty of murder and was hanged adding on to this Dynamic of black wom en\n14:15\nnot being able to be under the law while being subj to the hara ssment of their owners white women who were married to\n14:21\nthese slave owners possessed resentment towards black women for being their husband's Mistresses which could\n14:29\ncontains so much more agency than an the s lave woman would have Mary boyin chestn not known for her diaries about th e\n14:35\nCivil War and probably like the Confederate version of Lenny ref all said that slave women were the culprits\n14:40\nresponsible for their husband's downfall and forced decent white women to live with disgraced wh ite men and be\n14:47\nsurrounded by prostitutes I know sometimes when you 're asked why a Trope\n14:52\nexists and someone gives you this long histo rical answer it can be like really overwhelming because for many people\n1 4:58\nit's just not that serious ious they are viewing the experiences of these characters from show to show but to\n15:03\nunderstand what the Disp osable black woman is a problem you need to understand the social construc tion around the disposability of black women\n15:09\nin this country black women could be violently gang and the white men could brag about it and n othing would be done\n15:15\nit wasn't until the rap of Betty Jee Owens in 1959 that white men in the South were sent to jail for her and one\n15:23 \nof the men who was convicted was paroled tried to kill Owens murdered an other black woman and put her in a shallow\n15:29\ngrave this was 66 years ago the new Senate's median age is\n15:36\n64.7 years which is down from 65.3 the start of the previous Congress and let's\n15:42\nthink about this the transatlantic slave trade starts roughly around what people say is li ke\n15:48\n1526 the first significant case of a black woman getting legal justice for\n15:54\nher sexual assault happened in 1959 do you think that 433 years of seeing\n16:01\nblack women as sexual trinkets as disposable g oes away in 60 years or does\n16:09\nthat mentality evolve and translate i nto other ways that black women now are still spoken and treated sexually in the\n16:16\nmodern era especially when it comes to dating and relations hips especially when\n16:22\nyou have to watch dating shows Temptation Isl and is a humiliation\n16:30\nritual where women take men that have cheated on them and test them to see if they're done cheating at least that's\n16 :36\nwhat I got from the season that I watched they're all beautiful if yo u guys can take them you can have them\n16:42\nthey get 12 hot men and 12 hot women to serve as Temptations one of the couples\n16:47\non the show o n this latest season was Taylor and\n16:53\nTyler Taylor noted that Tyler' s type is Tiny and blonde but during the first\n16:58\nopportunity they ha ve to pick a date Tyler picks Courtney this beautiful sexy\n17:04\nblack w oman and the reaction was telling who do you think that he was\n17:09\ngoi ng to pick yellow dress that is his type to a tea to be honest I'm really proud of him at first I was like Taylor\n17:18\nwhat do you mean that it's really Brave of him that's weird however as the series progressed she clo cked that tea\n17:23\nbecause the girl that Taylor initially clocked as be ing someone that Tyler would have dated is who he hyper fixates\n17:30\non for the rest of the season Courtney this beautiful black woman was simply being used as a prop in this moment for\n17:37\nhim to say something abou t himself on national television and to stun on his ex let's talk about it so in that moment\n17:45\nin which Tyler chose me for the first\n17:51\nd ate the entire group of girls standing beside me gassed but their gas wasn 't in\n17:58\na happy gasp it was more in a disappointment gasp in her boo k The End\n18:04\nOf Love yeah she's back Sabrina strings quotes from B ho oks's 1992 essay eating\n18:12\nthe other while teaching at Yale I walked one bright spring day in the downtown area of New Haven and found\n18:18\n myself walking behind a group of very blonde very white jock type boys see mingly on aware of my presence these\n18:24\nyoung men talked about their plans to [ __ ] as many girls from other racial SL ethnic groups as they c ould catch before\n18:32\ngraduation they ran it down black girls were hig h on the list Native American girls hard to find Asian girls all\n18:39\nl umped into the same category deemed easier to entice were considered Prime targets talking about this overheard\n18:46\nconversation with my student s I found that it was commonly accepted that one shopped for sexual partne rs in the same\n18:52\nway one shopped for courses at Yale that raisin eth nicity was a serious category on which selections were B B to these\n18:59 \nyoung men and their buddies [ __ ] was a way to confront the other as we ll as a\n19:05\nway to make themselves over to leave behind white Innocent s and enter the world of experience as is often the case\n19:12\nin this S ociety they were confident that non-white people had more life experience were more worldly sensual and\n19:19\nsexual because they were different g etting a bit of the other in this case engaging in sexual encounters with\ n19:25\nnon-white females was considered a ritual of transcendence a movem ent out into the world of\n19:31\ndifference that would transform an accep table right of passage give me just\n19:37\nhalf a second what the [ __ ] black women are acceptable to have sex with and date but\n19:43\ntheir rol es as wives and mothers is not seen as prominent as them being sexual\n19: 49\nobjects it doesn't go away when the media attempts to craft characters who were once white into women of color in\n19:55\ngeneral it often happe ns with a lack of understanding of what changes about that character due t o those dynamics that to\n20:01\nbe a woman of color in the west carries a lot of sexual sociopolitical baggage that needs to be accounted for in\n2 0:07\nwriting characters if only to be aware of what tropes exist you don' t have to like reinvent the wheel but you should\n20:15\nknow a little bit about the women that you're going to be writing\n20:23\nabout the thing a bout this troop is that when it shows up in media it's like this\n20:28\nd eath by a thousand paper cuts because a lot of people are again viewing th is Dynamic solely from the perspective of\n20:34\nthe one show itself they 're not trying to automatically build connections it is a building block a nd usually from shows\n20:41\nthat want to be inclusive but they still put black characters in very cliche roles or they race Band characters and\n2 0:48\nignore race hoping that it will be received as a colorblind accompli shment Allah a Hamilton or a brandy Cinderella\n20:56\nthat ignores that t he stage in the Disney musical are almost most very organic moments for co lorby and casting at least a couple years ago and that\n21:03\nthey are sh ort content compared to a long television series one of the most\n21:08\nr ecent examples of this that really gets on my nerves has been the casting of the members of the House valan on House of\n21:16\nthe Dragon uh just s poilers for what's on the show no spoilers for the future just generic boo k wiing your lips are\n21:23\nmoving and you're complaining about somethin g that's winging this one's been killed six times\n21:29\nyou don't hear h im bitching about it in the book series H Valerian is one of the surviving houses along with the\n21:35\ntargaryens from old Valeria and they often have silver gold hair and purple eyes they've intermarried with the House\ n21:42\nTargaryen quite often and they even arrived in Westeros before the ir dragon flying kin for example Egon the conquer\n21:49\nand his Sister W ives had a father who was a Targaryen and a mother who was from house Valy rian actor Steve tucon\n21:56\nwas cast as Lord corus valy and his family has been portrayed as an interracial black family the problem I\n22:02\nha d with this casting was not the the cast themselves they're all really exc ellent the problem is that if you read Fire and Blood you know that Lor\n2 2:10\nand Lena were going to die so there is already that element now bein g added onto them as being these biracial black\n22:17\nvisibly characters who are like the in between spouses for Damon and rira in\n22:22\nthe sho w's defense they do try to make Lor a more complex gay man and I think tha t's really good but it's not that\n22:29\ngreat either and with Lena they completely admit Damon actively courting her mourning her trying to saved their\n22:37\nlife you know Lena and Rene's relationship which is also som ewhat sapply coded is completely ignored and\n22:43\nother than like when he's tripping balls there's no indication that Damon valued their marriage or their daughters which\n22:49\nis deeply [ __ ] annoying you know like even in the Next Generation Baya is engaged to Jace and yes they have spok en\n22:56\nto each other but these characters are super hardcore engaged a nd there is zero romantic attention given to them at all\n23:02\nit's like I know there's a war but his mother has room to kiss so why not he they m ade an entire house of characters\n23:10\nmixed race most of them are goin g to be characters that are not going to do anything relevant give them li ttle to no development on top of it and they have\n23:17\nframed it in a w ay where like the targaryens and the valyrians are visually racially\n23:2 3\ndistinct and in reality they wouldn't be because if you're going to say that house valaran is black\n23:28\nand house Taren is white and even whe n that combination happens you can have a blackl looking character like Ba ya who\n23:35\naccording to this is like 1/4 black if we're going to use p undit Square weird race science and they still look like\n23:42\nthat I'm just saying R could look like hi Berry if we're really going to keep it a bug 50 like there it doesn't really\n23:48\nmake that much sense they're j ust kind of hoping that we don't think about it and I find that to be a li ttle annoying\n23:54\ncuz I do enjoy the show but that racial Pol politics of it and and just kind of\n24:00\nlike putting them into all these space s while omitting actual black characters it it greates the nerves flipping onto\n24:07\nanother genre brierton which I'm only bringing up slightly c uz I can't talk about that franchise but other than\n24:13\nQueen Charlott e the series has yet to have a black woman at the center of a romance and we will see what happens in\n24:19\nthe next season CU they did do the who le um gender bent and I discussed this in a previous video but Marina that character\n24:26\nwas plucked from an entirely different book to be a fal se romantic rival in the relationship between Colin and Penelope\n24:32\nt hat became very racist and very racialized coded and if they keep the same element around for the book cannon\n24:39\nwith Eloise is going to be an issue again but I think my favorite example of this that really gets on my nerves is\n24:44\nthe originals which is the spin-off series of The Vampi re Diaries if your life would Chang to a\n24:51\nman you left you despite your devotion what choice would you have but\n24:56\nto break fre Elijah M ichael has two kinds of Love interests white brunettes\n25:02\nand black w omen and three of those white brunettes are pretty much the same person ok ay and I could go on and on\n25:08\nabout how that series totally played i n the face of every single black character on it but I won't today but it would be\n25:14\nexhausting to like have time to spend with alijah having these very deep intricate relationships with these black\n25:21\nwomen in his past only for them never to matter as much as his Precious Precious Ha ley they will constantly have these\n25:28\nthese men these white men havi ng sex having these intimate relationships with all these black women even like in the\n25:34\ncase of Elijah with one character AA who is like this really big epic relationship who does she get merked by\n25:45\n[Music] H aley played in our faces like the most\n25:52\nsuccessful relationship bet ween a Michaelson and a black person are it's it's oh my God it's\n25:58\n Freya and her and her girlfriend who's a werewolf who she tortured when th ey start who she tortured the whole time um\n26:06\num Marcel and Rebecca who are also related cuz they're like step aunt and step nephew Julie PL i s never going to\n26:12\nsee Heaven if if I go to heaven and Julie ple is there I'm leaving expeditiously it's not just women as I\n26:18\nsaid befo re you have Jamie James olon from Supergirl hail from Lost Girl dolls from her Robin from Buffy Finn from\n26:27\n[ __ ] star Wars oh my God my\n26: 33\nShayla my Shayla anyway now to address the\n26:40\ncounterargument tha t I can hear some people saying does this mean that every single ex-girlfr iend who is Black is\n26:47\nthis tro no no actually I think a really good example of this oddly is from the\n26:54\nshow you well hello there he wa s about this stalker\n27:00\nserial killer named Joe who attaches to a wom an in a very unhealthy way while giving some very intense voice over\n27:0 6\nevery season and in season 3 The Twist starts off as that he's interest ed in one woman at first but then that woman\n27:13\ndies and eventually h e ends up falling for this character named maranne who is played by iconic blazion tati Gabrielle\n27:20\nand she is treated with the exact same kin d of attention Vigor and intensity as Joe's other love interest she's also one\n27:28\nof them who doesn't die okay Joe Al Al\n27:34\nAlly Al no no impossible and there's actually another black girl who Joe does date in se ason one who is somewhat Adas\n27:41\nto this Trope but she is a never exp ected to be treated like a traditional love interest like it's very clear like what she that she's being\n27:48\nused in that sense and B not only d oes she survive but she left the relationship with such dignity that it\n2 7:54\nactually makes her a more memorable character despite being only in like I think two episodes you're\n28:01\ndumping me I'm not dumping you yo u're amazing I'm amazing but you kind of what\n28:07\ndon't want to do me anymore there's never a good time do not talk for a minute please oh she's going to slap\n28:13\nme my curling iron okay then that's it like the pro blem is not them breaking up\n28:19\nor the relationship not being endgame it's the framing the treating of them as a stepping stone to a better wid er\n28:27\nrelationship this this is why even though boy meet's world ende d with Shawn and Angela not being a couple them being\n28:32\nopen-ended e nough was already having the possibility of them getting back together esp ecially because this is a show with unrealistic romantic\n28:39\nexpectati ons only to then jump to the spin-off and make it so that Angela was marri ed to some random man hasn't had a\n28:44\nrelationship with the cor cast in years and returned to give Shawn her blessing\n28:49\nto marry a tiny b londe white woman so that he could be Sabrina Carpenter's father-in-law an d I love Sabrina\n28:55\nCarpenter now but that was very hard for me for s ome people that's one of the rare places where you saw a very white\n29:01 \nshow have a black woman Be Loved These Things Are deeply frustrating we have so\n29:06\nlittle representation and it's not that we needed to be pe rfect we would just want it to be done with like care and\n29:12\nconsider ation and concern from the beginning it shouldn't take you like three seas ons to finally figure out how\n29:19\nto style Anna joke properly as Starf ire you know like although it is Titans and everyone\n29:25\ndid look bust ed so in that case there is a a little a little bit of Grace to be had it' s deeply frustrating it's deeply\n29:31\nfrustrating to have such a rampan t whitewashing of certain characters of color and comics and moves and ada ptations but in the comics they can\n29:38\nbe turned into like whatever p rompt people need them to be it is frustrating that even when they're like the kindest\n29:44\nmost cam androll race B version of a character that t hey can be turned into a villain for being in the way of a\n29:49\nnon-exi stent gay ship it is deeply unserious to show a character dating and havin g deep relationships with a black\n29:56\nwoman all the time but then make every important screen time for a relationship with them be a white woman so we remain\n30:03\nconnected you and I in spite of everything that you have done and then to turn off the screen and then live in\n30:09\na socie ty that doesn't want to teach or acknowledge history or social context whe n you in habit and existence\n30:15\nconstantly being dictated by said\n30 :20\nrealities the Disposable black girlfriend is a frustrating Trope I th ink the reason why it's so difficult\n30:26\nis because it sits at this in tersection of sexism racism and bad writing especially that last one going back to\n30:33\nAmber from Invincible the fact is that female love intere st for superheroes often get caught in this Dynamic that if\n30:39\nthey a re not totally at the whim of the man they are villainized into someone un \n30:44\ntrustworthy who doesn't get the life you know add Racin to it and you end up in a situation like Iris West Allen on the\n30:51\nflash where the audience is so antagonized about the idea of Iris being\n30:57\nlike in important like the reaction to Iris saying We Are The Flash should be\n 31:03\nstudied how Candace pad was treated as a race band character is lik e literally like academic worthy I know that often\n31:10\nwhen you talk a bout issues of race people who are reactionary go to this idea of like oh you're teaching black women not to see themselves as lovable\n31:17\nby re peating this stuff and there is something to the fact that people are very quick to to weaponize statistics\n31:23\nabout black women's relationship s at the same time black women already know these things because they date \n31:28\nwe live in the world we know how we're hypersexualized we know ho w we're stigmatized it isn't new and for me just\n31:34\nthinking back to myself explaining that it was invented purposefully to reduce you might be a new experience and that's\n31:42\nwhy it's important to talk about it b ecause these things are not written in stone it doesn't mean it has to be this\n31:47\nway and for the record also before someone says it I'm also n ot saying that you need to date black women okay uh if\n31:53\nyou don't w ant the little taste of Africa get away from me okay you don't have to dat e black women and that's not what anyone is saying uh but it is worth\n31: 59\nexamining why you think of black women as an inferior pick same with l atino women or any kind of women it's not\n32:06\nabout changing your pref erence it's about examining your racism your\n32:11\ninternalized racism t hat's see how it's different you know my preference is Jin\n32:17\nWu from solo leveling and toi from jiujitsu Kaizen and somehow I manag to\n32:23\ nwake up every day and not treat other people like [ __ ] some at the midd le of the night I like I think about Andromeda\n32:30\nin Greek mythology Andromeda is the princess of Ethiopia and because her mother talks about\n 32:36\naphrod first mistake she is chained to a rock to be fed to a monste r like classic damsel and distress stuff Ethiopia as\n32:43\nfar as we kno w in the ancient world is probably around like Sudan ancient Nubia\n32:49\ nthe word allegedly means like burnt faces and again there was no Africa o r African identity at this point it was\n32:55\nvery tribal so you have An dromeda this princess this ultimate archetype of\n33:01\nDamsel in Distres s looking less like the classical images that we see of her in\n33:06\nthe text is is said to be a darker skinned woman and it's Ved between like Af rican Asian they don't really know how\n33:13\ngeography Works back then s o but we can we can say likely probably African right\n33:19\nthere's noth ing inherent about the way people have treated black women it is programmi ng and learn behavior and it can be unlearned it just has to be named\n33: 26\nand called out because black women CIS and trans have been taught to b e strong\n33:31\nin the face of every disrespect but the people who starte d that those who perpetuate it fixing it should be their\n33:39\nburdens t o carry we have always had this potential to be loved and we deserve to\n3 3:44\nhave it be seen on TV and if you're going to put black women in your shows put some goddamn respect on our\n33:52\nnames thank God for Castlev ania doct turn season 2\n33:59\nactually let me go rewatch that right now thanks for watching\n34:04\n[Music]\n34:28\nn [Music]\n34:59\nn [Music]\n3 5:22\n[Applause]\n35:28\nhe\n35:34\n[Music]\n36:02\nhe [Music] [Applause] 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