Mel Hopkins

12 minutes ago, Troy said:

because as I wrote, "I got it."  

But you don't know.   She may not even know.  She knows to avoid it but it maybe buried so deep - she's unaware

14 minutes ago, Troy said:

Don't you find that you can communicate with some people on some subjects more easily that with others.

No. But I do ask a lot of questions.  I gave birth to my three daughters - and I raised them...and even today, they'll say things that are amazing with a totally different spin on a subject than I would ever imagine.   I really do probe. I find sometimes people don't know their own answers until they're asked.  

I agree with you on being mindful the use of resources to remove the statues but at what cost should they remain?    For example, I don't think I've  heard of that monster (gynecologist) but in all my life I've never visited a white male OB-GYN... my three babies were even delivered by a black woman obgyn... If someone would have asked me why - I would've probably said I feel comfortable with a black woman doctor.  

BUT WHAT IF I had heard that horrific story in passing and buried it.   This is why I don't "write" verses for people - unless they're in a book.  I ask.  

I'm a firm believer that we give our energy to inanimate objects that should not have it.  Think about how much unwitting energy that monster doctor received simply because most people didn't know of his deeds yet walked by him everyday.   

Yes, those horrific symbols, sucking the life out of folks,  need to go.  #byefelicia to all of them.  

1 hour ago, Elva D. Green said:

Looks like it's not for me.

@Elva D. Green  of course, it is! where would society be without its optimists.  By the way, I'm the " pragmatic"  Pleased to meet you!   

On 8/22/2017 at 9:02 PM, Pioneer1 said:

You mentioned nothing about quality of life, health care, family relations, legal issue, and other factors of real success in society.

@Pioneer1  Seriously?  Why don't you do the work and find out these answers about 75 Percent of Black People who are already successful enough to NOT live in poverty.   I've provided evidence that  black people can and ARE doing better than expected and then you throw in your definition of success and tell me I mentioned nothing about what's on your mind.   I don't live in your world - I definitely have no clue what's on your mind. 

But this is exactly why NO ONE In my world deals in excuses.  

Ain't nobody got time for someone whose ratios of excuses to why they can't is out of proportion to solutions to how they can.   
 

And now I'm done with this conversation.  

Kappa Sweetheart here, So I might be biased. .But I'm so glad the Nupes have been with him since he took a stand to kneel.

On 8/25/2017 at 6:38 AM, Troy said:

the flag, like those statues only have the meaning we give it, and those meanings change, based upon the people.  Again, change the people and the meaning of the symbols change as well.

@Troy 

Exactly... and that's why it's important to probe. Yes, even your cousin, because to assume  is a cop out.  You denied her a chance to express why she believed what she did - and instead it seems you supplied your own internal conflict to her suffering.  

Further, do you really  believe there's something you or anyone can do to change another person?  

No one can change another person's belief or nature . Yes, you can provide a catalyst such as removing a statue or simply standing in place and being a beacon of LOVE in hopes that will change the person - but Change is an INSIDE JOB.   

 

@Troy

Surely, your cousin attached some other trauma to the American flag to deem it racist. She wasn’t enslaved under the American flag or confederate flag but the latter is the symbol of those who wanted the right to enslaved people to prop up their economy.   

In fact, from this story, it seems she avoided neighbors for whom Old Glory symbolized something different.  And I suspect, the American flag signaled her neighbors intent on doing harm

I have no sort of trauma attached to the American flag - other than one was given to my mother for her husband's ultimate sacrifice - 

Aside: Embracing any symbol, such as flag, is strange; especially when the focus should be on its principles instead.  

Also, Neither Del nor Cynique wrote that Jefferson wasn't trash.  They responded that the relationship between Jefferson and Hemings was nuanced.  From my POV, their statement doesn’t absolve Jefferson of anything.

And speaking of Jefferson and Washington, while either may have performed alleged treasonous acts against England; they were founders of the Union.  A statute of either would be more appropriate than one of Benedict Arnold.  So, a statue of someone such as Lee who fought against the union wouldn’t be welcomed here either.   I can see those in the confederate states remembering their war dead - but statues of the losing generals are disrespectful.  Imagine one of those mosque here in the U.S. erecting a statue of Osama bin Laden.  

We now know those statues are symbols that emboldened those filled with hate.  It's best they go.   

For whatever reason, however, there's a statue of George Washington in England’s Trafalgar Square. So maybe the Queen doesn’t hold a grudge.  Or America is still a colony. 

On 8/21/2017 at 7:30 PM, Cynique said:

We fans all crowded around the stage door, trying to get his autograph after one show.  I can't remember how it came about but somehow he got  my address and sent me a little note from Las Vegas with his autograph.

Wow, what a class act! I never missed a Jerry Lewis movie and now I feel like he was the man I thought he was behind the character.

On 8/21/2017 at 6:41 PM, Cynique said:

Sorry, i got carried away. 

@Cynique  I'm glad you did.  Thank you for sharing <3 

17 hours ago, Delano said:

Your beliefs effect how you see life, so if you persist with those beliefs perhaps the effect your afterlife .

@Del , this is my belief too - if consciousness survives - then it only stands to reason what we believe survives too.  In fact, when consciousness comes into question in tv/film dramas , this seems to be the trend as well. 

23 hours ago, Pioneer1 said:

Well if you have children you MUST have been nice to some man or men....lol.

Now are you going to answer my question:

Do you believe that the majority of Black people in the United States are NOT successful?

@Pioneer1,  You must be confusing nice with kind.  I'm kind to people but I'm never nice.    The etymology (origin) of Nice - is  not know , ignorant, stupid... while people may use it to mean Kind - I don't.   I don't waste time being stupid of ignorant of people's foolishness.  

As for your question, the majority of black people in the United States are successful  in every sense of the word.  

The majority (73%) of black people in the inner cities of America  and the majority (80%) of black people in the suburbs are living  above the poverty line.  

This means 20% of suburban black people and 27% of inner city black people are poor.   Source: The Atlantic

 

2 hours ago, Troy said:

 

As you can imagine, I perform all of the tasks above, and get by, so I think I understand what you mean by "need." I've been doing this 20 years--obviously I don't "need" a publicist.  I'm understanding you?  If that is what you are saying, I agree, but I sure can use use one ;-)

YES!!!  We're communicating now (sending and receiving)... but you do need-need a literary publicist, though  

Actually, you  really do need a staff!  MAN!!!

2 hours ago, Cynique said:

This man obviously has great business acumen  but there's nothing extraordinary or influential about his taking a stand.  

 

And he wasn't even the first man to leave the council.  

Tesla's Elon Musk left in June  because as he said,  "Climate Change is Real"....LOL

5 hours ago, Troy said:

Mel would you shave 500 square feet off your house in exchange for never having to lock the front door? That 500 square feet can go toward someone who is homeless. We can reduce crime by simply ensuring that people's basic needs are met.

@Troy, No, I wouldn't give 500 square of my house  to anyone because are people are full of sh*t.  I can't even trust them not to lie to themselves. 

  What I would do,  is what I have done every day of my life.   I DO NOT SUPPORT people, institutions or entities that ensure someone will be homeless, incarcerated or beat down .  To be candid.. If you can't tell by now, I don't support most bullsh*t thinking or bullsh*t activities that folks participate in that have an adverse effect on our society.  

I don't wait until its fashionable - I live my life in a way that people or other living things aren't crushed under the weight of my decisions.    Case in point, I've just learned about godaddy and their game-hunting CEO now I'm looking to extract myself from using their services.   Peter Thiel founder of paypal - isn't someone I want to do business with so now I'm looking for another company (oh wait I see that's going to take me a minute) ...  Those are the latest on my list - show me who you are and how you harm and you can forget about me supplying you anything.  

This is why I'm not impressed by anyone running around trying to take down monuments and undo what they participated in to build up  over the years.  Why do you think I spend so much of my time working for FREE with people who are helping themselves - because  I believe  in focusing on those who are looking to make a change.  If we don't like results society is handing us  just STOP PROPPING IT UP!  

2 hours ago, Troy said:

There are a few things to consider when looking at your traffic from Facebook; if you generally don't have a lot of traffic say less than a couple hundred unique visitors a day a day then Facebook might make up a more significant portion of your traffic. But if you have several thousand visitors a day the same level of traffic from Facebook is of no real consequence.

Yes, this appears to be the case with the majority of author websites.    They write books so why would their individual websites attract several thousand visitors a day?  If their websites were attracting several thousand visitors a day - why would they need AALBC?   This is the point I'm making... find out why they would need AALBC - determine how AALBC can remove the pain-point.  Facebook is providing them something they need.  

2 hours ago, Troy said:

In order to address this I have begun promoting a free service which allows authors to register a domain name and direct it to their AALBC profile page. I just got tired of people sending me links to their Facebook page or their Amazon profile page. Last week a couple of authors did this but I also noticed they had domain names registered that were not pointing anywhere so I offered to direct those domains to their aalbc profile, which is obviously better than going to some default Go Daddy page. Both authors immediately took advantage of the offer  so I made it an official service.

THIS!  Yes... You found  how to ease one of the pain-points!!!  

2 hours ago, Troy said:

However I do believe that a stronger aalbc would benefit the self-published author more than Facebook, who is about as powerful as you can get.

The self-published author with no audience is the one for your congregation - This is the group that is searching for a church home... You just have to prepare a sermon  to communicate to them, the services and support (a la carte ) they would get from aalbc.com as  if they were under a publishing house.      

1 hour ago, Troy said:

I disagree with the premise that if an author is not using AALBC then they don't need it. For example, I have never used the services of a publicist. However, that does not mean that I don't need one. I don't use one because I can't afford one.

@Troy, This means you don't  NEED a publicist.   No one has convinced you how it can be worth the expense. Since you've paid for other things on this that relate to this site it's  because you've made the connection between the value and your money.    

I wish for you MANY MANY MANY MORE!!! <3

23 minutes ago, Cynique said:

Thank you for bringing these quotes to my attention.  i find them very salient.  

 

I don't know.  I can't think of a good reason.  To ease a guilty conscience, I guess. 

@Cynique , thank you for sharing   I think I had a  similar for reaction. 

When I thought of what I wrote about compassion... I realized I'd gone searching for compassion  because I was mean to others. But at the same time, I have (or had) this need for people to like me.   But then I realized I'm hard on others because I'm so hard on myself.  I beat myself up for falling short of my personal goals.   

I got it twisted.  Whereas I thought I was learning compassion for others, it hit me that I needed to learn to be compassionate with myself.  I think that is the key to being naturally easy with others.    

20 minutes ago, Troy said:

We just don't care enough about each other to try very hard.

Exactly.   This is why I ask "WHY" should we care. If we don't care about each other now. "Or even try very hard to care"  What is the impetus to care.  And clearly pain and suffering  isn't enough.    It's not like we all don't know what you've mentioned already exist.  We've existed this way for the last  2, 017 years.  Probably more if I add in Before Common Era -  

But only the strong survive...

So while I read your words, and was almost tempted to put a like on it - my other side says there has to be a reason why we should care ...and pain and suffering ain't it.  We know there's  a lot of pain and suffering -and that hasn't moved us to do anything before?.  

So there has to be another reason to care...THE WHY is what I want to know.     

I have a feeling, though, it has nothing to do with equity or making people comfortable.  We've built and contributed to this society and we sure didn't care enough to make sure it wouldn't be one that crushes the spirit.   Sure there a lot people sitting in prison but they didn't just get rounded up one day like it was an internment camp.   Incarcerating a large number of society happens when no one cares.   I know one black man who isn't in there thanks to me... I don't run away from jury duty.  I get called regularly because I VOTE in every election. But I digress.  

We're at the precipice,  and now some are crying "we will not be replaced" while others are looking for "women to save them", while others are looking for "us to support each other."     I think the real reason "Why" is because there's a huge shift underway -and there's a lot of uncertainty, people are scared shitless and NOW they want support.   

On 8/16/2017 at 6:47 PM, Troy said:

Makes sense. In fact yesterday I started collecting email addressed for a author and publisher email list.

I hope you get enough responses. Then you'll be able to collect information on what authors really want and need.  

There are different stages and different needs for each of those stages in the business of writing.. It stands to reason if authors don't currently use the aalbc.com  platform ,as you mentioned, then they don't have the need to use  it...  

Therefore, the survey questions become  "As an author, WHY don't you use AALBC.com services... You can even provide reasons  +  other  as options.  I think you'll get a better understanding of where there's a disconnect.   And there's a disconnect, if like you said

On 8/16/2017 at 10:18 AM, Troy said:

Despite the site's enhancement and increased number of ,visitors and ability to reach readers, authors simply do not take of the platform. 

As for me, AALBC boost my name ranking on google but that ranking doesn't draw people to my website.    My links and features on website about aalbc - get visitors to my wordpress.org site "TheLeadStory.org "  but my referrals and traffic come from other sites such a baidu,  and tessgerritsen's website and a few other popular website where I've made comments.  

Now when I threw up a page on facebook - traffic to my website literally increased overnight.   I didn't even visit facebook - I just used the publicize feature on wordpress and it posted my blog posts in my feed.    If we are looking at marketing efficiency - I don't even have to connect to any other website but facebook to increase traffic to my personal platform. 

It's an active choice to  post my work on my aalbc profile as I would facebook but there's no traffic from my aalbc profile page post returning to my website... 

So If this is what other midlist nonbest-selling authors are experiencing too - then I can see why it's easier to have their books posted here, advertised here and let the readers peruse the page like a catalogue...but for authors to go further than advertising . It then eats away at a chunk of time we could be writing.   Best -selling authors don't need to participate here and the rest of us selling  a few books may be able to get better visibility elsewhere.  

 So this is why I mentioned find out WHY  "authors, simply don't take of the platform"

 

On 8/16/2017 at 9:30 PM, Pioneer1 said:

BTW.....
Don't think those little slick remarks about me exploiting people in my community are getting by me....lol.
I see you.

I might be nice and let it go once or twice, but keep on........

@Pioneer1 I made my statement.  How you respond is your business. Just like I mentioned about being average, the choice is always yours.     Oh, and I'm never nice. I don't waste my time on it.

3 hours ago, Troy said:

Black or white, male or female, we all should be doing a better job of supporting each other. 

@Troy , Why?   

On 8/16/2017 at 9:28 PM, Delano said:

Thanks for re-minding me.

 

 

You're welcome!

I'm mindful that not everyone has access to indoor plumbing and can take showers... but how awesome would it be to just take advantage of the next rain shower and/or storm. 

On 8/16/2017 at 4:41 PM, Cynique said:

I wish i could be a little less discriminating in my compassion.

@Cynique  ok this one got a me a bit... Since it's one of the virtue I thought I needed to work on (got up this morning and thought to myself I'm kind of mean so why fake it LOL)

So,  why do you believe you need feel sympathy?   

2 hours ago, Troy said:

Despite the site's enhancement and increased number of ,visitors and ability to reach readers, authors simply do not take of the platform. 

Poll authors regarding their professional and personal goals.  

Is it reader engagement?  Sales?  Market expansion? Introduction?   Once you get responses, you'll be able to promote AALBC features that will help them achieve those goals. 
 

Would you post it again

Not sure if this is relevant  but I was born in the north - but now live in the south... I spend my time in my own head. I participate in my family gatherings but my family lived up north before returning to georgia. I don't venture out to public gatherings here - unless its to observe.   One thing I noticed however when looking up "Chinese Zodiac"  Year of the tiger etc I learned that I should avoid the southwest