Right on Brother Troy, right on! Bad treatment of Cushite (Black) women in our community seems to be at an epidemic level. I do not know where it's all coming from but much of that disrespect seems to be coming from the sisters not respecting themselves (which by the way does not give any brother the right to disrespect any sister). Too many of our men and women take more pride in being a sexual toy than they do in academic achievements. Sexual prowess seems to trump self respect every time, in this current society.
Too many of our women no longer believe their sexuality is something to be protected but instead explored like Indiana Jones in Raiders of the Lost Arc.A large number of sister feel that they have to sex because it is expected of them or they'll lose out, they think it's their only way to hold on to a man they want. But that strategy never works as they repeat it over and over again-it always ends the same way. You can not hold on to a man through sex. Men hold on to women they feel are important to their life, sex they can get almost anywhere.
I have seen nicely dressed women clinging to guys who wear their pants below their waist, they're settling (dropping their standards). Many sisters who want a brother feel they need to settle to be with the "average" one of us.I think this is due to the large number of brothers; who are incarcerated, who are in the cemetary, who are adult-boys, and who are irresponsible (which is a sign of immaturity).
I have been blessed to have dated many high quality sisters, they had high standards. They refused to drop their standards so because I really wanted to date them I had to bring my standards up, and keep them up. God bless those sisters-those high standards have enriched my life to this day.