anonymous50 Posted March 8 Report Share Posted March 8 I know that this is a divisive issue in the African-American community and some might disagree with me. This post addresses colorism mostly in the dating arena. When the issue of colorism is addressed in dating, it usually centers around dark-skinned black men with light skinned black women. It has never been a secret in the black community that many dark-skinned black men, especially when they obtain money and status, prefer lighter skinned women. This is certainly nothing new. It has been going on for many, many years or decades. Celebrities of yesteryear such as Stepin Feichit and Nat King Cole to today's entertainers and athletes have had fair skinned trophy wives. Even civil rights icon Martin Luther King Jr. chose light skinned Coretta Scott to be his mate. This is because black men associate light skin with with money and position, which are all symbolic representations of whiteness. Whereas dark-skinned black women are associated with poverty and struggle. This has always been something that has always frustrated darker black women ; particularly, the ones that were looking to "level up" by seeking higher status black men. I remember back in the 80s seeing letters written to Essence and Ebony magazines complaining about the "redbones" of the day such as Vanessa L Williams, Jayne Kennedy, and Anna Marie Johnson of how they were preferred over darker women when it comes to men and roles. Today, there are You Tube anti colorist content creators such as Chrissie, Paris Milan, and I am Eloho who express the same sentiment with female celebrities such as Zendaya, Beyoncé, and Niki Minaj. Of course, many unions between light skinned women and dark skinned men are not solely based on love. His reason for being with her is, in many cases, out of phenotypical fetishization for the reasons that I described in the previous paragraph. Often, her reason for being with him is out of money and resources. The one party that is never really discussed in colorism debates are light skinned black men. I realize that we are all black whether we have light skinned, keen features, looser textured hair, or dark skin, Africoid features, and more tightly coiled hair. That is not the issue, at least not yet. The more and more bi-racial people demand their independence from the black category to "Other," it could be in the future. But, I don't really see that happening soon because the One-Drop rule is so embedded in he mindset of both blacks and whites in America. But, it is white people who decide and classify who you are since they have the power. But, I digress. I never hear MLS(multi racial light skinned) men complain about their women being taken from them by darker skinned men like I hear with dark-skinned women over fair skin women being with their men. From a ratio standpoint, dark skinned black men take light skinned women more so than vice versa because most black people are dark. Light skinned people are a minority in the community. Not very many interracial unions take place to produce mulattoes or blasians on a massive scale as most races prefer their own kind. Not all light skinned people bi-racial, but many are. Light skinned privilege applies mostly to women when it comes to dating, jobs, and roles in films , TV, and commercials. I am not saying that MLS men are at the same disadvantage as dark-skinned black women, but they are not as privileged as MLS women either. In the African-American community, light skinned black men are considered too soft for regular black women( since MLS men are frequently feminized by black culture), they are too black for white women(because of the One-Drop rule), and their women constantly get selected from them. Maybe, mixed/light skinned black men need to improve their masculinity and economic status by developing a blue chip mindset advocated by Red Pill content creator CoachGregAdams the same way darker skinned black women are subscribing femininity channels online and on You tube offered by people like Chrissie. Men are primarily judged by their social and economic status. Women are judged by their femininity and looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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