BLACK WOMEN,DOMESTIC VIOLENCE//

[harry brown]

FOOTBALL PLAYER   RAY   RICE  HIT   HIS  THEN  GIRL FRIEND AND  KNOCKED  HER  OUT/THERE  IS  A  VIDEO   SHOWING  HIM   STANDING,SHE  LYING  ON  FLOOR..HE  GETS  2  GAMES  SUSPENDED,PEOPLE  UPSET../THEN  HIS  GIRL  FRIEND  THAT  HE  KNOCKED  OUT  MARRIES  HIM/WHY///WHY  DO WOMEN  STAND  BY  THEIR  MEN  WHO  BEAT  THEM,   //THERE   PROBALY  BE  A  NEXT   TIME   SHE  GETS  BEAT..PEOPLE WANTS HIM  SUSPENED  MORE  THAN  2  GAMES, SHE   SUPPORTED  HIM/IS  IT  BECAUSE   SHE  WANTS  HIS    FOOTBALL MILLIONS  WITH   BALTIMORE   RAVENS..//STEPHEN  A SMITH,   UPSET    ON  ESPN   TALKING  LIKE  HE  DOES/A  VIDEO   OF  HIM     ARGUING    ABOUT  MEN   HITTING  WOMEN../////DOES   WOMEN  BELIEVE    THEY  WANT  GET  HIT  AGAIN/AFTER  THE  FIRST  TIME/// HOW  WAS  RAY  RICE  RAISED/IN A  DOMESTIC  VIOLENCE       HOUSE./////

[Cynique]

Why does any woman of any color stay with a man who beats her?  Some psychiatrists say certain women are masochists who enjoy the whole behavorial paradigm of pushing a man's buttons then suffering the retaliation of physical abuse.  In the ghetto there's a school of thought that beating you is a sign a man really cares about you.  There are all  kinds of weird rationales for these co-dependant relationships. Some people even look upon violent domestic quarrels as a foreplay for hot sex.  But the bottom line is that if a woman is not dysfunctional, she will not stay with a man who beats her.  She will find a way to leave. 

 

What I also find significant is that football player, Ray Rice, has not incurred the wrath of everyone. Whoopi Goldberg has come to his defense, saying that it's a natural instinct to hit somebody back when they hit you, so women should not start fights they can't finish. Many men, in fact, claim they are the victims of domestic violence perpetrated by aggressive women. The lines re blurred

 

Whatever. The longer I live, the more I am coming to the conclusion that there is the world as it is publically depicted and portrayed and articulated,  - an overt society influenced by people with agendas and ulterior motives and ethical concerns. Then there is the real world.  And the real world is made up of a lot of little worlds.  People function in the spheres of their personal lives, doing pretty much whatever they can get away, adhering to their own codes. What goes on in private relationships is based on those involved adapting to each other. What they put up with differs from couple to couple, depending on how much they want to stay together, for whatever reason. 

 

Likewise, in the family circle how children and parents interact varies from group to group, impacted by the personalities of the individuals involved and how good they are at manipulating each other.  In the corporate world, and political arena and international universe, leaders are jockeying for position,  all with the goal of projecting the respectible facades that hide the power mongering rogues they really are in private. It's all about appearances; about the divide between illusion and actuality

 

Obviously the culture of Homo Sapiens is chaotic and inconsistent, and the survival of the fittest does come into play.  Men have been physically abusing women dating back to the days of cave men dragging their mates by the hair.  Whether the female of the species decides to endure bouts of roughness depends on what's in it for her.  Everything else is just hot air.      

[Pioneer1]

For a long time there were certain "unspoken rules" in this (Western) society that governed the violence between males and females.

It was understood that a woman could beat on a man but a man wasn't allowed to hit a woman....unless she was his wife or daughter, then he could beat the shit out of her.

((shakes head))

Both rules were dysfunctional and unrealistic in my opion.

On top of this..............

For a long time the only reason chivalry existed and men behaved like gentleman was to charm women into having sex with them. Once sex became loose and easy....the chivalry went out the window.

Once it was understood that a man could be unemployed, on drugs, and routinely beat and call women bitches.....and still get all the sex he wants....it was a wrap.

The reality is few people male of female are going to sit up and let someone beat on them and not defend themselves or even go on the offense and attack back.

Everyone both male and female needs to understand this before they put their hands on someone else.

[Troy]

"Once it was understood that a man could be unemployed, on drugs, and routinely beat and call women bitches.....and still get all the sex he wants....it was a wrap."

 

Ain't that the truth.