Delano Posted July 27, 2018 Report Share Posted July 27, 2018 Cynique I agree with everthing except the last line. Proactive awareness would be the opposite of a defense mechanism. This is the psychological definition Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies that are unconsciously used to protect a person from anxiety arising from unacceptable thoughts or feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynique Posted July 27, 2018 Report Share Posted July 27, 2018 What is blind trust? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delano Posted July 28, 2018 Report Share Posted July 28, 2018 6 hours ago, Cynique said: What is blind trust? Not my speciality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pioneer1 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2018 Perhaps we may need to reconsider our definitions of "abuse". Abuse is literally AB-USE or misusing someone from their original intended purpose. Perhaps one of the problems we have in our community is attempting to take on Caucasian values and standards, we are calling that which is natural for human men to behave..."abuse".....and treating it as such when it's actually normal harmonious behavior. Now, raping and assaulting people outside of personal defense is CLEARLY abuse. But we should understand that most NORMAL men are very sexual as well as mildly aggressive that nature has designed it this way. Society may try to "breed" (sorry Troy....lol) this out of men in the name of "civilizing" them, but nature put hyper-sexuality and aggression in men for a good reason. So we can't look at all men who want sex and act in a dominant manner as "abusive" simply because modern society has taught this. For example, for years when I go out with women I make it a point to tell them what they CAN'T wear when they're out with me! I don't physically force them into what to wear, but I make it clear that if they wear the wrong thing....they ain't going anywhere we ME. They'll have to go by themselves or find someone else. Now some people may call that controlling, or even abusive.....but I still do it because I feel as a man who is incharge of defending this woman if she gets in trouble that I BETTER have some say-so over what she's wearing so as not to invite trouble. Chev You brought up a good point about the "dumb blonde" scenario. The thing I've noticed about Whie women is that most of them seem to have NO PROBLEM playing the game to get what they want out of a man, even it it means debasing and degrading themselves to inflate the ego of their mate. They'll play stupid, helpless, confused, ect....because they know that this will make White men feel stronger and smarter and just better about themselves. I'd be lying if I didn't say that in some ways this IS a little more attractive than for a woman to go the opposite way and act more hostile, defensive, and independant than she really is which tends to make the men in her life feel less needed and in many cases stupid and worthless. It may not seem fair that a stupid and weak woman would be seen as more attractive than a strong confident one, but opposites attract and if a man's nature is strength then he seeks the OPPOSITE of that to compliment himself. Del There are women that feel pressure to give a guy some of her takes her out for dinner. Then other women will go to dinner with a man they don't like for a free meal. There are women that will split the bill. And some that will pay either because they invited you or that's their thing. I used to hang out in New York night life. And I saw a few kept men and women both straight and homosexual. It appeared that the younger person was generally better looking more fit. That's a projection because it could be the younger person could have the money. I felt as though . you both got what the wanted or needed. And you know what? I don't have a problem with a woman who DOES go out and have sex with a man for a free meal OR a man who sleeps with a woman he doesn't find attractive simply for a place to stay. As long as they have the freedom to do so or resist, let people do what they do as long as they are getting what they want and/or need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delano Posted August 10, 2018 Report Share Posted August 10, 2018 Perhaps Pioneer but it's not much fun being dependent on someone else. However the dependcy may be mutual over different goodies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pioneer1 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 12, 2018 On 8/10/2018 at 7:09 PM, Delano said: Perhaps Pioneer but it's not much fun being dependent on someone else. However the dependcy may be mutual over different goodies. It's not much fun to you or I, but you'd be surprised at how much fun many so-called grown men would have just living off of someone else and allowing them to take on all the responsibilities. It's almost an epidemic on many urban communities where men in their 30s and 40s and 50s desire nothing more than a "sugar mamma" willing to take them in and feed them, cloth them, and let them lay around drinking and smoking weed all day. These men are USED to being dependent on others and have very little spirit or concept of IN-dependence. But when you talk of MUTUAL dependency, I think this makes for the best relationships. I've noticed that two independent people rarely for meaningful relationships and if they do they tend not to last long. Usually in a relationship one is has to depend on the other and the other knows it and takes advantage of it. But when you have TWO (or more) people depending on eachother and needing eachother it makes for a more fair relationship where one is careful NOT to exploit or mistreat the others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delano Posted August 13, 2018 Report Share Posted August 13, 2018 That could be or maybe being dependent eats your soul. Want maybe be less problematic relationship glue than need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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