most black men arent into white women

[misty]

I'm really starting to notice that most black men arent attracted to white women. i use to think the majority of black men prefer white women if given the chance but im starting to notice that the women who turn a majority of black mens heads tend to be black or latina or a dark skinned asian. my conclusion is black mens preference lies somewhere in the middle...light skinned black women and latinas but i even see plenty beautiful dark skinned sisters getting stared down by black men. i think black men jsut on average prefer brown to golden skin and wavy hair on women.

rarely do you see a black man staring down a white woman. the mall i work at its like white women arent even in existence to most black men...yet the media would have you beleive most black men would take a white woman over a black one any day.

Kola have you noticed this?

[Cynique]

The media is not who would have us believe most black men are into white women; black women are the ones who make this complaint.

Actually black men, like all men, are attracted to fione, well-stacked up women, whatever their color.

Whether these women can maintain the interest seems to be where the problem lies. It doesn't help that black men are spoiled because eligible ones are in short supply.

And, unfortunately, it's a constant struggle for sistas to shed the "attitude" that a long history of mistreatment has insulated them with.

[Xeon]

The media is not who would have us believe most black men are into white women; black women are the ones who make this complaint.

Actually black men, like all men, are attracted to fione, well-stacked up women, whatever their color.

Whether these women can maintain the interest seems to be where the problem lies. It doesn't help that black men are spoiled because eligible ones are in short supply.

And, unfortunately, it's a constant struggle for sistas to shed the "attitude" that a long history of mistreatment has insulated them with

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Thank you. That was brilliant Ms. Cynique. I agree. The media has nothing to do with it. The belief that all black men are obsessed with white women is a myth which was created (and still maintained), for the most part, by black women and white racists. Black men by nature (or culture, take your pick) are into curvaceous, big leg, bootylicious women with shoulder length (or longer) hair. This not the preference for every black man. But you will find that black men as a group, tend to attracted to women with the aforementioned physical characteristics -regardless of their skin color, ethnicity or race. Coco Austin, Buffy the Body, Beyonce, Anowa (The Nigerian Powerhouse) or Jennifer Lopez will never want for or lack attention from black men!

I think black men as a group, are very open and aggressive about this particular preference. And it must be noted that there are black men who will hook up with unshapely, overweight, obese, small, skinny to anaorexic and unattractive women -regardless of their skin complexion or race. For some convoluted reason, this fact seems to be overlooked or deliberately omitted from these race/sex problematic conversations. Also, the dating of non-black women by black men is generational and regional. You will see black men and non-black women of the post 1980 generation who openly date whomever they want. Even though blacks in the South generally tend to stay within their respective racial group, race and ethnicity is no longer a driving factor in the decisions/criteria for dating in West or Mid-West. I live in SoCal and I see black men with Latinas every single day. But 25 or 30 years ago – you did not see that…PERIOD! Now you do. And I often times see black women with white men which was extremely rare back in the day. No big thing today….

There are many reasons why people date people who are not of the same ethnicity or race. Some reasons are simple, others more complex. And probably much of it is simply unencumbered personal preference . But regardless, it’s an individual choice that does not have to be explained nor rationalized to anyone. In the year 2011, people simply do whatever they want regardless of antediluvian social and cultural taboos…….