Making ’Friends' with Lisa

Lisa Marie Diane Kudrow was born in Encino, California on July 30, 1963 to Nedra, a travel agent, and Lee, a physician specializing in headaches. Lisa came belatedly to acting, having focused more on athletics and academics both in high school and in college. She attended Vassar where she earned a BS in Psychobiology while playing tennis on the school's varsity team.

After graduating from college, she returned to the West Coast where she contemplated following in her father's footsteps. In fact, she was working as a medical researcher when her brother's best friend, the actor Jon Lovitz, suggested she consider showbiz and encouraged her to audition for the legendary improv comedy troupe ’The Groundlings.’

The brainy beauty was accepted into the ensemble and proceeded to hone her skills until she started landing bit roles on TV shows like Cheers, Newhart and Coach. Her big break came in 1992 when she was hired to portray Ursula Buffay, a recurring character on Mad about You.

A couple of years later, she parlayed that success into the role she will probably forever be associated with, namely, that of Phoebe Buffay, on Friends. During that landmark series' ten-year run, Lisa would win an Emmy and more nominations than any of her talented co-stars. Still, all three Friends' female cast members would make history by signing contracts paying them a record million dollars each per episode.

Meanwhile, Lisa's screen career heated up, too, in the wake of critical acclaim for memorable performances in everything from Analyze This to Romy and Michele's High Schoool Reunion to Wonderland. And on top of her acting accolades, she was named one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in the World by People Magazine. The following year, she gave birth to a son, Julian, the focus of her and her husband Michael's life.

Here, she talks about all of the above and more, and about her new film, Kabluey, a ’melan-comedy’ co-starring Scott Prendergast where she plays a frazzled mother raising a couple of kids alone while her National Guardsman husband is serving in Iraq.

The Kabluey Interview  with Kam Williams
 

KW: Hi Lisa, thanks for the time. I'm really honored to be speaking with you.

LK: Sure.

KW: I've got four pages of questions for you, some from fans who I'd alerted that I'd be interviewing you.

LK: Uh-oh.

KW: What interested you in this film and gave you the confidence to go with a first-time director like Scott Prendergast?

LK: Well, I've had good experiences with first-time directors, especially with director-writers, because they wrote it and know what the story is since they saw it as they were writing it. In Scott's case, I could tell from the script that he saw it as he was writing. There was nothing in there that made think, ’Gee, that would be impossible to shoot.’ And then I spoke with him on the phone and he wasn't crazy, but just a smart, funny guy. Also, it turned out by coincidence that we had mutual friends since he had been in The Groundlings program.

KW: Who else was at The Groundlings when you were there?

LK: Let's see, Julia Sweeney, Kathy Griffin, Heather Morgan, Tim Bagley, Patrick Bristow, Mindy Sterlling and Jennifer Coolidge were all there when I was in the company. And I remember voting on Will Ferrell and Cheri Oteri.

KW: I saw that you were recently at an event in support of the new G.I. Bill. Is that something you feel passionately about?

LK: I was there because it was just the right thing to do. It's crazy that there's been any hesitation in signing it.

KW: Kabluey touches on similar themes.

LK: One thing I liked about Scott's movie was that it wasn't really taking a stand on the war, except in that the National Guardsmen were the first to go, and they kept getting extended, and the people at home hadn’t signed up for military careers, none of them had. Meanwhile the benefits are being cut.

KW: Tell me a little about your character, one of those military wives left behind to care for two young kids all alone.

LK: Leslie, who I played, is not one of those extraordinary people who could cope. She's a regular person who had difficulty coping with something she wasn't prepared for. The movie doesn't make her a hero, really, but not everybody is extraordinary.

KW: I was pleasantly surprised by how different the movie was from Stop-Loss and those other heavy-handed dramas exploring similar issues.

LK: Right. No, it doesn't take a stand on the war. It's just that the war is so destructive of these people who aren’t really equipped to cope. The whole world that Scott created in Kabluey is a bunch of numb people who aren’t even listening to each other or even thinking two steps ahead. It's almost like a science fiction movie to me. They’re like Zombies.

KW: Even Scott's character inside the mascot costume somehow served as a metaphor for a sort of detachment, despite all the slapstick.

LK: Yeah, I liked that, too. And when I watched the movie my reaction was, ’Ooh! I'm like the drama.’ I'm in the drama portion of the movie.

KW: This is a movie which could have easily fallen apart, but you had the ability to combine the comedic and dramatic elements convincingly and seamlessly.

LK: That's really a testament to Scott. He wrote it and directed it. And it's a tricky movie. It's a comedy and a drama.

KW: Scott calls it a melan-comedy. Despite your being associated with comedy because of Friends, we can see from this film that you can do drama, too, and have an extraordinary emotional range. Which is your preference drama or comedy?

LK: I don't think I have a preference. I like doing both a lot. I do love comedy, especially these darker comedies. But when I'm doing anything, I often wonder whether I should turn on my version of what the comedy switch is, because it's always either on or off.

KW: It must be hard for you at times to hold back, given not only your tremendous success but your intelligence. People shouldn’t be fooled by any of the bimbos you've played. I know that you have a degree in Psychobiology. In fact I read that your nickname is ’Smart.’ Is that true?

LK: No, although in college someone did call me Einstein. But I think he was being sarcastic. [Laughs]

KW: After you graduated from Vassar, you returned to Los Angeles. Were you planning to follow in your father's footsteps?

LK: Yeah, though not exactly following in his footsteps. I planned to do graduate work to have a better understanding of brain chemistry and how it has evolved.

KW: Is it true that Jon Lovitz played a pivotal role in your altering those career plans?

LK: Yeah, he's my brother's best friend, so I grew up with Jon, and knew he was always studying acting. And after he finished college it was always exciting watching when he was a guest star on a show. Then, when I graduated, he got Saturday Night Live. That was really inspiring to me because I'd seen him struggling for so long. Before that, I always thought of the actors in movies as almost mystical, as if that never happened to regular people. So, John's success made realize, ’No, no, if you pursue it, then it's a possibility.’ He suggested that I go to The Groundlings, because he said that's where he learned the most useful stuff of all the acting schools he went to. So, I followed his advice.

KW: Had you studied acting before?

LK: No, not at all. In junior high, I wrote some sketches, but not in high school or college. I was pre-med.

KW: I read that you went to school with Daniel Pearl, the Wall Street Journal reporter who was beheaded by Muslim extremists in Pakistan just for being Jewish.

LK: Yeah, we went to the same junior high school, and a good friend of mine was very, very close to him.

KW: Did your family lose anyone in the Holocaust?

LK: Yeah.

KW: Were either of your parents survivors?

LK: No, my parents were both born here, but they were first-generation American. It's funny you should ask because we're currently producing a genealogy show called ’Who Do You Think You Are?’ which was a hit in Great Britain. Just yesterday, in fact, I was giving my family history to the producers, so they could start their research to see if there are enough documents to support a whole episode.

KW: Sounds interesting.

LK: But it's so strange that you would ask me that, because I was just thinking and talking about it again this morning. I was wondering, what would I do, if I learned that some of my relatives had been in concentration camps? I know that a lot of my family died over there, but not in concentration camps.

KW: How far back can you trace your lineage now?

LK: I don't know much more than my grandparents. It all stops there. To me it's fascinating when you start putting your ancestors' lives in historical context, and how that forced some big decisions that made the difference between surviving and not surviving. I like the idea of looking at a lot of the little things that I always took for granted which explain why I'm even here.

KW: Especially given what eventually happened in Europe. What will you do if it turns out some of your relatives were in concentration camps?

LK: As part of the show, I'd go visit the places.

KW: In the last ten years or so, there have been a number of powerful Holocaust documentaries, like Fighter in which a couple of 70 year-old survivors return to Europe to return to their roots while debating what Jews could have done to prevent the genocide.

LK: It's called Fighter? That sounds very good.

KW: It's excellent. Let me shift gears again and ask you how did it feel to be named one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in the World?

LK: Oh’ I guess I should just say, ’That was really nice!’ Except that’ [hesitates] Oh, never mind.

KW: No, go ahead. What were you going to say?

LK: Honestly, mostly what strikes you is, ’I'm not really one of the 50 Most Beautiful. It's just that I had a movie that did well.’ [Chuckles] Still, it's nice, if it brainwashes anyone into thinking it's true.

KW: I noticed that you're left-handed. They say that lefties are more creative. Do you think that might have led you to the Arts?

LK: I don't know. Are there a disproportionate number of left-handed people in the arts?

KW: I don't have any statistics, but that's what I've always heard.

LK: I think in certain fields, some of the extraordinary ones are left-handed. It always made me feel that lefties are special.

KW: You once said, ’You become a celebrity, not because of your work or what you do, but because you have no privacy. I've been careful to keep my life separate because it's important to me to have privacy and for my life not to be a marketing device for a movie or a TV show. It's worth more than that. I'm worth more than that.’ How have you managed to stay out of the tabloids?

LK: Oh, I just try to be as uninteresting as possible, even though in some ways it's not good business, in terms of show business, because this business does really insist that people get to see you. So, you need to go out, and you need to stay interesting. But I made a decision to be a little less interesting and to let the work I do stand on its own. Do you know what I mean? That’ll just have to be good enough because I have a family, and they have to be a priority. Whatever legacy I can hand over to my son has to be as a good parent more than anything else.

KW: That's admirable. But can you go to the supermarket or the mall or a movie theater?

LK: Yeah, I can go. People stop, and they look. And some might ask for a picture or for you to sign something, but that's as bad as it gets, in general, especially, L.A. But if you go to touristy places, then you become one of the attractions, because what are the odds of seeing Phoebe? But I understand that, so I do stay away from those places.

KW: After Friends, you created and starred-in a critically-acclaimed, but short-lived show called The Comeback, about a sitcom star trying to resuscitate her career. Was that difficult?

LK: Difficult? No. I thought the whole idea was hilarious. So, it was effortless. What I was making fun of was that notion that celebrity is a career, that it doesn't matter what you actually do, as long as you get your picture somewhere, that's success. It's worth it, even if you have to allow yourself to be followed around and humiliated. That was the joke.

KW: Where do you like to vacation?

LK: Well, we go to the south of France every summer because my husband's whole family is there. And that's beautiful.

KW: Do you miss Friends, and your friends from Friends?

LK: Yes I do.

KW: The Tasha Smith question: Are you ever afraid?

LK: Yeah, of different things.

 

KW: Bookworm Troy Johnson asks: What was the last book you read?

LK: I listen to books on tape. The last one was Barack Obama’s Dreams from My Father.

KW: ’Realtor to the Stars' Jimmy Bayan asks where in L.A. you live?

LK: Where in L.A.? L.A. [Laughs]

KW: Tell me a little about your upcoming films, like Hotel for Dogs.

LK: My son saw a preview of it, and he's excited. That's good, because that's kinda who I did it for. That's the only movie of mine he's old enough to see.

KW: And how about Powder Blue?

LK: It was great, because all my scenes were with Forest Whitaker, and he loves what he's doing. That always makes it easier.

KW: Do you want to say anything about Analyze This?

LK: Yeah, wasn't it good?

KW: Absolutely!

LK: I was lucky that I got to do it. That's how I feel about that movie.

KW: You worked with Damon Wayans on Marci X, and no matter who I speak to, they always tell me how great the Wayans Brothers are. Did you have that same experience?

LK: I can say the exact same thing. What a family! The best part about doing that movie was get to work with and talk with Damon Wayans, because he's just really smart. My son was really little at the time. We had just moved to New York and it was very hard on him. I was in a panic and working 17 hours a day on the movie, and Damon was very helpful and supportive. He had life experience from raising four kids, and his priorities were pretty clear. And he's really grounded about work, too.

KW: How did it feel to be the highest paid actress in the history of television at a million dollars an episode, along with your Friends co-stars?

LK: We were? Great!

KW: Will there be a Friends movie?

LK: Not that I know of. That's a rumor that I'm asked about by reporters only.

KW: Is there a question nobody ever asked you that you wish somebody would?

LK: Interesting. I've never thought about that’ No.

KW: How do you want to be remembered?

LK: Like I said, in terms of my family, as a good mother, as a good wife, as a good sister, a good daughter and a good friend. By the general public, I guess ’Yeah, she was funny.’ [Chuckles]

KW: Lisa, thanks again for the interview, and best of luck with both your family and career.

LK: Great! Thanks so much.
 

Related Links

Kabluey - Film Review by Kam Williams
http://reviews.aalbc.com/kabluey.htm