White Boy/Black Girl: What Our Differences Can Teach Us, One Honest Conversation at a Time
by Adaeze and Chad Brinkman

Adaeze and Chad—two different people, two different backgrounds—both brought a lot of baggage into their relationship. Adaeze, a black Nigerian American woman who has lived with racism and discrimination her entire life. Chad, a white man with a family from the South who mostly grew up in white spaces. Determined to learn to communicate honestly and effectively, they stepped into tough conversations about their differences. Walls came down and Adaeze and Chad discovered the trust and respect they could have in and for each other. White Boy/Black Girl is an open-handed invitation from Adaeze and Chad to learn:

• Why trying to be the “perfect” Black or white person can’t be the goal
• How to attempt to get it right when you’re terrified of getting it wrong
• What to do when you’re feeling uncomfortable, defensive, or misunderstood
• That repair is possible even when you’ve flat-out stepped in it
• The importance of surrendering our pain and prejudice to the redemptive work of Jesus

Adaeze and Chad provide a safe space for us to eavesdrop on some of the most vulnerable conversations they’ve had about their differences. Their candid and honest back and forth gives us common, usable language to meet each other where we’re at. The path to empathy and understanding isn’t easy—but they promise you, it’s always worth it.