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Right on Brother Troy, right on! Bad treatment of Cushite (Black) women in our community seems to be at an epidemic level. I do not know where it's all coming from but much of that disrespect seems to be coming from the sisters not respecting themselves (which by the way does not give any brother the right to disrespect any sister). Too many of our men and women take more pride in being a sexual toy than they do in academic achievements. Sexual prowess seems to trump self respect every time, in this current society. Too many of our women no longer believe their sexuality is something to be protected but instead explored like Indiana Jones in Raiders of the Lost Arc.A large number of sister feel that they have to sex because it is expected of them or they'll lose out, they think it's their only way to hold on to a man they want. But that strategy never works as they repeat it over and over again-it always ends the same way. You can not hold on to a man through sex. Men hold on to women they feel are important to their life, sex they can get almost anywhere. I have seen nicely dressed women clinging to guys who wear their pants below their waist, they're settling (dropping their standards). Many sisters who want a brother feel they need to settle to be with the "average" one of us.I think this is due to the large number of brothers; who are incarcerated, who are in the cemetary, who are adult-boys, and who are irresponsible (which is a sign of immaturity). I have been blessed to have dated many high quality sisters, they had high standards. They refused to drop their standards so because I really wanted to date them I had to bring my standards up, and keep them up. God bless those sisters-those high standards have enriched my life to this day.

As a people I think we need to develop more mentorship relationships between our adults and our youth. But let's not blame the young because the adults are supposed to lead the way.. It's an up hill battle due to all the non sense that is fed to our people's minds through movies, television, loose morals, etc. I wish marriage could instantly turn a "player" into a responsible man but that is not that case he has to be a resposible man already. I have found that brothers(actually all men in general) will do almost anything to attract the woman they want. I have seen brother pull their pants up to their waist because the sisters that they wanted to date said they didn't date guys who wore their pants low-brothers will go as far as you tolerate.Sisters you are the reason we wear the clothes we wear, wear the cologne we wear, drive the car we drive, and so on. If enough sisters told brothers that they are not going to get anything from them until they were sure that he was going to stay in place and make a serious effort to provide a secure future for both of them then you would see a lot more brothers change for the better. A large part of that has to be your demand (not asking) for respect of your body. Your are wonderful and precious and should be treated as such, not like you're good for only one thing. Your whole being is better than that sex is just a bonus. Europeans and Arabs invaded Africa over and over again to get the most precious jewel all of Cush had to offer-our women. Some of the answers to this question is in the documentary "Dark Girls".

I believe the issue of sex has to go deeper than just putting on a condom. I believe sisters should get a commitment before sex. Our women are beautiful people and should be treated with the utmost respect.Brothers should be willing to be responsible for the sister they want to have sex with.Sisters should respect themselves more. Sisters don't be a rest stop be the destination. If you're not his destination tell him to keep movin'. Ladies your private parts aren't a playground but a sacred place but in order to get respect from brothers you must respecr self first. Many brothers will wear a condom and then throw the sister away just like he did the condom.

As Marcus Garvey (a Christian) and Malcolm X (a Muslim) have taught us disunity in our community transends religion.Self hatred (which also manifests as disunity) is the reason why many "Black" Christians are so Eurocentric and why so many "Black" Muslims are Arabcentric. It is also the root cause behind so many of our people are blonding their hair, wearing their pants half way down, and useing their body as if it were an amusement park.

I think that is the usual thinking of that part of America, I'm not too concerned about Mitt thinks about anything.However I am very concerned with what we think of ourselves. We have regressed in our pride as a people. Look at our people blonding our hair, wearing our pants half way down and our embracing the N word. It is pass time for us to reclaim our dignity and pride as a people. Romney is a non issue if we resepect ourselves.

The vast majority of the "church" opposition that the President is getting is coming from Catholic Bishops, not that some Cushite (Black) religious leaders aren't against it. Most of the religious opposition is actually poltical opposition (Catholics and Evangelicals). It's not difficult to see through their thin mask-they want him out by any means necessary. The President is only making sure that womemn get the birth control they want by making sure it is offered to them but he is not forcing it upon them. If anyone rejects to women being offered birth control then they should inspire women not to need it, and while we're at it inspire the men too.

I think that is high time that we "Black" people free our minds of this Messiah mentality we hang on to. Too many of us are still looking for one of us to do for millions of us what millions of us should be doing for ourselves. Why do so many of us seem so dissappointed with Obama as if he was supposed to the perfect "Black"man? Are any of us perfect? Besides how well would any of us do in his seat? Remember the President of a country is supposed to look out for all the citizens of that country, even if they do not look like him. Considering all that has been thrown at him plus the lack of help gets even from the millions of us-yes I think I'll vote for him again. Maybe to just to tick-off the Tea Party.