Masculine American Women

[Pioneer1]

One of our rather more outspoken....lol...contributors, said in another discussion:

 

"The only people masculinizing black women are triflin' black men who have forced them to play the "father" role for the children they make and desert."

 

 

While that may SEEM to be a valid point on it's surface, I can't help but notice something when I meet women from other cultures.............

I've seen women from the Middle East and Afghanistan who grew up seeing all of the men of their village slaughtered, sometimes in front of them.
Very traumatic.
Yet these women still have kept their femininity.

There are MILLIONS of women in the Middle East, Asia, and Africa who have had to raise children without a man in the home but they still retain their femininity.

-Yet you don't see them walking around showing off their muscles.
-You don't see them getting tattoos all over their bodies.
-Their voices aren't deeper.
-You don't see videos of them balling up their fists and fighting at hamburger joints and family picnics or outside of gas stations.
-They aren't "turning" Lesbian and claiming they gave up on men.

No matter what they've gone through they still retain and maintain their femininity.
Which tells me that something is being done to the women HERE that is clearly making many of them more masculine than the women of other countries or cultures.

You can look at a lot of the little girls in school and how much they love fighting and talk about fighting to realize something is disturbingly wrong.
I don't recall girls fighting this much at school or on the street when I was a kid.


For decades we've talked about dead beat dads and why so many men have walked off from their own children and avoided their responsibilities.
In the vast majority of the cases I personally know of....it wasn't the children or being forced to take care of them that was the problem; it was the baby mammas and the inability to get along with THEM that was the issue.

Not saying the mothers were at fault for him abandoning her.
I'm saying THEY COULDN'T GET ALONG...regardless as to WHO was at fault.
So it wasn't the children, it was them being incompatible.

Now, on the flip side of that.....

I know more than a few Black men who had children by MULTIPLE American women and abandoned them and have little to do with their own children, yet got themselves foreign wives from other countries and not only stuck with those wives but had children with them and either raised or are raising those children!
I'm not talking about mail order brides!
I'm talking about women they said they met at school, at work, or on the street!
In a few cases, some these same brothers met foreign women WITH children who were not their own!  And married these women and helped them raised these children!

I'm going to say (type....lol) that again:

Some of the SAME Black men who had children by multiple women and abandoned THOSE women and children, actually met women from other countries WITH children and took on the responsibility not only of marriage but raising THOSE children as their own!

So perhaps the question would have to be....
What is it about SOME of our women here in America that is so frustrating or repulsive that a man would rather get with women from outside his own culture and raise HER children, rather than stick with the women of his own culture and raise his own children?


 

[aka Contrarian]

I aint readin all that crap. I don't agree  with your usual whining about black men  expecting from black women,  what black women don't get from black men.  Drone on.

[Pioneer1]

28 minutes ago, aka Contrarian said:

I aint readin all that crap.

....cuz you can't read.

[aka Contrarian]

20 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

....cuz you can't read.

Lol. Yes, I can. 

[Pioneer1]

ProfD

You wonder why I have a "soft spot" for Africans?

One of the reasons I'm so attracted to African women is because they exude natural femininity and shut down the disgraceful myth of the "strong masculine Black woman" that America has so celebrated for nearly 50 years.

Through out much of America's history, they only wanted White women to be the standard of delicacy and femininity.
They pushed the masculine role on to the Black woman, and many in our community actually embraced this nonsense.

But African women come to America and no matter what they've seen and been through back home, they STILL have light voices and are very feminine and act like women.

White men see this and many of them try to snatch them up and marry them.
I've seen so many White men actually get angry, offended, and even defensive with Black American men OVER African women!
Many of them act as if African women are THEIR women and Black men should stay away from them!

When a woman ACTS like a woman....she makes a man want to ACT like a man.

Now some will say, "A man shouldn't need a woman to make him act like a man....he should just naturally act like one".
While this is true, some men...many men...need to be primed or encouraged into doing so.
Whether they "should" or "shouldn't need this is a discussion unto itself, but the fact is many do....and if that's what it takes to force a generation of young men to get off their lazy ass and stop smoking the weed and get busy building....then that's what it takes!

Let's be glad there IS a solution to the problem and then apply it.