Pioneer1

Apparently you got KICKED OUT of the "academy" a few years ago. Which explains why you eventually came BACK to AALBC after your lengthy hiatus....lol.

I bet you're an EXPERT at "self examination"....lol. Especially since you drove the last man away who used to take you shopping a few years ago.

also starring..... We all know and love her as Thelma Evans from Good Times "Ma, I'm confused about something? I THOUGHT I flushed it down the toilet! You ever heard of a TURD crawling out, growing legs, and walkin' around the ghetto???" And her lovely photos as Jet Beauty in 1975! Introducing..... BERNADETTE STANIS as BABY GIRL "Oooooh Big Mamma! You think you slick, with all them beehives 'n shit hangin' outside! But Dolemite go throw a FIT if he find out you been pushin' smack out of one of his Ho' Houses! Better hope he don't find out!" "He AIN'T go find out! Cuz ain't nobody go TELL him! Now git yo' nosy ass back upstairs and make yo' mamma some mo' money! 'Fo I put you back out on Central Avenue and make you work your way BACK up. Lil' jive ass nothin' ass ho!"

For somebody who doesn't care about me, you sure did use "you" a lot in this recent post. My previous post was much longer than yours and I think I only mentioned "you" once....lol.

The ground only shakes when YOU come dancing through....lol. "If she makes the ground shake like that dancing BARE FOOT! .....I'm bettin' a pair of high heels would probably break the RICHTER SCALE!" ....lol.

ProfD You wonder why I have a "soft spot" for Africans? One of the reasons I'm so attracted to African women is because they exude natural femininity and shut down the disgraceful myth of the "strong masculine Black woman" that America has so celebrated for nearly 50 years. Through out much of America's history, they only wanted White women to be the standard of delicacy and femininity. They pushed the masculine role on to the Black woman, and many in our community actually embraced this nonsense. But African women come to America and no matter what they've seen and been through back home, they STILL have light voices and are very feminine and act like women. White men see this and many of them try to snatch them up and marry them. I've seen so many White men actually get angry, offended, and even defensive with Black American men OVER African women! Many of them act as if African women are THEIR women and Black men should stay away from them! When a woman ACTS like a woman....she makes a man want to ACT like a man. Now some will say, "A man shouldn't need a woman to make him act like a man....he should just naturally act like one". While this is true, some men...many men...need to be primed or encouraged into doing so. Whether they "should" or "shouldn't need this is a discussion unto itself, but the fact is many do....and if that's what it takes to force a generation of young men to get off their lazy ass and stop smoking the weed and get busy building....then that's what it takes! Let's be glad there IS a solution to the problem and then apply it.

You're correct to say " in other words".....because those words are OTHER than my own...lol. I didn't say this. I made my position crystal clear.

1. How are they "getting away" with something THEY usually don't initiate nor do they usually enjoy personally. I understand that much of the sexual contact between White men and Black women aren't forced or rape. I'm saying that White men tend to like and enjoy the very act itself far more than Black women do, who are usually doing it out of some sort of economic gain. 2. You don't know WHAT kind of harm it's doing to the community short term or long term for so many Black women to freely have sexual relationships with White men under this system. Many Black women will CLAIM the man they're with loves her, but slowly he starts introducing all kinds of freakish sexual themes into the relationship that goes against everything she was raised to value...and she accepts it. Then he starts being racist and talking racists...first about OTHER Black folks....then to her ABOUT her....and she accepts that too. Behaviors like this are common among Black women who involve themselves into relationships with White men. They may start off nice, sweet, and respectful but devolve into something grotesque and demonic. It reminds me of that movie Monster's Ball where Halle Berry ends up having sex with the same White man who is responsible for the death of her husband and son! "Go ahead...I'm listening. What else did they do???"

It's not hypocrisy....it's simply a clear Double Standard. It's far more dangerous to themselves and the community for Black women to go around hopping in the bed with White men, than for Black men to do it with White women.

How about this: Social Media IS a Religion Neely Fuller Jr. said that a "religion" is a strong belief backed up by action. Religion isn't necessarily what you CALL yourself or were born into. It's what you believe strongly AND do on a routine and regular basis. Many Italians may claim to be Catholic by the Mafia is their religion. Many Arabs may claim Islam but fighting and making war is their religion. Many people may claim to be Christian but racism is their religion. Likewise.... If you spend over 80% of your waking life on social media either publishing or watching and feel depressed when you don't have access to it, social media IS your religion.

....cuz you can't read.

I don't want a society where women are second class citizens or not even considered citizens at all and are subordinate to men. I actually want a society where men and women are equal in rights, however the women are so feminine that they NATURALLY are less aggressive and less assertive than men so there is no need or desire for most men to try to "force" this on them. If you have to FORCE this on somebody, that means it's often unnatural for them to do.

aka Contrarian Watta crock. The only people masculinizing black women are triflin' black men who have forced them to play the "father" role for the children they make and desert. Was Cynthia knocked up by a triflin' Black man and abandoned? Was SHE forced to play "father" for a bunch of little kids? There are women in middle east and Afghanistan who grew up seeing all of the men of their village slaughtered. There are MILLIONS of women in the Middle East, Asia, and Africa who have had to raise children without a man in the home but they still retain their femininity. You don't see them walking around showing off their muscles. You don't see them getting tattoos all over their bodies. You don't see their voices getting deeper or them acting more aggressive or violent. Something is being done to the women HERE that is making them clearly more masculine than the women of other countries or cultures. Maybe the question is what is it about SOME women in America that is so unattractive and repulsive that would make a man want to leave them AND even any children they had with them, rather than do the instinctive thing and stay around.

One of our rather more outspoken....lol...contributors, said in another discussion: "The only people masculinizing black women are triflin' black men who have forced them to play the "father" role for the children they make and desert." While that may SEEM to be a valid point on it's surface, I can't help but notice something when I meet women from other cultures............. I've seen women from the Middle East and Afghanistan who grew up seeing all of the men of their village slaughtered, sometimes in front of them. Very traumatic. Yet these women still have kept their femininity. There are MILLIONS of women in the Middle East, Asia, and Africa who have had to raise children without a man in the home but they still retain their femininity. -Yet you don't see them walking around showing off their muscles. -You don't see them getting tattoos all over their bodies. -Their voices aren't deeper. -You don't see videos of them balling up their fists and fighting at hamburger joints and family picnics or outside of gas stations. -They aren't "turning" Lesbian and claiming they gave up on men. No matter what they've gone through they still retain and maintain their femininity. Which tells me that something is being done to the women HERE that is clearly making many of them more masculine than the women of other countries or cultures. You can look at a lot of the little girls in school and how much they love fighting and talk about fighting to realize something is disturbingly wrong. I don't recall girls fighting this much at school or on the street when I was a kid. For decades we've talked about dead beat dads and why so many men have walked off from their own children and avoided their responsibilities. In the vast majority of the cases I personally know of....it wasn't the children or being forced to take care of them that was the problem; it was the baby mammas and the inability to get along with THEM that was the issue. Not saying the mothers were at fault for him abandoning her. I'm saying THEY COULDN'T GET ALONG...regardless as to WHO was at fault. So it wasn't the children, it was them being incompatible. Now, on the flip side of that..... I know more than a few Black men who had children by MULTIPLE American women and abandoned them and have little to do with their own children, yet got themselves foreign wives from other countries and not only stuck with those wives but had children with them and either raised or are raising those children! I'm not talking about mail order brides! I'm talking about women they said they met at school, at work, or on the street! In a few cases, some these same brothers met foreign women WITH children who were not their own! And married these women and helped them raised these children! I'm going to say (type....lol) that again: Some of the SAME Black men who had children by multiple women and abandoned THOSE women and children, actually met women from other countries WITH children and took on the responsibility not only of marriage but raising THOSE children as their own! So perhaps the question would have to be.... What is it about SOME of our women here in America that is so frustrating or repulsive that a man would rather get with women from outside his own culture and raise HER children, rather than stick with the women of his own culture and raise his own children?

I don't know what kind of relationship he had with his White wife. They may have had an "open" relationship where she knew and allowed for him to cheat, I don't know one way or the other. It's not a matter of empathizing with or having sympathy for him, it's about the double standard that this society in general has for powerful Black men and powerful White men. If this Black man was married to a Black woman and cheated on her with a Black woman who worked there, the University probably would have never fired him. Even if he had broke into the woman's house later and threatened to kill her or himself with a knife, it probably would have barely made headlines. But the firing AND the publicity is done strategically to "scare" Black men away from sexual relationships with White women by publicly humiliating him. I won't call it a lynching but I will call it a public humiliation done for racist puposes.