Well, Troy, I’ll preface my observations with the caveat that I am neither a sociogist nor an anthropologist, but am an interested observer who has lived through several eras of the black experience. What follows are strictly my personal conclusions.
In response to your question, I would start off by referring to that old “poor but proud” designation, the implication of which is just because people are poor does not mean that they have no sense of pride in being respectable. Back in the day, most urban black people were on the fringes of poverty and, as a result, millions of them flocked to the affordable living provided by the housing projects which had sprung up all over the country. Many occupants of these low income conclaves, however, turned out to be those who gave rise to the growth of a black middleclass, - achievers who originally came from the projects but who because of their family values and work ethics and the new opportunities being provided by the concurrent civil rights movement, were able to escape their deprivation and become affluent enough to be “from” the Projects instead of “in” the Projects.
What the exodus of the upwardly mobile left behind in public residences were those who, for whatever reason, could not or would not do for themselves, folks that settled into an existence that made them dependent on collecting welfare. If having no father in the home was what guaranteed financial assitance for mothers and their dependant children, then so be it.
Added to all of this was how society at large was changing, its rules being challenged by the emergence of a free-spirited counter culture shaking up the status quo. The entertainment media, in particular, contributed to the liberation from America’s Puritanism. And because the high visibility of Celebs cast them as role models, they set the pace by taking the stigma out of questionable behavior, something their fame and fortune allowed them to do without being ostracized.. Marriage was deemed irrelevant (unless it involved same-sex couples) shacking up, and out-of-wedlock births was no big deal as the U.S. became a nation of people doing their own thing. And because they’d become very adept at manipulating The System, welfare recipients seemingly figured that they might as well emulate the celebrities as long as the government was subsidizing their lifestyle.
So, the ghettos became enclaves bursting at the seams with an overload of fatherless children whose unmarried mothers ended up having a problem raising them alone. And if the male children spawned by this situation managed to survive the hazards of their environment, they invariably grew up to be poor marriage material. Consequently, a fretting generation of single black career women with ticking biological clocks, were left with nothing to do but consider their options about motherhood. So you are correct, Troy, in saying that many women do choose single parenthood - and thrive. Is making this decision the best case scenario? Don’t ask me. I’m just a spectator