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  1. Yes, that's your calling. Your quest stands a good chance of resonating with black folk because we are a spiritual people with well developed instincts who should probably liberate ourselves from religion and focus more on a pantheistic mental discipline. I wish you well. You know.
  2. @DelOK, my question has to do with some dental work i am contemplating, hesitating to have it done because of my age, wondering if it would be worth the high cost since i could croak at any time and all of the expensive reconstruction would go up in flames when i'm cremated. Also, one of the things on my bucket list is to get my nose pierced. Should I?
  3. @Pioneer1 Again, you don't know what the hell you're talking about. Don't try and tell me what my feelings are about white or black men. You have neither the insight nor the knowledge to deconstruct my sentiments. You fancy yourself some kind of a guru but as Mel so aptly implied, you are a captive of your imagination, and one of things you imagine is that you know far more than you actually do. White men have never played a significant role in my personal life. And i've rarely interacted with them outside the work place, where my relationship with them was casual. it's not like i was daily rubbing shoulders with powerful, kind, white men who were bedazzling me. You can't seem to get past what you, yourself, believe, and that's that all white men are so powerful that all black women are in awe of them. Not so. There are just as many ordinary white men as there are black ones. Something you can't keep in mind because your brain is like a sieve. When i worked at the post office, the black Superintendent of Mails, judiciously exerted his power over the white letter carriers. He was a smart, dynamic fine black man of whom there are many. i've met a few of them in my day and appreciated them to no end. There's nothing more appealing to me, than a brilliant black man - even if he isn't powerful. And he doesn't even have to be kind, as long as he's not cruel. So go somewhere and sit your pitiful ass down. You're full of BS and can't see past your nose.
  4. I should've also said that i think this "old wisdom" is stored in everybody's brain; it just has to awakened. No, i don't talk with other people about this or try to advise them. i let them find their own path. i don't even like to verbalize it. I prefer to just go with the flow and look with a third eye and hear with another ear.
  5. You don't remember me saying anything about "loving" powerful kind white men either because i didn't include the word "loving"; that's your sneaky insertion. And i don't think any of the people who you claimed didn't endorse what you said i said, would have a problem with appreciating a human being whose power didn't prevent him from being kind, which is what i actually said. Now that statement from you explains a lot....... Given your mild, civil, and somewhat pleasant experiences with them, I'm not suprised as to why YOU could appreciate a "strong powerful White man who is kind" . You obviously don't have the same concerns, angst, and apprehensiveness towards Caucasian authority that many Black men have because you haven't gone through what Black men have gone through with them. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ @Pioneer1 i also noted that i may be more typical than some of you think, which is why black unity tends to be elusive. Not every black man has been beaten down by whites and black women. Such victimization has been played up by the media and by black organizations with agendas. Millions of law abiding, gainfully employed black men who are married to black women and lucky enough to not have been caught driving while black have been able to fly under the radar and don't fit your description. You choose to ignore those slick, smart black men who have been able to successfully navigate their way through a racist society because they are above average, something you don't give them credit for because you apparently can't identify with them.
  6. i'm not an avid fan of EMPIRE. It's just a show about show business. It has drama, comedy, and music. The homosexual aspect is marginalized in its plot because homosexuality is not unusual, especially in the entertainment industry. Homosexuality is simply a brain-wired sexual orientation, an anomaly that has always been around and it's not going away. i take it in my stride, and people do have a choice when it comes to watching shows that have gay characters. Furthermore, homo-sexuality exists across the board among all races so i don't buy it as being something that whites are seeking to use as a spell to cast over black men via the media. Paranoia is rampant in the black community. i don't think white people have to plot against any rich and famous black man seeking to acquire a piece of the action. They just have to wait for these celebs to commit stupid acts of sexual misconduct for which they are easily found guilty. Then all the "white powers-that-be" have to do, is sit back and leave black folks to exist in a perpetual state of suspicion about conspiracies that gnaw away at their minds. The crimes for which innocent black men are found guilty exacerbate this black mindset because African Americans can't relinquish their high expectations from a country they can't stop loving.
  7. Everything Ms Bey wrote is familiar to me. Not because of something i have previously read. But something i have always known because it was inherent in my psyche, - a 6th sense just waiting to be realized, interpreted and applied. As a "star child", the "as above, so below" principle has also been an appoach taken by me when it came to my aspirations 🤩
  8. I've never identified as anything other than a member of a non white minority who was born and raised in this country, so marrying a man who was of the same category as me was a given and no big deal. BTW, I did forget to mention that i was told i had blue eyes when i was born, as do a lot of babies at birth. a temporary condition that changes during infancy. ( Eye color has a lot to do with body chemistry.) i got my fantasies about my RH negative blood from several sources, one being a documentary that explored the idea of this unusual blood type being alien in origin. But, of course, no proof exists for this hypothesis. i don't want to make this subject all about me, but i would like to clear up what may be some misconceptions. I have never been someone who ran behind white folks and sucked up to them, and as an individual, my personal policy has always been to treat them whatever way they treated me, which, as it turned out, has always been with civility. But i have actually never had a white friend; they've all been acquaintances and I am not really compatible with the white vibe. I am, instead, permeated with the essence of blackness that has been defined as soul. Nor have i ever been color-struck. I've always valued intellect and wit above skin tone. i have, however, been the target of people who had a problem with my light skin. So, it's not that i reject my African roots, it's just that i put them on the same level as all my other blood lines that contribute to the hybrid creature who is me. My genesis began on the shores of this country centuries ago. Even so, i have no great love for America. i think it's a big lie, - a land that has not kept its promises. i also think i am more typical than some realize. Every black person has a personal history that makes her/him unique, which is perhaps why black unity has never coalesced. This post has obviously triggered something in me, prompting me to do some self-examination at the expense of what might be called a captive audience. Sorry about that. Didn't mean to hi-jack the tread. Thanks for the further information about the Black Foot/Feet tribes, Chevdove. i guess i'll never know for sure about my grandmother, but i do know she did belong to a breed of native Americans. How cool is that?
  9. Jussie appeared in court yesterday, here in Chicago, and entered a "not guilty" plea. I'm thinking he and his lawyers are going to fight this case, in an attempt to completely clear his name because reasonable doubt is creeping into the situation. The dumb-assed Chicago police, who did a 360 degree turn on the case, are so anxious to prove that they are not being racist they have gone overboard in their attempts to prove Jussie totally to blame. This may very well backfire on them because a lot of their evidence is circumstantial. i don't trust those Nigerian brothers, and am very unimpressed by their lawyer a young white woman who when she was first assigned to the case referred to them as "her boys". The immensely popular show EMPIRE premiered its new season on Wednesday and jussie will be appearing in it on up to the last 2 episodes which were being filmed during the time he was under suspicion, and the producers have written him out of the show for now. We shall see. I've heard the LGBT community is keeping its distance from this situation because they don't know who to believe. The black community seems to withholding judgment, too, and if Jussie is found guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, he will have done great damage to both of these segments.
  10. @Pioneer1You are really grasping at straws. It should've gone without saying that you were excluded from appreciating powerful white men who are kind because it's obvious you can't bring yourself to appreciate good character in a human being. That's how flawed your character is. And i hope you will continue to be offended by my not addressing Nubian Fellow the way you want me to. You don't tell me how to react to his words or what to call him. Just like Mel doesn't owe you any further explanations as to however she feels about black and white men. You act like you're somebody who we women here have to answer to, - somebody whose approval we should seek. Puleeze. I, myself, will continue to hold Nubian Fellow in high regard and believe that he is insightful enough to discern that i respect him as a strong black man who doesn't need me to "adopt him". You keep overlooking the things outside the subject of black beauty that he and i did agree on. I thought his observation that when it comes to white supremacy, black people aren't inferior, they just act inferior was truth in a nutshell. That was when he made a believer out of me, and was why i was glad that he became a regular on this board - for a while. @Del i couldn't care less about pioneer being an ally of mine or that he might hold black women in contempt. Any woman he holds in contempt must be doing something right. With allies like him, who needs enemies?
  11. I have some thoughts on all of this subject. I was very interested to hear Chevdove elucidate on the Black Foot Indians. My father told us his mother, who was not married to his father, was a native American woman. I had no reason to doubt this because there was big portrait of her in a round ornate picture frame, that hung in my parents' bedroom. Because this picture was not in color i can only deduce that her skin color was medium tone, being neither dark nor light. She had an abundant crop of hair that was probably black in color, and wavy rather than straight in texture. It was styled in a long braid that was twisted in a knot pinned in the center of her forehead. She had high cheekbones, thin lips and a well sculpted nose and almond-shaped eyes. She was beautiful. This picture hung in that room all during my childhood, and me and my siblings referred to her as "our Indian grandmother". My grandfather who was born in Missouri and grew up in Kansas. a territory he left as a young man in his 20's to seek out his fortune in Chicago even before the "Great Migration" which started around 1915. He had married another woman and still lived in Chicago and would come to visit us from time to time during the years he was alive. He, oddly enough, was light complexioned, had freckles and nappy red hair. Anyhow. i seemed to have remembered him once saying about my dad's mother, the woman he had not wed, who was about 5 years older than him and had died young, was a Black Foot Indian. This stuck with me as a kid of about 8 years old because, in all of my childish innocence, i wondered if she had black feet. But in my mindless youth, i never paid much attention to anything my parents had to say bout their forbears. Fast forward many years when i came to realize the importance of tracing my roots. In doing research about my family tree, i saw that the Indian tribes that inhabited the area in Missouri and Kansas where my father and his people were from, were of the Osage nation, and i thought that was probably the tribe my grandmother was from, and that i was confused about my "black foot" memories. But, maybe she was a Black Foot who migrated to Kansas from nearby Nebraska where Chevdove placed some members of the Black Foot tribe. To me, that makes my grandmother more special because according to Chevdove, this tribe put up a fight when it came to government intervention. 😡 Also, my hair which started out as being a sandy reddish color and frizzy in texture, eventually turned brown and become quite bushy. However, as the years continued to pass, the texture of my hair continued to gradually change becoming thinner and quite silky. Now in my 80s i have long straight white hair (which i tuck under styled wigs when i go out because it is thin on top. ). Also a dentist once told me that my teeth had unusual characteristics that he'd never seen before but these traits were possibly native American in origin. 😬 My late brother-in-law, who was married to my older sister, was another example of someone whose hair nappy hair changed texture as he aged, it being almost straight at the year of his untimely death at age 50. He was a very exotic looking man. Tall, slender, amber in color, a long narrow face, a keen acquiline nose. It's so weird that my tall, slender 14-year-old great-grandson looks the same way altho he and this brother-in-law are in no way related; never even knew each other. Ironically, this grandson's other great-grandmother on his father's side obvious has native American blood lines... She actually looks like an Indian squaw in her old age, complete with long braids. So tell me, do i sound like a person who is full of self-hate? Like somebody who is lost and wants to be white?? Like somebody who should be riveted on Africa? When y'all talk about this "self-hate" thing, leave me out. i am, who i am and have no problem with this. And, i like all of my different blood lines, including the Scotch-Irish ones. i especially like my alien, Type "O" Rh-negative blood. 👽 OK. I'm done.
  12. This is a lie. i never said that i preferred white men over black ones because white ones were better. i said i can appreciate a powerful white man who is also kind, which is what we all said, but you continue to distort this because you are so consumed with envy and insecurity. i also said i could appreciate these 2 traits in black men. I married and was wed to a black man for 50 years so it's not like i have to defend myself against your ridiculous accusations. You just can't get over me defending a white guy who said he was married and who expressed his intention of trying to empathize with black women. Seething with resentment, your silly reaction was to make snide references to his sexuality. Just because i find you insufferable doesn't mean i reject all black men. More lies. As if your myopic view on this subject carries any credibility. You rarely assess a situation correctly. Nubian Fellow actually called me "queen"; so much for your "knowledge", a word you can't even spell. I missed Nubian Fellow when he was gone, and was glad when he briefly returned, and hope he comes back again. i consider him a fine young man with whom i share many ideas, and i actually think of him as a "son" more than anything. i don't have to adhere to what you have deemed is mandatory for embracing one of my own. @Pioneer1I hope you didn't miss Mel's post preceding this one.
  13. Until you can refute the information, then you need to shut up.
  14. @Pioneer1You're full of it. i'll let Mel speak for herself but, me, I like Nubian fellow and love the way he articulates his points. Not seeing eye-to-eye when it comes to black hair is the thing he and I disagree about. We haven't clashed about any other aspect of black beauty. He's very perceptive and realistic when it comes to black men, as well as the ramifications of Africa's downfall. And he is not obsessed with the ridiculous idea that black women idolize all white men and look down on all black ones. Your lies about us equating wealth coupled with kindness as a sign of extraordinary masculinity is just another indication of how you distort things. It's ludicrous for you to think you have to hip Nubian Fellow about what only exists in your mind, especially since he's perfectly capably of using his own judgment when it comes to the position taken by the women here. With nothing to back you up, you have tried to make him your ally by planting the idea in his head that we aren't or wouldn't be his ally, when we might very well be so, depending on the circumstances. And your petulant accusation about black women hating themselves just because after 4 centuries, they have earned the right to be their version of mainstream America is just an example of your stagnancy. Finally, why wouldn't we consider Nubian Fellow a "brother"? It's all in the family.
  15. I gave information as to the current status of the case, something you can't comprehend because you are repelled by facts. How you can consider yourself well informed is laughable. You can't even come up with an assessment of the situation that is something other than the same ol tired rhetoric. Actually, the African American community, including you, is pissing on itself because they think Jussie is being railroaded by the Chicago police. Now wipe your snotty nose and shuffle on back into your dank black man cave before Mel and Del do another number on you. You can pass the time by fantasizing about being RKelly.
  16. @TroySnake Girl was one of Kola's alter egos. i think Baby girl was a fairly mainstream person who was quite literate, and as i seem to recall her fiance had tragically drowned....
  17. i don't know whether you can legislate the acceptance of hairstyles that the mainstream deems bizarre. Private industry can find ways to circumvent this law via of promotions and perks. Furthermore, there is hair, and there are hair styles. A lot of these extreme styles are not natural, They are extended bedecked affectations. And i continue to dispute your assertion that black people are confused about their identity. if they can trace their roots back 3 or 4 generations in this country, and most can, they know who they are and should not be encouraged to ignore this by those who want to dictate to others what they should consider themselves to be. The only people who are lost are those who ignore what information is available, preferring to imagine and concoct who their long lost ancestors might have could have should have been. These fanatics are who are dangling in a limbo of their own making. To each his own.
  18. @NubianFellowAll of your theories which are shared by many many others who all believe that white people work in concert and are apparently of one mind when it comes to how blacks are to be handled, something made possible because whites have gotten together and planned it all out. The notorious "THEY". Aside from resembling the plot of a dystopian sci-fi novel, what you say mostly serves to reinforce the idea of how superior whites are, as evidenced by how they are able to exert this much control over the fate of blacks. i happen to think that what exists in America today is the inevitable result of power corrupting and a part of this dynamic is the very human tendency of those in power not wanting to share it. It's the nature of the beast. Where we are today is a result of human evolution, motivated by a "king of the hill" mentality. And "to the victor, go the spoils". Tell me, do you think if the situation was reversed that blacks would treat the whites they dominated with justice and kindness?? i think not. You are bogged down in your idealism, thinking that life is fair. Blacks are unlucky. And apparently not so smart. Or maybe just different from those who are good at conquering. Whatever. Soothsayers like you are preoccupied with pointing your fingers at scheming whites, with wringing your hands over "unwoke" blacks. You are consumed by a narrative which never stops flowing from the river of your discontent. So how's that workin' out for ya? Are things any closer to your dream of blacks reversing the tide? Huh? Shake it off and watch the sun set. It'll come up tomorrow. Enjoy the view. Life is a state of flux and change, as a by product of this, will come with time. The worse fears of Caucasians will one day be realized and they will eventually be swallowed up by people of color. Class divisions will be what makes a difference. Wealth will be what determines who will rule and who will serve. And the earth will continue to rotate on its axis. Maybe.
  19. Jussie has a good lawyer and he'll be given his day in court to defend himself against these charges brought against him based on the findings of a grand jury. From what i understand, most of the charges stem from him telling 2 entirely different versions of what happened to him when interviewed by 2 different detectives. in one he said he could tell his attacker was white because he could see his white skin showing through the eye-holes of his ski mask...
  20. In keeping with a familiar rationale that blacks come up with whenever one of their own has been publicly shamed, some jokester said the take-down of RKelly is all a part of a white conspiracy to ruin him because he was planning to buy the Nickelodean Network. 😜
  21. @NubianFellow @Troy @Mel Hopkins We all seem to be on the same page. I was just getting ready to post my thoughts when Mel's above comment agreeing with Troy's appeared. To me, being "woke" is relative. One group's wakeful mindset is, indeed, another's yawn of dismissal. A very insightful definition that originated with Einstein describes insanity as continuing to repeat the same behavior over and over, and expecting a different result. Such has been the case with black people who for a least a century have been calling for black unity year in and year out, expecting for it to become a stable reality. Crazy apparently. Another rallying cry needs to be adopted. Something like "creating a village", a slogan to encourage individual black parents to simply discipline their children to be respectful and ambitious in the hope that this admonition will be contagious and a new generation of children raised by a village of responsible parenting will be the result. Of course, some folks just can't be reformed and they will be relegated to the rank of collateral damage, - participants in their own genocide. What's left will be a thinned-out race of people who will be better equipped to ....whatever, Awwww, just forget it. This ain't going anywhere... 😵 Optimism is also a delusion. @NubianFellow Pictures of Chicago's 2 natural-coiffed mayoral candidates, Lori Lightfoot and Toni Preckwinkle.
  22. Welcome, back Nubian Fellow! I hate false eyelashes, and I find synthetic extensions that replicate Afro hair texture to be oxymorons. Everything is a delusion when it comes to female vanity. Black people should make stable family units a reality when it comes to progress. Anyway, you will undoubtedly be happy to hear that 2 black women are competing to be the next mayor of Chicago, and they both wear their hair natural. Too bad this might work against them among white voters. That's a dilemma when seeking power. White people fear blacks whose appearance suggests a threat or militant leanings. Ironically what one of the candidates, who is gay, has going for her is the enthusiastic backing of the LGBT community who might neutralize the white voters who seem to be leaning toward the other candidate who is light-skinned and has naturally curly hair. Best case scenario is that white voters will sit the election out and let these 2 black females compete for the black vote. This is not far-fetched, because voter turnout was very low for the run-offs. People in Chicago seemed to be disgusted with the city's politics in general. Glad i don't have to ponder this decision, because i live in a suburb of Chicago.
  23. i guess i do start with a question. And the questions are rarely ones i ponder about. They simply pop into of my head, and they can catch people off guard because they are so invested in their beliefs, that they overlook the obvious. i am a very curious person dating back to my childhood. This curiosity coupled with my natural skepticism has earned me the label of being negative. However, i think of myself as taking an overview and being cynical is a result. Being positive has its place, but you never hear about how often being positive has not achieved a desired goal. A lot of other factors come into play, and substantiate what i call being realistic. I am, indeed, hypercritical, expecting a perfection i wish i, myself, possessed. What i have come to realize is the power of words once one learns how to weaponize them. (a lesson brought home to me by my Facebook encounters) i do draw from my experiences and over the years, have tended to categorize people as certain types whom i instinctively react to. And, yes, i do pick the brains of my children, grandchildren and now great- grand children who each come from different backgrounds and circumstances. They keep me a breast of things, and a lot of what they reveal doesn't inspire my optimism. What i am most conflicted about is my blackness. i have a love-hate relationship with black folks. As for white folks, i'm simply an audience for their actions. What i do know for sure, is that i am becoming increasingly burnt out. Everything gets on my nerves. The spirituality that comes into play in my solitude is what allows me to transcend the agitated flux of this world and to settle into a different zone. Oops, got carried away. Does anybody care? zzzzzzzzzzzz
  24. @Pioneer1Yes, guess i was expecting too much when i hoped Nubian Fellow wouldn't be a "one-trick pony" who had no other subject to comment on other than the conflict between black men and women, - even if he did agree with many of the things i said about brothers, as did Gibran. But i still have Troy and Del to make up for their loss and to keep things interesting.
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