Stop Cussing!

[Pioneer1]

Earlier, a young African woman at work I often talk to about religion and other issues came around me while I was talking to some American Black folks.
With a smile on her face, she kept looking over staring and twisting up her mouth and shaking her head obviously wanting me to see her displeasure.

As we were breaking away, the African girl briskly walked up to me with a grin on her face and said: STOP CAROSING!

Her accent was heavy so I didn't understand what she was saying and I kept asking her: What?  Girl what are you saying???

 

 

 

"STOP CRUISING!
STOP.....CAR...CARESSING!
WHY DO YOU.....
STOP...CUSSALING!!!"

I was seriously trying to understand what she was saying and kept asking her.

One of the Black American women I was talking to said "She's tryna tell you to 'stop cussing'!  She said  yo ass cuss too much!"....lol.

We all laughed about it and about how bold she was in trying to "check" me because she's just in her early 20s and is usually very religious and mild mannered.

But I have a way with women...lol.
Sometimes I can bring the "boldness" out of them...lol.

So I looked at the African girl and said :
"Oh, you want me to stop cussing?
Alright muthafucka....I can do that shit!"

She REALLY got on me then.....lol.
Flapping her wings and jumping up and down.
The scarf she had tied around her head FLEW OFF, she was so flustered....lol.
Part of her frustration was not being able to speak English properly enough to convey how irate she was, and I knew it....lol.

But since she was serious about checking me but did it in such a playful and respectful manner I HAD to apologize to her if she found my way of talking offensive.
We actually talked some more later on about why so many AfroAmericans talk the way we do.

But then later on I actually thought about this website.
I noticed how I (and occasionally Cynique and even Troy himself every now and then) are the only ones who actually use uncensored vulgarity when posting!
The only other person who comes anywhere close is ProfD, but he censors himself with words like "nigglet" for "nigga"  or  "sh!t" for "shit".


When people DON'T cuss, that's one of the first things I notice about them after spending a few days with them.
I'm keen to it because I know many people are religious and feel it's immoral.
But we have dozens of members here and I know most of YALL aren't religious...lol..so why do you almost never cuss when posting?

Is it out of respect?

 

Don't worry @Troy, I'm not ASKING for folks to start cussing more on your website....LOL.
I'll even cut back on it myself if you feel it's too much.

But most Black Americans grew up cussing or around people who DO cuss a lot, so I'm just curious why it's so rare here?

I asked  @ProfD  one time and he said he sensors his words for the algorithm.
Not sure what that means.
 

[ProfD]

I grew around folks who felt that people who cuss a lot have a limited vocabulary.

 

I showed them two things can be true...a relatively intelligent person who swears like a sailor.

 

In real life I cuss more than enough. In writing, it's usually unnecessary when ideas and/or opinions are being communicated. 

 

I enjoy watching religious folks tie themselves in knots around me. They don't understand how I can be agnostic and cuss a lot.

 

I do self-censor here because I don't want to draw the algorithm into getting up in the bizness.

[Pioneer1]

16 minutes ago, ProfD said:

I do self-censor here because I don't want to draw the algorithm into getting up in the bizness.

Yeah, I remember you said that before.

To me the words mean the same thing whether you censor them or not.
In other words.....
If you type "sh!t" you still mean "shit" whether you say it or not.
If you type "d!*k" I know you're still talking about a dick....lol.

I'm no computer expert, and I have a rough understanding of how algorithms work and how one word often attracts related words.
Are you saying that using vulgar language attracts the wrong crowd to the site?

It's one thing to be juvenile and go overboard where every other word is a vulgarity.
However on the opposite end, I've learned to NOT trust some people if I never hear them cuss...lol.
It's as if they're not being real, or being a bit phony....lol.
 

[ProfD]

7 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

To me the words mean the same thing whether you censor them or not.

Right. The intent and meaning remains. It's almost like pig Latin. 

 

7 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

I'm no computer expert, and I have a rough understanding of how algorithms work and how one word often attracts related words.
Are you saying that using vulgar language attracts the wrong crowd to the site?

With AI and data mining, we don't know what will be drawn to the site. 

 

7 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

However on the opposite end, I've learned to NOT trust some people if I never hear them cuss...lol.

It's as if they're not being real, or being a bit phony....lol.

Guess it really depends on several factors. Upbringing, environment, social class, etc., influence how people choose to communicate. 

 

Unless one is the CEO, it would be hard to work in a highly professional environment and cuss a lot. 

[Pioneer1]

Technically speaking.....

The only words that could be considered cussing or cursing is "damn" and "hell" and their various forms

 

Both the African girl AND her mother who works there too are very religious.
And it's interesting to me that her mother can speak better English than she can!
So I started breaking it down for both of them.....

Her mother just stood there looking up at me with her arms folded grinning.
 

 

The word "cussing" is really a slang and mispronunciation of the word "cursing".
And what's being said isn't really cursing but "vulgarity" or crude language.
I told them words like fuck, shit, and others aren't curse words or profanity...just vulgar or so-called "bad" words.

Her mother kept standing there looking up at me grinning with her arms folded and then asked me was what I said supposed to have made a difference and make it more acceptable...lol.

 

 

I might marry THAT woman...lol.

[ProfD]

20 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

Both the African girl AND her mother who works there too are very religious.

Her mother just stood there looking up at me grinning with her arms folded and then asked me was what I said supposed to have made a difference and make it more acceptable...lol.

 

I might marry THAT woman...lol.

From the tenor of your posts, I think you have a soft spot for Black immigrants...Africans and maybe West Indians too.

 

Just know that you aren't schooling or getting them hip to anything.

 

As ingrained from their culture...they have little or no respect for FBA/AfroAmericans.

 

it's rather insulting for them to judge you for cussing, cursing or vulgarity. Whatever chooses to come out of your mouth is an inalienable birth-right.

 

Don't let the lure of that African snatch box gaffle you up. Stay FBA/AfroAmerican...Black man. 

[Pioneer1]

9 minutes ago, ProfD said:

From the tenor of your posts, I think you have a soft spot for Black immigrants...Africans and maybe West Indians too.

 

Lol....I'm a Pan-Africanist.

I have an Unconditional Love for the Black race.

Not for ALL Black individuals....because some Black folks ain't no damn good and need to sleep with the fishes....lol.
But as a group, I love Black people regardless of nationality, culture, religion, label, or language.
I'm in love with our people and I can't hep it.

Which is why it hurts to see our people fighting with eachother.

[ProfD]

13 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

I have an Unconditional Love for the Black race.

Gotcha. Same here.

 

13 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

Not for ALL Black individuals....because some Black folks ain't no damn good and need to sleep with the fishes....lol.

Along those lines, just like family members, some Black folks need to be treated with long-handled spoons.

 

13 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

But as a group, I love Black people regardless of nationality, culture, religion, label, or language.

Understood. As we should be able too.

 

13 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

Which is why it hurts to see our people fighting with eachother.

Humans fighting for one reason oe another  is a part of our existence. Especially when it has been instigated by enemies.

 

That's why even as proud FBA/AfroAmerican Black man, I will kick it with my brothas and sistas across the diaspora but I stay in their azz and keep their heads ringing like a church bell whenever they're talking noise based on propaganda they've been fed by the devils.