Book Review: The Ditchdigger’s Daughters
by Yvonne S. Thornton
Publication Date: Mar 01, 2008
List Price: $15.00
Format: Paperback, 272 pages
Classification: Nonfiction
ISBN13: 9780758225887
Imprint: Dafina
Publisher: Kensington Publishing Corp.
Parent Company: Kensington Publishing Corp.
Book Reviewed by Paige Turner
The Ditchdigger’s Daughters is the story of Donald Thornton, a laborer, and his
wife Tass, a domestic, who managed to shepherd their six daughters into careers
of professional status. Consider the results of their efforts: Two
physicians, an attorney, a court stenographer, a dentist and a registered nurse.
Not too shabby for a self described ditchdigger whose words of inspiration to
his daughters went like this:
"You kids are black. You are dark skinned and ugly—I love you
better than I love life—But I’m not always gonna be around to look after you,
and no man’s gonna come along and offer to take care of you because ain’t light
skinned. That’s why you gotta be able to look after yourselves. And
for that you gotta be smart."
Ouch! This frequently stated message represents both the admirable and the
deplorable qualities that co existed within Donald. Foresight, leadership
and hard work resided next to gross insensitivity and a rigidity that would
significantly dent his record of remarkable parenting accomplishments. Donald
was definitely a his way or highway kind of guy from the radical fundamentalist
school of parenting.
Written by middle daughter Yvonne S. Thornton, M. D., The Ditchdigger’s
Daughters is far more than a goody goody story of striving black-folks-a-movin’-on-up
-and-pulling-their-bootstraps-as-they-go -while-singin’-them-good-ole-songs.
Although music, self sacrifice and upward mobility all figure prominently in DDD,
this memoir merits readers’ attention for its effective recreation of the
characters, its important messages, its genuineness, its overall excellence, and
its inspiration.
DDD contains plot turns that everyone can identify with. Parts of the
story even read like a thriller. When the two oldest daughters defect from
the family because of Donald’s stringency, they start a chain of reactions that
threaten the viability of this heretofore loving and stable unit. Donald
becomes verbally and emotionally abusive to Tass. As a result Tass
experiences a depression that necessitates clinical treatment. The
remaining daughters were filled with fear and confusion at these events. The
Thornton family found themselves facing a crisis of epic proportions: would this
black family survive? The answer is not as neatly packaged as a sitcom,
and reflects the messy fits and starts of real people living real lives.
One of the most interesting components of this tale is the sisters’ formation of
a successful touring band. With Donald as their manager they played
colleges and other venues as The Thornton Sisters in order to fund their own
college educations’. On weekends these six time winners of the Apollo
Theatre’s amateur night would share bills with the likes of the Temptations and
Martha and the Vandellas - and often bested these more renowned performers by
digging deeper to give their audiences something extra.
Yvonne was the first to fulfil her father’s dream of becoming a physician.
Her recounting of her climb to become a respected and successful
Obstetrician-Gynecologist is an endearing portrait of a physician as a young
woman. As a black female doctor she suffered many rude comments and one
remark, made by a white male colleague who said, "I assume you know what
you’re doing", was particularly distressing.
"I arrived back home crying and raging’If I’d been a man, he wouldn’t
have talked to me like that. If I’d been white, he wouldn’t have
questioned my ability to do what was right."
Once his daughters were successfully launched Donald became a foster parent to
Alfred, a pre teen boy, and this experience exposed his sexism and two
faced-ness. Donald’s rearing of Alfred and the way he had raised his
daughters were as different as day and night. Once he was able to parent a
son all of his nose to the grindstone philosophy evaporated, and indulgence
stepped in its place with disastrous results.
"Daddy bragged, "Finally I’ve got me a son." So bewitched
was Daddy by the satisfaction of this that before very long Alfred discovered he
could get around quite easily. With a bit of care and subtlety and a show of
loving attention, he chivvied Daddy into buying him silk underwear, handsomely
tailored suits, and the most expensive shoes from the best stores. For
fear of alienating Alfred he eased off giving him unwelcome news about the
necessity of getting an education, about dignity and responsibility, about
sizing people up, and keeping your word."
So there you have the blessings and tribulations of being the Ditchdigger’s
Daughters. Many readers will conclude that Donald Thornton’s boot camp
brand of parenting was far too demanding for their taste. Others will see
in him the focused dedication that black America needs more of. None the
less the take away here is that the Ditchdigger’s Daughters accepted their fate,
rolled up their sleeves, dug in, and got busy building successful lives. Yvonne
Thornton herself states:
"I believe it is time for the black race to ’show what we are capable of
doing. The testing will surely go on for the next generation and the next,
but each time we meet the test we’ll climb another rung of the ladder until
finally we arrive at parity, having earned our place, rather than pleading or
demanding that it be given to us."
DDD is turning into a small cottage industry. Since the book’s publication
in 1995 it has received much acclaim as a Literary Guild Selection and a
Pulitzer Prize nominated book. A for television movie was made with Carl
Lumbly portraying Donald. The Kensington Publishing version has a new
introduction by Dr. Yvonne Thornton on the book’s evolution.
Readers are advised to dig in and enjoy, and to listen up and listen carefully
to this ditchdigger’s daughter. Thornton is a woman who has walked this
walk and knows of which she speaks.