@Delano , the action is highlighted in your quote above. I read it the first time but it resonated when @Chevdove quoted as further insight.
When I "created" a man perfect for me - it was so I wouldn't have the unpleasant experiences of my previous relationships.
BUT that's not choosing,at all. That's NOT Kuumba (divine creation)" that's freakin' commentary!!!
Creation would be envisage a desired marriage based on nothing in existence... When I reread your quote, it clarified a lot of things for me. It reminds me of that other quote attributed to Einstein "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
Thank you!