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  1. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Cynique The house person was also the least likely to oppose his "massah" or run away. That doesn't fit me. I am a hustler by nature but not in the streets. I am fortunate as a black man and live in a peaceful environment. The apology comes from a sincere place. I understand how my people have been psychologically attacked and pit against each other. I never want to come off as an enforcer of these principles or beliefs. I never want to make a black person feel bad about being black.
  2. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Cynique I think that's an emotional driven observation, however, you have a right to your opinion. Though I'd prefer that if I am going to be called a nigga - which I detest vehemently, please call me a field nigga. lol I always thought the house person held white people to the highest regard. This is where the confusion sets in. I thought the house person is the one who would defend massah any chance they get and knew the dominate relationship that existed between them and 'massah.' I don't feel like that describes my views. The reason I am presenting these ideas is to engage with my people on black social media. At the end of the day, we are all content creators. There is nothing ambiguous about my beliefs, however, I do struggle sometimes trying to present my case in a way as though I don't accidentally offend anyone. That's not why I am here. Being around so many well-spoken individuals, I don't want to come off as abrasive. I think we are all people at the end of the day. I don't hate anyone because that's not of my nature. I don't believe it is of my people's nature to hate - only respond to the hate that the world has shown us and keeps showing us. Love ya queen and thank you.
  3. NubianFellow

    Guest Comment

    @Delano It's just contradictory to certain key words that have been splashed around to define white men. Some words I will reflect on are words like "superior" and "strong." On a post about acknowledging the beauty of black women. LOL If these beliefs were true then certainly I wouldn't be able to scare him off. Wouldn't that be more like "weak" or "inferior" if the man runs away from opposition? That doesn't sound like the confident and supreme behavior I've been reading about them on the posts that have been used to describe them to me. But I actually felt I went easy on the dude. If I was able to scare him away so easily, what does that say about him? It also would have been silly for him to oppose the topic and not expect opposition. A "superior" person would know better... lol So if this guy is a real person and not a troll who is claiming his supremacy among certain types of black women, then I am sure I didn't scare him away. I am sure our ancestors said the same thing brotha. But the universe is fair and for every action there is a reaction.
  4. NubianFellow

    Guest Comment

    To the forum, I apologize if I seemed harsh and full of emotion in addressing the guest. I was actually hoping he might challenge me and open up meaningful dialogue. I am expanding my consciousness everyday and always welcome learning other's ideas and perspectives. Sometimes I may push too hard and apologize if anyone was offended. I think I got too wrapped up in the engagement with all of these smart minds and it is refreshing to speak with so many black intellectuals with their own unique perspectives and views. I have really learned so much from everyone who has participated. I do respect an open forum and believe that will open up conversation for others who may wish to express themselves as well. I agree that we need to be respectful so if I disrespected anyone or anyone feels I offended them in any way, then I sincerely apologize. I just look at as all of us being extended family and sometimes I forget and start talking as if I'm chilling at family barbecue. Lol (Even my family doesn't like it when I talk about how much of a sellout Obama is! LOL)
  5. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Troy I removed the video. But still believe the child is not the focus of this forum, but only behavior. Therefore, I don't feel that discussion about the topic would be insensitive in this debate. But everyone knows what video I am referring to (just like the doll test) and I believe what is happening here is self evident. We either see it or we don't. This debate is similar to me of the debate about black on violence. Everyone kills themselves so black on black violence doesn't exist. At the end of the day, black people are not required to address their flaws or inferior behavior, that is if black people even believe that they posses inferior behavior. What I notice here is the high esteem in which white men are held by black women as opposed to other black men. From my viewpoint, these very ideas are what has been responsible for enabling white people to prove their superiority over them. What's more interesting is that subconsciously, we understand this because we have expressed these very sentiments of them being superior... while approving of these very sentiments... in this very discussion. lol I didn't mention Mel's husband brotha. That is insignificant to me in this discussion. I don't discuss my personal life so I won't judge or discuss anyone else'. I am only pointing out what is bought up in this discussion relevant to how black women see themselves. Since the black woman is only a reflection of the black man and we come from the same place, I believe that how the black woman sees the black man is a direct indication of how she also sees herself. I don't know enough about anyone's personal life to give input unless they freely volunteer information. Her marrying a white man is not even part of the focus. It's what was expressed about black people which is the focus. Yes indeed it would, however, if this was one-sided I don't even want to begin imagining how that would end up. Perhaps that's another more heated topic for later.
  6. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Mel Hopkins The parents allowed this video on social media. I actually didn't realize a guy was narrating the video because I didn't watch this version of it. In the original, the mother is laughing and saying, "This is how she acts when I take the weave off. Now look, When she gets it back she is happy," which led me to believe she posted this on her social media and when it went viral I suppose people made their own versions of it. But since it's showing an adorable girl and there is nothing embarrassing towards the girl, it's not offensive. It shows poor behavior on the parents part. The girl did nothing wrong. Same with the doll tests. These things show behavior which is something that black people need to analyze in the black community. @Cynique My best friend is half white and even though he knows I hold strong views and his family are aware of my views, we get along fine. I get along well with white people and interracial relationships do not trigger me. I don't judge anyone who dates out. Life is short! I don't date out but I could care less who anyone else is attracted to - just keeping it real. I do tend to get under people's skin sometimes but I hope that's not the case now. We are just exchanging information and viewpoints.
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    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Troy While it is true that no one can read the girls mind and we don't know what she is actually thinking, I think it's dangerous. Same thing with the white doll/black doll test if we believe in those experiments. One could argue that the kids chose the dolls that they thought would please the adults, especially if the adults were white. Some of the kids could have felt it was a challenge and maybe concluded that they were supposed to choose wrong. It's still a dangerous observation and I believe the conclusion of the results are accurate. Also, I believe the overall behavior of how black people socially respond and behave in society is a direct reflection of the data supplied by these tests. In the video where the girl cries when her wig is taken away, I am left with many questions. For instance, why is she wearing a weave in the first place, to even play with it? I doubt that there was an adult present who had natural hair just from the fact that she is wearing a weave that hopefully belongs to an adult. But playing devil's advocate, if her parents do wear their hair naturally, why are they letting this child wear a weave? Assuming they are natural you may also believe that they are somewhat conscious and would promote that same attitude around their daughter as well as not let her be influenced by low vibrational behavior. That's why I believe that was her mother in the video laughing. Subconsciously, no matter what, she is going to equate wearing that weave with being visually beautiful, if she doesn't already. And if she duplicated the behavior from her mother, then she probably already sees it as enhancing her beauty. Would she have acted the same way if someone placed a toy cat on her head? I don't know, but I doubt it.
  8. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    So much was said right here. I'm not going to comment, just try to lift my jaw back up. @Pioneer1 I won't lie. I thought you were being a little harsh, at first. Today this thread made me vomit in my mouth a little. Ever get the feeling that white supremacy has already won? After everything they did to our ancestors and still do to us. . . them bastards seem to keep proving who is superior and who is not.
  9. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    I'm not trying to beat this drum too hard. I know for the most part black women are not ready to stop wearing their weaves and wigs. We haven't gotten that far yet and I know the women are strong minded so I don't want to keep this going. I'm just asking black women to consider the affect that this behavior is having on your children and any black child that is able to see you. And yes, I know the whites do it too... but their history is the opposite of ours so I am sure the thinking processes behind their actions are not similar to ours. Their kids aim to imitate white people's standard of beauty. The problem is, so do our kids. I am sure everyone is familiar with the doll test which should be a real eye opener. Anyway, and I'd like to point out that this has everything to do with outer beauty and how black women visually see themselves. I know some may look down on the fact that I call black women beautiful but I make no apology for doing that, especially at a point in time when there appears to be the most well orchestrated gender war in the black community and a time when black women feel like black men do not protect them and choose white women. I have no problem telling black women they are beautiful and I go out of my way to do that when I witness the rarity of a black woman wearing her own crown and taking pride in hair that her own dna was able to grow. @Guest Loren Carle With respect, you don't really have a place in this conversation and I don't say that to be offensive to you. The fact is, Loren, you are a symbol of the reason why Black women feel the need to look more like white women. Yes. Your people have enforced these practices during slavery and through mental brainwashing, conditioning and further in the workplace you have made it appear that if you are Black and want to get ahead then the key to achieving that is to look and behave as though you were white. That's how supremacy works. If my family had a reputation for beating up all the kids in school and forcing them to give lunch money away to the bullies, wouldn't I look pretty stupid or conniving if I took up for these kids and told everyone it was okay for them to give their money away to the bullies if they wanted to? Then tell the most wonderful stories about how other kids gave their money away to make them feel validated? Heck! I might even tell a personal story of my own. That's how I view your opinion on this matter. With all do respect, as appreciative we all are of your opinion, it doesn't deserve to hold any weight whatsoever in THIS particular discussion. I can go on for a while about why not, but that would just be a rant and too much typing. And what employers do you actually think would create an environment for Black women to only be comfortable wearing weaves or wigs? In any white controlled country, and many Black countries, of which most are colonized by white people (that's a topic you should participate in since you feel the need), who do you think would be deciding what is acceptable for Black women to wear in the workplace? My point is that white people are actually the ones responsible for backwards behavior in the Black community. So when they try to justify flawed behavior in the Black community, that pisses me off pretty much the same as when you justify flawed white behavior or racism. This comment is especially offensive to me - when you talk about power and dictating anything! It's actually funny, in it's own sick-jokish kind of way. But if I elaborated, you would probably say that I was an extremist proBlack. The truth is, no one is dictating anything to anyone. Black people are slowly starting to wake up and with waking up comes empowerment. This indeed could be the reason that police shootings of children and innocent Black people have spiraled out of control in the past decade. It's like, once white people found out that Black people were powerful enough to get a Black president elected, the police felt we weren't killing ourselves fast enough so they helped us out. Could it be that white people are actually afraid of Black people waking up and beginning to think for themselves? Physically, you will not be threatened by a Black man or woman as far as your systematic power structure is concerned. However, if too many of us started to match white people in wit and intelligence, there would probably be a war waged against us (not implying that there is not already one waged) because once Black people start waking up, that's when they become the real threat. So the racist (not directed at you) would be to validate poor decisions and tell Black people it's okay to stay sleep because they're not hurting anyone, knowing good and well they are hurting someone - just not you. The behavior is hurting Black people, especially the kids who have to psychologically deal with the mind fuck that their parents do to them because they haven't yet awakened themselves! Actually, you couldn't be more wrong. African Americans are owed a lot! We have been stripped of our land and watched as your ancestors hung ours and fed their children to the alligators... these people were our relatives! We watch silently while you have colonized most of Africa and tried to colonize every Black nation on the planet. You told our Black queens that they were ugly and that their hair was terrible to look at. You told the men that too but we recovered more quickly. You killed our kids and pretended slavery was over when you really invented a legal system that would forever oppress us. You smiled in our faces and told us it was going to be okay while you took away everything from us. Then you complained that something was wrong us! I'm not talking about you directly. I'm talking about your ancestors and probably some relatives and friends. Again, this is not a I hate white people rant. I have worked around white people and I actually live around white people and don't have that many complaints. I don't believe all white people are the enemy or out to get me. But I do believe you have no place in this discussion. Because while I can almost read the mind of a Black woman and know that when she puts on her hair hat she is begging and craving validation, you would have no way of knowing the thoughts that are going through her mind and WHY she is actually wearing a hair hat to begin with. You couldn't understand. I'm not even sure if you are capable of understanding the mental mind state of a Black person and what motivates them to make any decision they do. It's because you are wired differently. Your social reality is a completely different reality and when you try to walk in ours, you will forever be lost. You are not capable of comprehending how much damage your ancestors and your race has done and is still doing to Black people. All over the planet! @Cynique Yes!!! Confidence!! Wow. I didn't expect to read this. I'm now officially done with the topic about "beautiful black women."
  10. What Monique doesn't realize is that demanding to be paid more money by Netflix, regardless of the reason they paid her a lower salary, is still slavery. If she has beef with them, no one is stopping her from actually growing her own empire that could employ more black people and maybe even become real competition. So I don't buy her sob story. Why not use the 500k that she got from Netflix to open up Moniqueflix? Or find an already black existing company that she can take over or invest in, even as a silent investor if she didn't want to get her feet wet? Black celebs have always been too happy with masta's money and then complain when they get ripped off more than they are used to being ripped off. Funny thing is that they are the least likely ones to invest their money back into the black community and create more opportunities for the people who made them rich but that's showbiz. Even more ironic is that would also be where their true wealth lies I'm certain. Monique wasn't standing up for the black community. That's why no one took her temper tantrum seriously. She was acting out of self interest because she personally felt targeted. She was motivated by her own greed and ambition. Now she has to make amends with the same people she insulted so she may have a career. @Pioneer1 I believe @Troy is referring to the fact that Motown sold out to Universal. They also sold cheaply for 61 million dollars. They haven't been black owned since the 80's. That's why they are not mentioned among black owned businesses. Now I believe they are worth in the billions. Same with BET who sold to Viacom. The powers that be pretty much prohibit black people from having media control. And I think Google is in on it too.
  11. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    I feel like we are not ready to talk about weave and wigs as a problem. This generation of black women doesn't seem eager to have this conversation right now. In time, this may change, hopefully with a few more generations. I just hope that I am alive to see weaves and wigs go out of style. That is something I would like to witness in this reality. The good thing is that by black people not changing our behaviors, this probably won't make our situation any worst than it already is now. Hey, I remember in school all the cool kids wore parachute pants. That was a big trend and when you told someone how dumb it was, you didn't know fashion. A few years later, we laugh at how ridiculous those fads were. At the end of the day, all black women are beautiful on the inside and outside and need to stop being ashamed of themselves because everyone else wants to copy the black woman's look and style. That may seem a little shallow for me to say but it is what it is. I also feel like they may not be hearing it enough. That could actually be part of the reason that weave is actually so popular right now.
  12. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Mel Hopkins I agree. If it's not constructive then it serves no purpose. Absolutely. I think we should welcome constructive criticism in the black community. I think that's the motivation we need for change sista. @Chevdove Yes, that is part of the problem too. And that needs to be discussed too sista! Regardless of hairstyle, black women are beautiful no matter what! Black women are the most beautiful women!
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    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Mel Hopkins Let's be real sista. Black men being concerned with the state of black women is actually anti gay. Gay men could care less. I resided in Brooklyn right on Tompkins ave so I am familiar with the culture. The "bitch move" is allowing our sisters to go around embarrassing the black race and not caring. By this logic I suppose it would be equally "gay" behavior for black women to be concerned about black men sagging their pants. And why should they be concerned that statistically most of the boys they are raising are helping to exterminate black people? Business as usual in the black community? "Let's not be concerned about the state of our people and just let the self destruction continue and deflect as much as possible", could be the behavior of some. I bet they would say it has nothing to do with how anyone wears their hair because it's only fashion. And when a gang member gets a tear drop to celebrate they took a life, then maybe that's just fashion too. Does anyone believe that black women wearing weave could be a direct reflection of why black women outnumber everyone else in terms of abortion? Self hate will always be self hate and cannot be defined any other way. That's why there are more Latinos in the USA now than black people. Between violent murders and abortions, we are probably killing more life than we produce at this point. Isn't the percentage of black people in the US 12 percent now? Wasn't it just 14 percent quite recently. But let's deflect and not concentrate on self hate issues we suffer in the black community. Sleep is a beautiful thing and no one likes to be bothered while they slumber. The problem is, black people have been sleeping too long - to the point where the matter is so serious that at this point in time, it's wake up or face extinction, primarily by ourselves.
  14. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    @Mel Hopkins Nothing is sad about black men who choose to speak on issues that affect us all. Gang violence needs to be spoken about. All forms of black media and what black people need to do to protect our image. Glorifying low vibrational behavior, and poor self esteem needs to be discussed properly. Self esteem is a big issue in the black community and needs to be thoroughly addressed. This is how we have gotten rid of past low vibrational behavior and trends. Furthermore, our young queens need to understand that they are perfect for the black man as they are. They should understand that other women cannot compete with them as far as black men are concerned. A black man has to have standards. A black woman should appreciate a black man with standards. Some men don't care at all and I am certain that those men do not love black women as profoundly as those who express concern about issues pervasive in the black community such as the state of the black woman in America, among other pressing issues. The issue of weave in the black community barely scratches the surface, yet the importance of addressing this behavior cannot be denied. Why? Because even though the conscious mind tells her that she is beautiful as she is and mother of the earth, we are not our conscious minds. What we do consciously is only a reflection of what we believe in our subconscious minds. The subconscious mind is who we actually are. We have been programmed and must be reprogrammed. We can put the pro black fists up all day. We can embrace our history all we want. The subconscious mind has it's own program running and has already adapted to our reality. We are at its mercy. To successfully change the subconscious thinking, we have to change us!
  15. NubianFellow

    Black Women Are Beautiful Naturally

    Quantum physicists have come up with a theory. It's the most logical theory that explains human existence. This theory is that our reality is pretty much made up of information. The reality around us only exists because we can think or dream it. That the boundaries of our universe are only limited by our imagination. Actual proof we live in a mental realm that we imagine to be physical. Think "The Matrix." They are having serious conversations about this with serious math that gives explanation for what reality actually is. The most mind-blowing part is that it makes absolutely the most sense out of all theories that try to explain human existence and what our reality actually consists of. Consciousness is everything... Literally!
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