A Jealous And Insecure Man

[Pioneer1]

Let me ask a provocative question.....

What's wrong with a man being jealous and insecure?

Not in a timid and scared way to the point that he doesn't take risks or chances.
But in a protective and territorial way where he's generally on alert when other men come around and suspicious that they may try to push up on his woma(e)n or take his money.

If a man should NOT think like this, WHY shouldn't he?

[Troy]

Jealously and insecurity are human emotions nothing is inherently wrong with them, but like all negative emotions including hate, fear, envy, etc we should try to moderate then.

 

If a brother greets your woman with a smile while you are standing there, do you fly into a rage or are your pleased that she was greeted in a friendly manner?

 

Do you later give her grief, or slap her around, for encouraging the brother or do you think homie was a friendly guy?

 

The emotions are natural what provokes them and how we react to them is what matters. 

[ProfD]

2 hours ago, Pioneer1 said:

Let me ask a provocative question.....

What's wrong with a man being jealous and insecure?

As @Troy alluded, those are negative emotions. Usually points to deeper issues within that individual.

 

People don't make the best decisions based on their emotions. 

 

Jealousy and insecurity are not traits that enable a man to provide for and protect his woman, children, family, village, etc.

 

 

2 hours ago, Pioneer1 said:

But in a protective and territorial way where he's generally on alert when other men come around and suspicious that they may try to push up on his woma(e)n or take his money.

If a man should NOT think like this, WHY shouldn't he?

A man should have the mental and physical abilities to handle his business. No time for jealousy and insecurity.

 

In fact, a strong man (mentally & physically) doesn't have to worry about his woman leaving and/or another man testing him.

 

A strong man can easily find another woman. They are attracted to him.

[Pioneer1]

Troy

 

Jealously and insecurity are human emotions nothing is inherently wrong with them, but like all negative emotions including hate, fear, envy, etc we should try to moderate then.

 

I would argue that although these are STRONG emotions, they aren't necessarily negative emotions.
It depends on their origins, context, and how they're used.

 

A man COULD use being jealous or envious of another man to take HIS woman and money....or use those same feelings and the energy they invoke to get an even MORE ATTRACTIVE woman and MORE MONEY than the man he was jealous of.

 

I believe as humans we were given all of our emotions....including jealousy and envy....for a reason.

 

 

 

 

 

If a brother greets your woman with a smile while you are standing there, do you fly into a rage or are your pleased that she was greeted in a friendly manner?

I wouldn't fly into a rage over such a minor act; but depending on WHO that brother is and especially HER REACTION to it....it may be a cause of some concern, lol.

 

If a brother KNOWN to try to snatch up every woman he comes across for the fun of it smiles at my lady a little too long I would notice that and be on alert.
And if SHE starts slobbering and acting bashful over his greetings as if she's being tickled by it...that TOO will put me on alert...lol.

 

 

 

 

Do you later give her grief, or slap her around, for encouraging the brother or do you think homie was a friendly guy?

 

I don't slap women around, however as I said....depending on HER REACTION and how often this happens...I would probably consider LEAVING her.

I don't like dealing with the stress of wondering whether or not my lady is cheating on me.

In this type of society women are too independent and we spend too much time away from eachother for me to keep an eye on her all day....so if I know she's prone to that, I just wouldn't have her as a "main".
....a SIDE DISH maybe....lol....but not my "lady".
 

 

 

 

 

 

ProfD

 

 

As @Troy alluded, those are negative emotions. Usually points to deeper issues within that individual.

 

They may indeed have issues going on in their lives.
Yet my question remains...WHAT'S WRONG with them being jealous and insecure that another man may take what they have?

 

Perhaps their insecurities are JUSTIFIED.

Perhaps he's deformed, or sexually dysfunctional, or struggles with some sort of addiction and feels that at any time his woman may be unsatisfied with him and may leave him for a "better catch".
Wouldn't it MAKE SENSE for him to be insecure and jealous when other men she may like, come around?

 

 

 

 

People don't make the best decisions based on their emotions. 

While this is true, there is usually a THOUGHT that preceded those emotions....and THAT'S what a person should pay attention to.
An emotion is simply a REACTION to a thought.
But the thought itself may be justified because it was brought about for a reason.

You have a woman who is YOUR woman...but for the past few weeks she has to get up and go downstairs to talk to somebody every other night at 2 and 3 in the morning.
She gets off of work at 5 pm and usually comes straight home....but for the past few weeks she's been coming home at 10 and 11pm at night and doesn't even have an excuse for doing so.

That's enough to make the AVERAGE man a little "emotional"....lol.

You'd be a fool not to suspect SOMETHING strange is going on.

 

 

 

 

Jealousy and insecurity are not traits that enable a man to provide for and protect his woman, children, family, village, etc.

 

I'm not sure about insecurity but I do believe JEALOUSY would definitely enable a man....atleast provide him with the energy and motivation...to protect his woman, children, family, and village.

Jealousy is a sign that he really loves or atleast desires the object OF his jealousy and would do almost anything to keep it....including fight and kill for it.

Show me a man who never gets jealous over his woman and I'll show you a man who DOESN'T HAVE a woman....or can't keep her long because another man who actually DOES want her will take her away...lol.

 

A man should have the mental and physical abilities to handle his business. No time for jealousy and insecurity.

In fact, a strong man (mentally & physically) doesn't have to worry about his woman leaving and/or another man testing him.
A strong man can easily find another woman. They are attracted to him.

You're speaking in idealistic terms....not necessarily realistic.
 
Besides, most women in this society who cheat...don't seem to choose the mean they cheat with based on their strength.
Mental or physical.
 

The fact is, based on my observation....most cheating occurs by simple ACCESS.
They more you're around a person of the opposite sex the more likely you are to have sex with them as you get to know them and know more about them.

Many Arabs and people in very religious cultures have BEEN known this for centuries....which is why they usually keep men and women who aren't married to eachother SEPARATE.
They don't work together or even go to school together.

They know things will just "happen" between men and women.