Missing you!

[Mel Hopkins]

10 hours ago, Chevdove said:

That is one of the most classic and fabulous wedding celebrations that I have ever seen!

Oh My Gosh! I don't know how many times I have watched this.

@Mel Hopkins I can't imagine how happy you must feel!

Your daughter and her husband are so incredibly beautiful.

Again, you look amazing. 

Thank you! The happy couple is so creative!  My son-in-law even came up with the idea for a hotel flag - They designed it, got it made, and the hotel staff even put it up in front of the hotel! 

[Pioneer1]

On 10/9/2025 at 9:35 PM, aka Contrarian said:

You  are who needs to mind their own damned business!! You  have ZERO class.  You have no right to ask Mel those questions!

Well she answered them, and had a nice little laugh at the questions!

So stop trippin'.....lol.


...sitting up here acting like he's YOUR man or something...lol.

Getting all defensive and hostile.

Like I'm talking about somebody YOU love.
 

[aka Contrarian]

 @Mel HopkinsSo,  in addition to all the Joy and beauty captured on the creative video, thanks to the nosy maliciousness of the bigot who repeatedly expresses disapproval  of white guys and the black women who marry them, we now know that the father of your lovely daughters who you "got with" is not a big nosed Jew nor an Italian nor an average WASP in a plaid shirt!

 

Excuse me if I thought pioneer's cross examination of you was in poor taste. 

[Pioneer1]

5 minutes ago, aka Contrarian said:

 

 

Excuse me if I thought pioneer's cross examination of you was in poor taste. 

 

Trust me, she knows.
We ALL know.
.....you don't know any better.

 

[aka Contrarian]

14 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

 

Trust me, she knows.
We ALL know.
.....you don't know any better.

 

You're the last thing in the world I'd trust.  Just keep imagining, like the deluded wanna be that you are,  that you're something other than a crude poor excuse for a person of good character. Pathetic.

[Pioneer1]

On 10/6/2025 at 9:51 AM, Mel Hopkins said:

Not that you all are wedding crashers, but it reminds me - do you know we had actual wedding crashers at the celebration?

I can believe it.
Because we have "thread crashers" here on this forum!

....walking embarrassments who have nothing better to do but run around the neighborhood in their robe and slippers taking pictures of the moon and cussing at bees who are up in the tree minding their own beeswax.


Now you STILL haven't told us about these wedding crashers!

What exactly did they do?

Did they come to the ceremony and raise a ruckus while you were in that room checking your "rear view"???

BTW.....
Ever since I saw that picture I've been meaning to ask you SEVERAL questions...in person....when you find the time....LOL.

[aka Contrarian]

@Mel: and of course we have on- line forums where narcissistic  windbags full of hot air like pioneer  barge in on everybody's posts seeking attention, spamming the threads with silly pictures and imagined scenarios, seeking the approval others.

He's all yours.

Thank goodness we have the option to reject who we dislike.

[Pioneer1]

3 minutes ago, aka Contrarian said:

He's all yours.

.....which indirectly suggests that YOU had me (or wanted me).

You and your Freudian slips....lol.

[aka Contrarian]

33 minutes ago, Pioneer1 said:

.....which indirectly suggests that YOU had me (or wanted me).

You and your Freudian slips....lol.

Back to grasping at straws again, and fantasizing. Grow up and get real. Too bad you have nothing better to do on a Saturday night. Loser.

[Pioneer1]

11 minutes ago, aka Contrarian said:

 Too bad you have nothing better to do on a Saturday night. Loser.

And you're right here with me; so what does that say about YOU.

You remind me of a homeless lady sitting on the sidewalk yelling at other people walking by to "get their life together".....lol.

 

[aka Contrarian]

yeah, yeah,yeah. So sez the LOSER  who has nothing to do on a Saturday night. 

[Pioneer1]

3 minutes ago, aka Contrarian said:

yeah, yeah,yeah. So sez the LOSER  who has nothing to do on a Saturday night. 

Saturday Night???

This ain't the 50's anymore...lol.
Nobody does things on a Saturday Night that they can't do on a Tuesday Night.


 

[aka Contrarian]

Gotcha. Too bad the  chronic LOSER has nothing to do. 

[Mel Hopkins]

2 hours ago, aka Contrarian said:

Excuse me if I thought pioneer's cross examination of you was in poor taste. 

I didn't think it was in poor taste!  Thank you for checking me!  I'm so accustomed to people inquiring about my actions that I forget that it is inappropriate.  Thank you so much!

[Pioneer1]

Mel
 

What's inappropriate is another person telling YOU how YOU should react to or feel about.

[Mel Hopkins]

13 hours ago, Pioneer1 said:

What's inappropriate is another person telling YOU how YOU should react to or feel about.

You misunderstood me.  I know it's inappropriate for others to ask personal information. BUT It happens to me so often that I just answer the question to set the record straight.  This way, I feel that no one can claim I've misled them, or they can claim ignorance.  But I agree with @aka Contrarian . I'll wait for someone to share their information with me. If they choose not to share, it is their right. I won't ask.   

For example, we've engaged in conversation on this board for the past 15 years, but have I ever asked you to share a photo, describe yourself, tell me where you live, what you do for a living, if you're poor, wealthy, married, single, white, Latino, First Nation, or Black?  Nope, because I respect your position to remain anonymous. Hell, I don't even know your name!  Stiil, I answered you because of who you are and how you present yourself.  By the way, my ex and I used to wear a lot of plaid shirts for a while . His hair is now gray, but he's a straight, Nordic-type, blonde-haired, blue-eyed man, standing at 6 feet 2 inches.   

[Pioneer1]

 

Mel

 

 we've engaged in conversation on this board for the past 15 years
 

Wow, has it been THAT long????
Kids have went to school and grown up during that time, lol.

but have I ever asked you to share a photo
 

Unlike SOME people on this board who constantly ask to see my picture....no.

 

 

 

Stiil, I answered you because of who you are and how you present yourself.  

 

Mel, I already know that.
You already know how I feel about White men with Black women and I wouldn't dare ruin the vibe bringing that up.

The problem is Cynique  aka The Contradiction....lol.
 

-She doesn't understand people, or how to talk to them!
-She doesn't understand what IS appropriate and what is NOT appropriate or what may SEEM inappropriate but actually not offensive depending on the context.
-She doesn't understand how a person can ask question ABOUT a person without it being TOO personal.

-Because SHE often crosses the line with people and insults people and offends people with HER statements and questions, she makes the mistake of assuming EVERYBODY has that same problem....lol.

She simply doesn't understand HOW to properly talk to people with respect and understanding.
Which we all understand about her...lol.
 

So when she start apologizing to you for not actually taking time to type out a post of congratulations and compliments for your daughter's wonderful wedding ceremony....I assured her that you were NOT offended!

And HOW did I know you were NOT offended?

Because like me....you also "know" Cynique and how she is.

It's for the same reason she EXPECTED and WANTED you to get offended at the questions I asked and the comments I made.

And got MAD AS HELL when you didn't...lol.

Poor girl even SNAPPED on you!

 

" Well EXCUSE ME for taking up for you when Pioneer
was asking those inappropriate questions he had no right to ask!
I won't do that again!"

She wanted you to go off on a brutha...lol.

 

 

 

 

His hair is now gray, but he's a straight, Nordic-type, blonde-haired, blue-eyed man, standing at 6 feet 2 inches.   

 

Now, as I ponder why yall had a dog in a bow-tie (:09mm)....
I wonder why you felt the need to include "straight" as part of his description?

I thought that would be a given.

 

[aka Contrarian]

@Pioneer1Smh. You're such a fool. Not only a loser but a sore loser.   A transparent loser, who anybody with any perception sees through. Still grasping at straws.LMAO.

[Pioneer1]

Cynique

As I said before, I know people.
You....apparently don't.....lol.

Let me "hip" you a little bit to what people actually DO find offensive..............

I'm almost sure Mel doesn't take offense to my teasing of her wedding pictures and videos.
But what she probable DOESN'T like is us going back and forth insulting each other in her thread, lol.

The difference between me and you is I realize this and do it reluctantly....you don't.
Lol....because you don't know any better.

 

[aka Contrarian]

Funny. Non existent Cynique receives a reply from pioneer who pathetically claimed he doesn't pay attention to aka contrarian who he advises is Cynique's alter ego.

Pioneer just can't move on. Cognitive dissonance has him in its grip. He should really seek help.

 

And, as is his usual MO. After he does all his dirty work, trying to get the last word, he steps back and hides behind a "Mr. Nice Guy" facade.

In addition to all his other perversions, he's a psychopath!

 

I'm done.

[Troy]

On 10/4/2025 at 5:34 PM, Mel Hopkins said:

Yes, that's Chicago; my daughter's new family is from old-school Chicago. In fact, her grandfather-in-law was a writer and journalist who was inducted into the Chicago Literary Hall of Fame. Frank London Brown - Wikipedia

 

Yeah, I've heard of your in-law: https://aalbc.com/authors/Frank+London+Brown. A collection of his short stories was published a couple of years ago (I see I need to add a couple more of his books).

 

Lives are complex individually and collectively. Thanks for sharing your joy with us @Mel Hopkins.  You are truly blessed to have the life you have had and to see your daughter celebrate her nuptials on such a grand scale!

 

 

Being perhaps the only person on Earth who has had the pleasure of meeting both @aka Contrarian and Mel's mom in the flesh.  I think the two would get on quite well @Mel Hopkins.  What do you think?

Peace & Love.

 

[Mel Hopkins]

25 minutes ago, Troy said:

Being perhaps the only person on Earth who has had the pleasure of meeting both @aka Contrarian and Mel's mom in the flesh.  I think the two would get on quite well @Mel Hopkins.  What do you think?

OMG Troy, Yes! They would have a blast together! Seriously, fireworks, laughter, and partying!

28 minutes ago, Troy said:

Lives are complex individually and collectively. Thanks for sharing your joy with us @Mel Hopkins.  You are truly blessed to have the life you have had and to see your daughter celebrate her nuptials on such a grand scale!

Thank you!

[aka Contrarian]

@TroyGlad you finally showed up! You been MIA.

Leave it to you to smooth things over. I never thought about Mel's  mom and me bonding, but that makes sense. (We come from a generation when people were more discreet,  - and didn't make fools of themselves when trying to defend their indiscretion.)  

But, in pioneer's case,  we to have to consider the source.

[Troy]

@aka Contrarian  yeah I've been swapped the last few weeks. I even spent a day on Captial Hill working with lobbyists to reduce credit card swipe fees -- fascinating exercise.  I missed an opportunity to connect with my man @ProfD but we will catch up.  @Delano I know I owe you a response.

 

To make matter worse all my passwords were deleted from my password manger software --twice so I could not log into anything.  It is a pain to login into many systems with a password...   I can't even login to the admin console here it has been at least a month since I have approved a new account. 

 

I also have 2,200 unread emails in my inbox.  I there is a better than even money chance that I will delete everything without reading it and change my email address.