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LOL @ the exchange between Cynique and Sara !!! It takes a lot to make me laugh out loud over something I'm looking at on-line, but those two remind me of the Itchy and Scratchy cartoon show that used to be on The Simpsons....lol. Cynique This is beautiful. I can read these stories all day long The more you write, the more it confirms the truth of what a lot of older people in my family used to tell me but I was too young to understand. In a way I shake my head when I read this because I can't tell if things have gotten better for Black folks or worse. I mean, the LAWS seem to be better for Black people and the wages seem to be up. But the actual community spirit, the family structure, and the businesses have been all but destroyed not to mention the amount of violence and stupid behavior that I didn't see just 30 years ago. I can't speak on what happened 50 or 80 in the past but I CAN bear witness that despite all the stats we may see on paper about Black wealth and there being more Black millionaires today, I remember more Black businesses 30 years ago. I'm talking REAL Black businesses with 4 walls...brick and mortar...like resturants, hotels, laundry mat, thrift shops, ect....that you could walk into. Not some on-line fly by night garbage. A negro got a Facebook page calling it his "own bid'niss". 　 Sara I can believe slavery began in the North. Not too long ago they found a slaver burial ground somewhere near New York City! Like Malcolm said, stop talking about down South....because as long as you're south of the Canadian border you're in the South, lol. After spending so much time in Canada I recognize the wisdom of his words.

What I think Black women in America are experiencing more than anything is FRUSTRATION. And that frustration has 2 main causes: 1. The constant feeling of insecurity because they don't feel Black men can protect them or provide for them. 2. The constantly feeling of being "less than" White women in terms of beautify and/or feminity. As far as the "anger" goes...... Frustration releases itself in either anger or sadness. Most Black women have learned that most peope don't care if they're sad so they've decided that anger generates a better response and gets more attention. A White or Asian woman can sit in public and start crying and dozens of men and women of all races will come up to them asking them what's wrong. A Black woman can start crying and people will ignore her and stare at her like she's crazy or a drug addict and assume negatives about her condition. But of a Black woman starts cussing and getting loud...that gets everyone's attention and they start looking around at eachother trying to figure out "what happened" and try to calm her down. Black women have learned this and many act accordingly. I really feel sorry for the Black woman. Atleast as a man, I believe God equipped most men with the physical and mental faculties to deal with the harshness of an unforgiving society but I don't believe most women of any race are equipped to deal with certain things that Black woman have been having to go through for hundreds of years.

Cynique 　 Time and time again I have come right out and said, whether it is correct or not, that most black problems can be attributed to the breakdown of the family, and many other black people who live in the high crime area and see things first hand agree. The baby mama/baby daddy culture is not something that white people can fix. ((Pioneer lightens up a little, sits back in his chair, and rolls his eyes)) Well...... Even if we were to focus on broken families as being one of the root causes of the violence, even the solution to THIS would be too shocking for many Black Americans to accept. You're right, the problem of broken families isn't one White people can fix....for the most part only Black women can fix it. Black women are going to have to stop leaving Black men or kicking them out of the home for "cheating". Black men (like most Arab, Latino, and Southern European men) tend to have high sex drives and love multipe women. Ofcourse I'm generalizing because some men can settle down with one woman while some men are GAY and don't want any....lol. But speaking as a Black man I know that most desire multiple sexual partners and will have them as long as the opportunity is there. Black women have to either accept this as a fact and insist on keeping the family together for the sake of the children or maintain the zero tolerance policy. As I said, other races of men cheat as well but their women aren't as quick to leave them because of religions or social obligations. So regardless of the behavior of their husbands...they tolerate it for the sake of keeping the family together. Hell, most of these non-Black women even put up with PHYSICAL ABUSE (which is unacceptable and NOT what I'm advocating) in order to keep their families together. So until Black women are willing to swallow their pride and put up with Black men "fucking around" for the sake of maintaining the Black family, don't look for the problem to solve itself anytime soon. Ofcourse Black women have the option of getting a non-Black man as a partner who they THINK will be more faithful, but even if it improves the condition of certain Black women who enjoy the relationship....this union does little to improve the condition of the Black FAMILY itself. The reluctance of many Black people to get abortions even when they KNOW they can't properly take care of their children is another major contributor to the problem of "broken families" in the Black community. If more Black people actually PLANNED their own families instead of having them planned by others or just having children by mistake...more children would grow up feeling loved and wanted and not feel like their lives had no purpose.