Sure, she had choices. She could've stayed in France or ran away or killed herself. Just to name a few things.
At some point, it has to be consensual especially when babies kept popping out.
I doubt those interracial relationships were down south up to the Mason-Dixon line. The white racists didn't play those games.
Former boxing champ Jack Johnson had his way with white women. It led to riots and fines and prison time for him.
In 1959, married couple Richard and Mildred Loving were convicted of breaking the law in Virginia. In1967, the Supreme Court ruled that laws banning interracial marriages were unconstitutional.
According to history, Thomas Jefferson seemed to treat Sally Hemings very well. Her bedroom was in Monticello. Not slave quarters.
Sally Hemings could pass for a white woman. The only reason Jefferson probably didn't marry Hemings is because he promised his 1st wife Martha as she was dying that he would never remarry.
Although classified as slaves, Hemings and their children lived a relatively good life at Monticello. The offspring were taught trades and they were freed upon turning 21 years old.
The Jefferson-Hemings children did well as adults. They Blended into white society. The sons married white and Black wives. They produced mixed race grand children.
Just laying out an example of despite how it started, Black women could have been fine with interracial relationships hundreds of years ago.