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@Pioneer1 and I had a meeting of the minds about Black Gen X, and I'll add Black Gen Jones men (born between 1955-1965): either avoiding marriage or staying married once they say, "I do." Now, we've agreed on a lot of the points made in this video presented on YouTube. But here's where we diverge in our perspectives. (see the topic "Search Engines and Aggregation Websites LOVE AALB to read the rest of the exchange) From my experience, Black people have different mating rituals than those who established Western civilization. When Black families come together, from birth to death, it is often a proverbial Thanksgiving, cook-out, brunch, or some type of eatfest. That is usually how you know two people are about to unite—case in point, my response to Pioneer's observation. When I met my firstborn's father in college, it was at his insistence that I come to his house for dinner. It wasn't our first encounter, but by the time he was really interested, I knew he was bringing a brontosaurus steak to win me over. On the flipside, I've gotten proposals from my cooking. In fact, one suitor ate all my homemade almond-flour cookies after he said he didn't want any. Black men will PROPOSE something if you cook for them!!! 😆 That's our courting ritual. As I said, Black men will also cook for Black women, and if they can't cook, they will take their date to some linen-cloth table restaurant with waiters ready to wait on the table. And creepy as this sounds, they will do this for the woman they want on the side too, so she knows he wants to keep her too. Also, I've learned that if a Black man wants to take you to his family reunion, you'd better get off your booty and go! He is really serious about that woman. On the same token, if a Black woman wants a Black man to meet her sister-girls, that is a huge hint! Those are our courting rituals. So, stop watching Hallmark movies to get a clue and watch us, what we do naturally, and then see what comes next and how quick we connect. Ok, so, that's what happens in my Black tribe. Has anyone observed something different in their tribe?

OK Maybe I'm the only one who did not know this (a publicist told me over the course of a conversation). Here's how Ashley Allison is reimagining it @Pioneer1 put you tongue back in your mouth. I hope she gets rid of those crazy ads on the website--it is painful to visit the site with them the type, numbers, and the intrusiveness of them.

Looks like Wakanda is protected from the brunt of it.....lol

It's ABOUT TIME somebody posted something I can sink my teeth into, lol. I was getting kinda bored for a minute. I log on to AALBC on a smooth Saturday morning looking for about 5 or 6 threads I can chop it up in and see the only one who has been posting since yesterday is ME. Usually ProfD has dropped SOMETHING profound by the time I log on, now HE comes up absent.....lol. Sheeeyit....... I don't even know WHAT Mel said yet and already gave her ass a trophy just for posting something I can respond too....lol.

Lol.....I don't think that statement was for you. It was directed towards me per an exchange about Black marriage, we were having.