Kalexander2

Both “Roots” and “Malcolm X” are based on reality and truths regardless of the facts. But most of us Blacks always find a reason to reject such truths because denial is a defense mechanism of your mind, trying to protect you from what could be an unpleasant realization. That “no matter how hard we try, we still do not understand our place in the world, or capable of changing it.” Acceptance of reality is really saying yes to what is. It is saying yes and still function within the current situation. It doesn’t mean you have to like it as it is, but you have to accept it and recognize it as it is. Denial and ignorance do not help and would keep us away from effective change. So it also means recognizing your reality correctly. And in its essence, acceptance is alignment with truth. It's easy to look for and find ourselves in things we hope will make a difference. Falsehood is easily spotted by a deceiver however small the falsehood. Open-mindedness of most of us Black folk means having room for anything to blame other than ourselves.

Notwithstanding how any of us feel, Meghan’s marriage to the prince has or will have an effect on the Black community worldwide. Perhaps not an economic or political effect but of attitudes of sorts. Some may see it as a Black woman making it good in a bad, dark time for Black folk and benefit from some positive attitude; others may see it as a realization of false pretense of moving up in the world, enlighten by a negative attitude. No matter what the attitude, Meghan owns nothing to the Black community; she’s not the cause of issues facing Black people and she cannot be a solution, even she was the queen. Though it means nothing to me or my life, “I’m happy for her,” and pray she doesn’t fall victim as did Princess Dianna. Never bought that ‘car accident’ excuse for her murder!

According to you, I'm the one who's proven who and what I am by words from own mouth. Being who you want me to be is your problem, not mine. If you have a problem with who I am, a problem with how I think, a problem with what I say, and a problem I'll never apologize? "YOU HAVE A LOT of PROBLEMS." I don't have a problem, not even if you ignore me and all my posts, that's convenient for me because you are not interesting to me, nothing you say is important and I couldn't care less if I never heard from you again. But you've made that threat before. To go one even better, from this moment forward I will ignore you and pretend you never existed, even if you insult/attack with all you have; I'll ignore you. That's all the proof I need to confirm the truth what and who you are.

Yeah, well, why else would a wealthy foreign woman want to marry a Black American man, certainly not for love which is the other reason I refused, I knew it would just for the money. And no person should face possible abuse by a male gold-digger. Truth is, one side of me says I'm a fool for passing up an opportunity for, whatever; and another says I'm a rebel because I went against the norm, putting principle before profit. I grow and please myself by doing or not doing what is considered normal. Most men would have jumped instantly at such an offer.

I'm natural born and reared U.S. citizen, but regardless, though I'm not familiar with the exact statute/ordinance consider marriage to a foreigner for money and then apply for a visa, residency, or citizenship is forbidden. No one had to tell me this and I may wrong, I doubt it. You're right most anything one does for money isn't illegal, except if it to do something that impacts the integrity of laws and privileges. Such as applying for immigration status for a foreigner married to a U.S. citizen as part of a payment. Now, does that make a follower, fool, or avoid legal complications for a monetary benefit?

The 'carryover' no-one's talking about is the encouragement, validity 45, his racist administration, and white supremacist supporters make of violence and crime; not to mention the NRA. Blacks, young and old are emboldened by lack of consistent, fair administration of justice and tolerance of all kinds of social deviance; actually practiced by leaders at all levels and backgrounds. And it seems the direction of America's going to be constant before it changes course - if it changes at all. The racist agenda works out better during Black-on-Black crime, Black gang activity is an added bonus for militarized police departments and the Trump agenda. Throw in MS13, they might start opening re-education camps for all Black folk. Separating families and jailing babies says tons what they'll do to Black young adults. Most Black churches or organizations are brought, paid for and awaiting orders to justify abuse under the guise of "upholding the law, giving the impression of doing their part to make America safe by getting rid of problem Blacks." When 99% of all Blacks are marginalized, discriminated against, and victimized by economic inequality. We're all problem Blacks.

HEY, so am I a follower because I didn't abuse my citizenship by marrying for money, by following the rules? HEY, so am I a follower because I didn't abuse my citizenship by marrying for money, by following the rules?

Yeah, sister Cynique, the fairy tale princess crap impressional young women gleam is just that; a fairy tale. The scandalous royal family is about to come down to earth now that a real earthling has taken-up residence in Buckingham Palace. They're about to find out that Black folks don't leave when asked nicely, you have to throw us out. Smile.

WRONG! We were childish and stupid!!!

Ain't that the truth of it? Yeah sis., you're preaching to an empty chiore!!!

Because doing anything worthy of jail, exile, or repercussions is self-defeating, following rather than leading or going on one's own way. OH YEAH, with or without due process, they're guilty!! Amneh, one sister from Mozumbic Africa was royalty in her village, she split with over 2 billion euros of the village and her husband's family's cash. But it's not the point I'm trying to make here, nor does it matter to anyone except the women and their victims. It's the independence, spirit, and bold determination to do what they wanted, for selfish gains or not. They survive!!! I recall being offered, more than once to wed for immigration to the U.S., I'm not going to tell you that if not for the notoriety I would have jumped without being asked twice. Besides, I have a wife already and was too afraid of getting busted for abusing my citizenship for money.

I was in Morocco some time ago and was shocked to learn it was the single female royalty capital of the world, to me that is, Black women, mostly from Africa with wealth, prestige, and profound careers. Many left their home country to avoid jail, exile or other repercussions for cheating their people or ripping off their wealthy husbands. Even more shocked that this information is never shared on the media. Now, I wouldn't want my daughter to do the same, I admire the spirit, independence, and boldness of those women which is what Mehgan does for Black women worldwide. Pride is a powerful motivator, something females, especially Black utilize better than us males.

Great idea!!!

Granted, the business of marriage we're all involved with, in one way or another, for some benefit. However, what's the differences that cause you to feel that way? What is the crucial meaning of the difference?

@Troy You're right in every respect... {content deleted by administrator} So, for what it's worth I prefer to back down at this point. And thank you for letting us be adults!

@Troy: If nothing else, an embedded, verifiable sense of choice to follow, avoid, or go her own way. As a Black man, I've chosen the latter; in spite of the fact I hate uncle Tom's Ben Carson, Herman Cain, and sell-out Barack Obama the pride they have confirms, so can I achieve, follow, lead, or go my way. Maxine Waters of the U.S. Congress, like Mehgan she is like any other Black women; with a maternal instinct even with all the scars, cracks, and crevices of any human being. Let's not get caught up in what she recognized, do or don't do for her female Black community. This isn't "what have you done for me lately" kind of value.

Brother – does a Black person need to be from Selma, Georgia, the projects, or Africa to be of value to the Black community? Or, do they need to be wealthy, famous, of profound intellect, or dark-skinned to be respected as a Black person? What’s that you say? NO. Then it really doesn’t matter whether he/she loves or hate their own community to instill a sense of pride and motivation. It’s not her politics nor her origin, she’s Black; whether she likes, accepts it or not. Can your daughters learn something, anything from the Black Duchess of Essex?

Thanks, such stories remind us of important truths; but not the sense of pride necessary to move on and beyond mundane ways of living. Actually very complex lifestyles we sell our souls to, still, nothing changes. Between ourselves and white folk, I wonder how we survived this long.

Brother, Troy, does it not depend on the beneficiary? I think royalty there has much to gain having a Black woman in the family, I see Dutchess of Essex as an international value asset. I think the Prince married-up! 'What I think/ is true for me as well as true of a fact. Our Black women are humans this world is unworthy.

@Cynique While I commend Philip Nobile’s stellar journalism, he appears to have ‘gotten off’ on an attempt to debase truths in Haley’s work. Clarence Page’s rebuttal to Nobile justifies the two-books even more: “Haley's offenses are so egregious, Nobile says, that the Pulitzer Board should posthumously take back the prize it presented Haley in the "special award" category in 1977. Instead, Nobile charges, his story is being blacked out (or, if you prefer, "whited" out) by major media too frightened and guilt-ridden to pick up his crusade. Not surprisingly, Haley's defenders have lambasted Nobile's lengthy report as a racist attack on black intellectualism and cultural heroes. Who's right? I probably was touched more profoundly by Haley's two books than by any other except the Bible, yet I can't help but notice that those who knew Haley well seem to defend his character more vigorously than they defend his reporting. Haley was not a historian, nor was he a conventional journalist. He was a storyteller and a darn good one, not unlike the old griot …” Clarence Page 1993 Chicago Tribune. Don’t know I ever missed this information. Old age, I guess! Again, thanks for sharing.

Thanks, sis, reading the movie chat now!

Well said! Her background is not indicative of a woman without her own agenda or, someone's token plaything or tool. I look forward to paying close attention to her career and marriage!

@Pioneer1: I'll take your non-answer as an ADMISSION you are a liar and enjoy insulting others, or as a DENIAL you are not a liar nor enjoy insulting others; in either case, YOU'RE A DISHONEST PERSON which is the nature of my complaint against you. THANKS FOR FINALLY BEING HONEST!!!

Sister, Cynique, I'm out of the loop on a lot of things; I hate to admit this information is one of them. Would you be so kind as to elaborate?

Further: Dr. Mark Domberk, Ph.D., yes a Jew, insults are a common and healthy defense mechanism. "Personality defenses (coping techniques, defense mechanisms) are important things in that they strongly influence the ease with which people are able to form and maintain healthy relationships and reject unhealthy relationships. Developing organically in response to frustrating, difficult and painful situations and experiences, they function as the human equivalent of a computer firewall, helping to defend against hurtful and abusive relationships, while hopefully also allowing healthy and nurturing relationships to pass. Discriminating when to be defensive and when not to be defensive is key for health. You need defense to keep you safe from those who would mess with you, but you also need to know when to relax and let your defenses down so as to retain the capability for innocence, openness and healthy relationships. Defenses are important, an immune system unto themselves. They're worth spending an essay talking about."