Thank you, Chevdove, excuse me if I take as a compliment!
Are you referring to something else or the discussion between me and you? We men tend to be more impatient than women, we lash out whether something is apparent or not so obvious because we believe our way is better; especially if we see ourselves as more informed. In other words, we're stupid!!! Even when it is clear you were right. Not to go against our 'man-code' but I should keep it real, right?
For the life of me, it is unconscionable that a human being, any human being could ignore suffering, mercy on the little ones who need both parents. Unfortunately, people have different reasons for doing what they do or allow to be done, even where their own children are concerned. The fact that we consciously do things that harm children is a good part of what makes for 'pessimism' in me. Only a man who is coward would allow another to seize his child and do nothing. Little else justifies violence.
Unless a response would jeopardize well-being other family members ... like with Black slaves. Interfering with the slave-master could get everybody killed.
DAMN! With every fiber of my being, I respect you, of food, water, and everything else, you decided your children need your presence more. And you are right! Nobody and I mean nobody, not even the father can love and nurture a child like mom can; not relatives, church nor siblings.
I am sorry to break it to you but Black mothers in America struggle harder non-other than their Black children. It's YOUR strength and decision-making that'll save them from themselves if not from the harsh realities of the world we live in. I know everyone can't, don't the strength to do as I've done, go to bed hungry when I could have asked Whiteman for food, but that's me, my strength comes from my mother. She sacrificed for her children and taught us to sacrifice for ourselves.
Humans do their best work during adversary and on empty stomachs. A Black man who can't go a few-days hungry isn't a real man, he's a punk, an intersexual being. I am, indeed, sorry to hear about your ordeal. hang in there!!