@Cynique I hear you. But growing up as a Black man in America, I perceive a different reality than you. This could be due to our regions. I am not sure. I have seen Black women cry at the thought of trying to remove weave from their heads. I have seen Black women's hair underneath the weave in the most terrible state that hair could be left in. This doesn't reflect self-love in my humble opinion. They obviously don't love their hair. I have known some Black women all of my life, and have NEVER seen the hair they were born with. This resonates a deep concern in my humble opinion. I have seen Black women take pictures of themselves wearing ridiculously long (white textured) hair and post the pictures on facebook and brag about whether or not they should cut their hair.
I don't make excuses for Black people. I love my people and excuses do not solve the root of any of our problems. It only hinders our understanding and therapy of the issues that we faced as an oppressed people.
Which leads me to your other point. You said and I quote: "What about Black men?" I say the same thing. What about them? It's apparent that too many of our children are growing up without fathers in their lives. Let me explain how part of this problem is a direct result of our Black women's self-hate. When they choose these deadbeats, do you think they were choosing fathers? Do you believe that they are going around looking for woke Black men to raise their awareness to a higher conscious state? Why do so many Black women end up with deadbeats? Is it because there are NO good Black men left? Already, the fruit of our problems becomes the lack of Black women being able to effectively select empowered Black men.
Fact: Most of the Black men who turn out to be deadbeats were raised by Black women. Most of these men had no positive Black men in their lives. Surely, the Black woman is capable of raising Black men, but to face this burden alone has negatively impacted Black culture. I can randomly choose a street to walk down in my city, and see Black women emasculating their Black boys like it's in style. The mere fact that these women become the father and mother figure will be detrimental to our children every single time. It sends confusing messages to our youth. Not all of them because every human being is wired different and every circumstance is unique. But for the most part, we witness the negative impact this has. This impact affects gang affiliation, school grades, behavior, language, sexual activity and in some cases sexual preferences.
Throwing weaves in the trash can isn't going to stop all of our problems alone. However, it is a step in the right direction.
What we know for certain is that a large number of our Black men are being raised by Black women and have no father figure present. This is VERY destructive. What we see now socially, is proof of the destruction. And what about these Black men who were raised by single Black mothers? Why have so many rejected our Black queens and refuse to date Black women? Could it be that they were emasculated by their own mothers, who was the first Black woman that they loved? The first Black woman that they trusted? The first Black woman who they witnessed try her best to emulate and copy white people - which ironically, Black women have made their own standard of beauty?
Now to address how you feel about Afrocentrism. You believe it's dead and has passed. What I believe is that when it truly dies and passes, then so will we! Also, you clearly identify white people as having a dominant culture. Big mistake!