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@Pioneer1 This an interesting view from your world. I live in a different world. My world doesn't consist of radio talk show hosts, conservatives vs-liberals, etc.. I live in a world or at least I surround myself with people who are balanced - focused knowledgeable, with many being polymaths or specialists in their fields. None (unless they're in the closet) ascribe to hyper-masculinity or hyper-femininity or even cling to those personality traits as a badge of honor. In an effort to keep their world balanced they push boundaries in an attempt to evolve. I can't speak about those conservatives who are not changing with the times... while I used to report on them - I don't know any personally. NOTE: I raised my girls in Wheeling, WV and then Naperville, IL and it doesn't get any whiter than that - and I didn't know of any upper middle class white women to raise their boys to be hyper-masculine and agressive. The proof of their efforts are in the millennial men that you see at the top of the food chain today. Not a nary one of those young billionaires are hyper-masculine nor are their peers and counterparts.

Cynique Female ejaculation is real. If you're not perceptive enough in bed to "figure out " , what works. They you need to talk when you are vertical.

Troy i can imagine a March inspired by McDonald's and Coke. Because both have supported Black History Month because it is a hood business decision. Did yoy see Watts Stax. Yeah in his prime Jackson could have done so. Sharpton is a bit like Spike Lee. He is vocally pro black yet attracts the money. My Aunt had an interesting take on Sharpton. She felt he wasn't polished enough. Yet he is the only one giving a voice to the voiceless. So again I have to separate my personal feelings about the man to look at the situation using reason not personal prejudice

Is there such a thing as a "G" spot? Just curious, in case, i make becoming a cougar an item on my bucket list.

@Mel Hopkins i am amused by your calling racism a "social construct", which figures in to my arguments with Troy, to wit: if race is a social construct than how can you have racism?

I agree with you @Troy, I didn't know that so many women didn't know about their own bodies until I got to myspace. And worse it seemed that a lot of women never learned from their moms. Many seem to take their cues from men - Anyway, that's how a lot of relationship experts started to thrive in the age of "social media" I used to belong to this facebook co-ed group and it would get super steamy and incredibly educational and liberating for both women and men. Sometimes brothers would post pics of their woman's discharge and the women would tell the brothers what was really going on depending on the quality of the "biological waste". Growing up in my family, the matriarchs, were very open about teaching us girl youngins' age-appropriate lessons about our bodies. Sex was never a taboo subject. It's a tradition that the women in my family continue. ..my poor daughters would sometime say TMI when I start in or certain topics... they would about die when my mother chimed in... she's the worst when it comes to vivid descriptions lol. As for men learning how to satisfy women - and vice versa, that's an integral part of intimacy... If you can't tell your man or woman what is satisfying - why are you two even together? (Hypothetical question. I'm not targeting you or anyone)

The photo is flattering pie chart adds up to 101% of 80 percent of women reporting ... w/ 29% of women agreeing the photo is flattering (varying degrees) Here the majority disagrees (72 %) The photo is subtlety racist pie chart adds up to 100% of 80 percent of women reporting... w/ 40% agreeing the photo is racist (varying degrees) Here the majority disagrees (60%) So while women may not like Ms. Davis look in this photo they don't think it's racist. Whatever. My question is what did you, @Troy ,hope would happen? The majority opinion would win, those with the dissenting opinion would then agree the photo was racist? and then what? For the record, my opinion remains unchanged.

@TroyWell, this is a direct quote of what i wrote: "i like to think of the picture as more like an ink blot test, which is what you also compared it to." - so your props were given. And you don't have to convince me that this country is racist! I agree with everything you say in regard to this issue. My whole problem with this discussion was that it was critical of a black woman by black men who think she should present herself in accordance with their standards. As it turns out, Viola, herself, apparently had no problem with what was an artistic concept, aided and abetted by a black make-up artist. The whole controversy is on the verge of degenerating into a case of much ado about nothing. Everybody knows that the white media is either clueless or cunning when it comes to depicting black people, and that racism is insidious. The jury is still out when it come to dark-complexioned black women wearing red lipstick.

Well, that's what i meant by the power of suggestion. If it had been a black man hanging from a tree, the angry reaction would've been an immediate knee jerk reaction. But the reaction to a picture of a black woman grinning broadly is initially indifferent until someone injects racism into the mix. (Black folks can find racism in anything if they just want to.) I continue to wonder what Viola's thoughts are on this matter. i like to think of the picture as more like an ink blot test, which is what you also compared it to.

No, I don't feel vindicated. All I was interested in doing was helping people see another perspective. They may disagree with, or not understand, the perspective, but they are no longer ignorant of it. Thinking, opening minded, people can't unsee what they have been shown, their awareness has been raised. It is really all I'm trying to do with the website, helping people to see that Black people are much more than the stereotypical memes and entertainers. Speaking of entertainers I bet the majority of Black people Time felt were "most influential" are Black people who entertain them. I have not looked at the entire list because I refuse to let Time determine, for me, who is important and I not inclined to do the research to make a point... but if someone else does it I'd definitely look t the results. As one of the commenters wrote, “I never thought of the picture as racist until this survey,” if you (@Pioneer1) had not posed the question I probably would not have even seen the photo much less thought about. But once I thought about it for more than 5 seconds, it seemed pretty obvious what it represented Now I'm not saying Time has an agenda, but Time operates in a White male dominated environment. Time Magazine's aesthetic reflects this and this does not optimally service Black people--but what else is new, welcome to America. @Cynique , do you see the distinction here? No one is ashamed of Black women. That would make us ashamed of ourselves The shame belongs to our racist culture...

Yes Troy Real men want to finish in five minutes to get back to "bonding" with other men.

@Cynique @Cynique I have seen people display a$$h0li$h behaviour and being unaware. I don't want to be that person.

Being a minute man wasn't my goal. Sex and life are two races where you don't get points for finishing first - Delano Strachen