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Facts. For a number of reasons, it's better keeping one's cards closer to the vest. People make a huge mistake trying to impress others by spilling their bizness. Then, wonder why they got robbed in one way or another.🤣😎

I've learned that one of the better moves to make when first meeting others is to DOWN PLAY one's qualities. If people see you at what they believe to be your worst and still want to be with you, then you know the relationship can only get better as you reveal more of your true self.

NPRWhat to know about cyclosporiasis, the intestinal illness...A surge of cases of the intestinal illness that causes diarrhea and fatigue has been detected in 34 states. Here's how what to do if you suspect you have it and how to avoid infection.Salads are under attack after people have gotten sick from eating lettuce, cilantro & other vegetables. Some fruit like raspberries may be compromised too. The crazy & nasty aspect of the cyclosporiasis parasite is that it comes from human feces. People are either sh8tting on the crops &/or contaminating the water supply. Disgusting. The easiest thing to do is avoid veggies & fruit until USDA or whoever gets their arms around the problem. Washing veggies & fruit & high heat (cooking) might help. @Pioneer1 ...don't know your go to meals but Michigan supposedly has a high number of cases. If you or your family members, friends & associates have a fit of diarrhea...cyclosporiasis might be the culprit. 😁 Otherwise, to.everyone reading the forum consider this a public service announcement (PSA) to be careful with lettuce & salads.😎

Don't know hw effective Sen. Warnock's bill will be in keeping Black Rock & other huge investors from buying up other real estate. They are creating a situation where many Americans will be living in rental properties. Either investors &/or insurance companies could see marriage as a viable market too. Give people incentives to marry;, er, start that bizness (LLC) & keep it going.🤣😎

ProfD There's no benefit to shooting heroine regardless how high or good it makes a person feel. Lol....THOSE ARE the benefits! Sometimes the only thing a person wants IS to get high and feel good. They don't care about their health or future. Got them pill dudes here who work nice jobs & would rather play video games instead of chasing snatch box. That's because they've been so accustomed to it that they're better at using SOMEBODY ELSE'S "joy stick" to have fun than at using their own....lol.

Funny but true!!! And easier to exit. But "hursh" because next thing you know the "private equity" folks will want to invest! Senator Rev. Raphael Gamaliel Warnock's bill became federal law keeping PE folks from purchasing single family homes - so you know marriage LLC is next.

Mel Yep! It does. I've studied people long before I even knew I was studying folks. I realized I could hear them before they even knew they were telling me who they were. So I can say a few well-placed words, questions, or statements they probably never expected, and all of a sudden, the real person appears. I love those "there you are" moments. Looks like you've been in the wrong profession....lol. Instead of sitting at a desk with your hair bald up in a knot anchoring the news or pushing carts of cold beer and soda pop up and down those tight airplane aisles, you should have been a PIMP (or a Madam); because that's what pimps....successful ones...are able to do. I have an Uncle who was a pimp and he told me he had been able to do the same thing since a child. Not only was he able to read people's thoughts and read their auras and colors but like you said he learned how to find about a person's entire history just by asking them a few strategic questions. Psychology calls it deductive reasoning where learning one fact about a person will certainly reveal other facts about them just as surely as knowing one is an athlete will reveal to you that they don't smoke, watch what they eat, and exercise on a regular basis. But he was able to do it on a much higher and more sophisticated level. I've seen him in action. He used to be able to point to people and tell me what they were all about and what they were into and then I'd go up and ask them and he was ON THE MONEY. He could do this with White people as easily as he could with Black people. It's a skill and gift that some would argue that he used negatively to exploit people, but it's certainly a skill, talent, and gift. Once I was divorced, I realized I didn't need marriage to make my life complete. After learning the structure, I'm sure these Gen X men realize that marriage was not the goal, but rather a step toward understanding themselves. Most of us Gen X Black men realize that marriage...like most other institutions in this society....are just SCRIPTS written for a play or movie that we weren't intended to star in or be the main characters in anyway, so we chose not to follow them. The wedding ceremony itself...which has always been expensive and lavish...wasn't designed for poor or working class people. It was obviously designed for wealthy people and a way to merge the wealth of families and keep it in a tight circle. On top of that, marriage as it was structured in the West was designed for the man to work while the women stayed at home and kept the children and house. Today women have to work....which means they will inevitably meet OTHER MEN and most likely will either leave their husband for them or just stay and have sex with other men they've met at work on the down low. Most of us past a certain age have seen this and realize the sham of it and decided it's not worth it. That's what I learned and am remembering on my journey. I had to go all the way back to who I was before the world told me what I should value to understand my value in the world and what I value. Well, just don't go TOO far back...lol...you'll end up back in Brooklyn. Watching two rats fighting over a piece of Jamaican Jerked chicken. ProfD IMO, as a society, we need to do a better job of telling the truth about marriage. Marriage is a business arrangement, er, a contract between a man & woman to share their lives. 🤣 Exactly. But this must be CLEARLY understood by BOTH PARTIES upon entering the agreement. They can't be entering into a business contract assuming that it's all about LOVE and that they will remain faithful to eachother forever. As a man you MUST realize and even expect that if you can't take care of your family alone and your wife has to work....expect that she will meet other men and may even end up having sex with them! Prepare yourself for this FACT. Those poor and working class men who DON'T realize and accept this are the ones filling up the local headlines with so many murder-suicides.

IMO, as a society, we need to do a better job of telling the truth about marriage. Marriage is a business arrangement, er, a contract between a man & woman to share their lives. 🤣 The married couple decides if they want to operate as a sole proprietorship, LLC or S corp. Of course, throughout marriage there is a coordination of roles & responsibilities; assets & liabilities. A successful marriage is one that works & bears fruit for all parties involved over a sustained period of time. 😁 The resident agnostic & standup comedian will be performing here all week.🤣😎

Harder to do especially when eating in a restaurant or buying fast food.😁 Places like Taco Bell are messed up right now.🤣 Thankfully, at least around these parts, Chipotle places the lettuce on the bowl last. If needed, another option is to ask for the produce on the side. That makes it easier to sanitize as well. Most welcome sista @Mel Hopkins . We have to remain vigilant on so many levels. D8mn shame if they don't have a few Port-A-Pottys out in the farm fields. That way, employees won't be dumping & adding their own fertilizer to the crops.🤣😎

Man you killed it with that one. Who else would have thought of the Poker analogy and not letting others know what kind of cards you're carrying.....lol.

Mel Not an improvement in the way you think. Yes, your assessment is consistent with what I meant. There are a lot of women of color....not just Black but Brown and even Yellow who want their children to come out looking closer to White and less like them not just because they think Caucasians are more attractive....but because they feel being closer to White will make their lives easier. Mulatto offspring of White slave owners had it easier in the house than the Field Negroes. The Meztizo offspring of the Conquistadores had it easier than their Indigenous mothers Besides forced rape, women have a history of linking up with the male oppressor...not for her own sake but for the sake of her progeny. I remember when one daughter said her suitor was from Egypt. She was turned off when he jumped because her pit bull 😄 Ofcourse, Most Arabs and other Middle Easterners...like most Africans...don't have a love affair with dogs like they do in the West, lol. In the East, dogs are used to hunt and protect the house....they aren't kept as beloved pets INSIDE the house. We learned that shit from White folks because dogs were THEIR best friends, lol. Arabs and Africans.....because they tend to have more of their cultures intact...maintain their distance from dogs and keep them outside. You'll almost never see an Arab or African smooching and kissing dogs on the mouth like they do in the U.S. or Europe. As far the 1%, I can't say it was business transaction. Attraction probably came first. But from my experience it seems like white men are quick to marry - not necessarily quicker than Black men, but white men are going to step up anyway —because patriarchy. When it comes to marriage with Black men, it feels like they are signing up for partnership. And that takes a lot of contemplation on their part. I could be wrong, but at least that's how I felt when Black men talked to me about marriage. Honestly, there was a lot of I want to marry you but I need you to ...blah, blah because I'm not a traditional-type woman. Even my dad told my mom I was a handful lol. With white men it felt like they were supposed to do it and did, well at least they were quick to ask. ((Pioneer1 jumps up and down in excitement)) Oooh oooh....I got a GOOD video for you, I was just watching this morning! It's only a few minutes. When you have time check it out and tell me if it resonates with what you've experienced and observed.

Say what you will about Obama, his privately funded new presidential library, located in Chicago is very impressive and a good time was had by all attending the opening night reception there. "The Audacity of Hope" 😘