I can feel you on that. No doubt, there is a white way of doing things in America and it usually works for whites as they understand the nuances of what is to be done and exactly how it is to be done to reap the benefits. First, they have the complexion and the connections. Mainly, when a white kid needs a job, he doesn't have to scan the want ads. He merely makes a phone call and someone he knows know someone who knows someone. He has a job. It is that simple, sometimes. Any system, whether in nature or in America, tends to supports and upholds the needs of the people who put it in place. They do so that when the people at the top eat and the leftovers begin to trickle down, they want to make sure that the ones who benefit from their labors are those who look like them. And we, as outsiders, not knowing exactly how nepotism and the old boy network operates, we think we can get in where we fit in under that system and we get our butt kicked. They make it look so easy and we think we can do it. Sometimes, it works. Sometimes, it does not. Why? Because when they follow the signs or the rules put in place by their own people, it like they using a paint-by-numbers plan. They can't lose. On the other hand we playing the game with blindfolds on.
We get tricked into believing that if the system works for Mr. Charlie, it will produce for me as well. We believe that if if works for them it will works for us. It works for them because it was meant for them. When I was a peewee, when I got a cut, I would grab a band-aid. On the box, it said flesh-colored but when I put it on, it did not match my flesh. It was made for them and they are openly let you know it. This band-aid is flesh-colored because it matches the skin tone of the people it was meant for. When we use it, it doesn't perform as advertised. It may do the job, but it sure as hell exposed me by making me stand out. And that is what happens when we try to apply white solutions to our problems. Our game gets exposed and we get busted.
Or what about when you go to the doctor and they give you meds that don't work. Why? because the dosage of most meds were medically measured to suit the needs of a 110 pound white woman. Quite naturally, the dosage won't do shit for you, but it wasn't you that had in mind when they set the game up. You are nothing more than collateral damage. So, your first order of business is to 'screw your head on right" so you can peep the bullshit that they don't want you to see. My brotha, excuse my french, but fuck the players of the game. It's the coach or the rule book you want. Knowing the rules takes the guesswork out of the equation and when you know what you are doing, your chances for success go way up.
A lot of times, brothas shoot for the wrong prize. A brotha will be in an office flirting with the big-butt secretary when the person he needs to trying to get under is the cracker inside the office who can give him what he wants.
But, this is my personal thought. I learned a long time ago that in order to break the law, you must understand the law. I think that in order to crack the code to how white folks play the game, you, first, gotta understand the game. Well, let me back up because I have already started off with a bad piece of advice, and this is old school science. IF YOU THINK YOU ARE PLAYING A GAME, THEN YOU HAVE ALREADY LOST!
Brothers play the "dope game" but to white folks, it's a WAR on drugs. And that's how they confront it, as a WAR. Brothas be playing checkers, crackers be playing chess. It's the way of the system to make a brotha get less than he is worth because they know that if you don't value your worth, then you are going to always come up short. We don't value ourselves or our skills.
Check this out. You can take a white boy and a brother and equip them with the exact same skills. Let's say that both are automotive geniuses and can really handle a car. The white guy will go ahead and drive a race car for NASCAR whereas a brotha with the same skills will probably end up being a get-away driver for a crew of stick-up kids. or what about two kids, one black, one white who are charismatic and have the gift of gab. The white boy will become a highly paid motivational speaker. The brotha will use this same gift of persuasion to turn bitches out and have them on the corner selling ass.
Anyway, like I said, get the rulebook because once you know and understand the rules you can adapt them to fit your purposes. Data, like truth, is static and does not discriminate. It is what it is. Truth, under any and all circumstances will perform the same. It can't change or be altered. It's like a trusted recipe. It's always going to do what it do. And that is how it goes when you understand the rules Once I learn the rules to anything, it is no longer a white or a black thing----it's simply knowledge which will work for me just like it works for the whites .