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Here is some anecdotal evidence that can be taken into consideration. Back in the early '80s I belonged to a social club made up of about 10 girlfriends who were either childhood pals or college chums. We met once and month to eat and greet and gossip. Men always ended up being the topic of our juicy conversation. This group was a good cross section of married black sistas and the men in our lives were not all cut from the same cloth. A couple of the women complained about their husbands being dead beats who once they go married seemed to have lost interest in sex. Others claimed that their mates wanted it all the time. Still others said they sex lives were adequate, with 2 or 3 times a week being the norm. One woman shared her experiences with a stalker who only had eyes for her and wouldn't leave her alone til he finally gave up. None suspected that their mates were straying, and a couple of the more adventurous one confessed that if their husband cheated on them, they would use this as an excuse to cheat on him. What was notable was that we women had all hooked up with men who were mostly content to stay with one woman. A couple did get divorced later on but adultery was not the reason. The black population according to the latest census was estimated at about 47, 000, 000 and to say that black males run the gamut from womanizers to faithful husbands would seem to be a reasonable deduction. Of course all men have eyes for appealing women, but many have enough control to weigh their options as to what's in their own best interest and choose to look but not touch. A study showed that married men live longer than single ones. That's something to think about.

@Mel Hopkins, speaking of Black women with Blond hair: I was in Atlanta for a few days covering a book event. I've been sharing links to over 20 videos I've created over the past few days. There were at least three Black authors with Blond hair, either dyed, wig or weave. I just happened to notice this as I was publishing the videos. One such video is shared below. Admittedly, to @Cynique's point, I do not think these women are self-hating Black women trying to be like white women -- quite the contrary. One woman, in particular, is simply unique and does what she wants to do despite what anyone else might think. She is an example of a powerful person. Considering these sisters and additional contemplation, I'm backing off my position of categorizing these women being under the direct influence of marketers in relationship to how they they style their hair. This may have been true at some point, but in 2018 it has grow way beyond the simple explanation I have asserted. That does not mean I don't not think profit driven marketers don't have an adverse influence on us all (cigarettes, social media, etc), but when it comes to what women do with their hair and why it just is far more complex -- You go Bey LOL!

Yeah, I've heard Robert talk on this issue previously and I read the article. Robert Reich, is a really smart and thoughtful guy. He probably surrounds himself with similar people, people who are willing to change their positions given facts, new information, or a different perspective; the kind of people who have time and education to contemplate big ideas and are not worrying about how to put food on the table. Finding ground with these types of people, opened minded and reasonable, would work using those 10 steps. Try reasoning, in this manner, with a poor white racist to help them understand that Black people are no different that they are (or God forbid that genetically we are all the same). Depending upon who you are talking to it might get you killed. Some people's minds will never change, the only way to get then to comply -- if at all -- is with a foot up their ass. Seriously, force is what freed the slaves and got us the right to vote. Finding common ground sounds good on paper (or the screen), but in the real world, as the Four-Eyed Gangsta once said, "you need a bigger gun and the willingness to ue it."

Beer or a prostitute..?

Yes @Chevdove, I meet the author, Teresa Kemp. I shot, edited, and published the video. You may read "moor," about her here: https://aalbc.com/authors/author.php?author_name=Teresa+Kemp I just checked someone stole my slogan, readmoor.com is taken. There is nothing new under the sun.

@Troy, I didn't agree with everything you wrote in the full comment where I pulled this quote from but I put a "like" on it because it was thoughtful. As for the quote, I hear a lot of people say and write this sentiment. I wonder, however, why some believe that it's up to someone outside of us to provide for OUR emotional and physical needs. Biologically, I understand the need to procreate with more than one person - women have been doing it since females began mating with males... but sex for pleasure has nothing to do with variety... (and no, I'm not speaking from ignorance - I've had my fair share of sex partners and lovers). And variety definitely has nothing to do with satisfying an individual's emotional needs. When I hear this, I know that the person has not matured to the level necessary to engage in a fulfilling relationship with another person. Our parents choose to provide for our physical and emotional needs and if they do their job right - we learn how to engage in loving relationships with others. We can have successful relationships without expecting others to do the job of our parents. Maybe that's why polyandry, polygamy, and polyamory appeal to so many "first world" citizens. We've been raised to believe others are supposed to do our heavy lifting whether it be physical, emotional, financial or spiritual. I can testify while we may thrive in a nurturing community - the aforementioned is an inside job.

@Chevdove Big Smile! Thank you! For you, I will add a bonus feature and provide you with the non-fiction source material (mostly secondary) I used to to give the novel its "factual" feel. @Chevdove Love it! I can see a product line especially when featured with curated books on the subject at your "SHOP MOOR" store ☺️