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RANDOM THOUGHTS SMH. Husbands don't even understand their wives, and for a single man to broach the subject of why black women marry white men is beyond the pale; pun intended. Dispensing answers to this question is on a par with a black man explaining why white men marry black women; these are both subjects he is not qualified to speak on. Why black women marry white men is a choice that is as individual as their finger print and the reasons Pioneer provides for black women marrying white men can also apply to why they marry black men. Sheeze. Conspicuously absent from his explanations for an interracial marriage is that the couple are in love, and very revealing is his reluctance to believe they could possibly be sexually compatible. As for his other tarnished nugget of wisdom in regard to woman wanting to reform wayward men, Maya Angelou offered this sage advice years ago: "if a man shows you who he is, believe him." Pioneer's intrusion into unknown territory is an exercise that is comparable to me pontificating on a subject such as the pros and cons of circumcision. Puleeze BTW, wealth has been described as "old money" that has been inherited. So Trump is wealthy. Madonna came from an average middleclass family, but through talent and ambition she was able elevate herself to the ranks of the "noveau riche". Khalid Muhammad is like a character from central casting, selected for a sinister role for which he is perfect thanks to his appearance and manner. "This above all to thine ownself be true" has always been my mantra. I know why I'm hypercritical and argumentive, why i hate maudlin things, and the why of my love/hate relationship with males of the species. It all has to do with perfection, something i lack but crave. I also have 3 different personas and believe i am reincarnated because of certain things I've known without being told. And i also know nobody gives a damn about me revealing this because i am considered self-centered and am hiding behind a facade - which i'm not. 🙃 😵

@Delano Ain’t that the truth! I had a dream about this very concept and it helped me to understand that not only do you need a key - you must be willing to use it if you have it.

See what I mean I had not idea. I thought Tiger married some PWT baby sister. That was the narrative running around social media. I should just get my news from @Mel Hopkins 🙂 This is deep. As I navigate the dating scene; I say to myself that I want, indeed need someone from a class above my own, but in the final analysis I'm more attracted to women in my class and I believe the attraction works the other way too. The same also goes for intelligence, physical fitness, and spirituality. I'd want a mate in the same ballpark as I am in all these dimensions. Thinking about it a bit more, I don't think an Evie Rich would even consider a Brother like myself. I think she had to marry a white guy. Maybe that is also part of my aversion to her was well @Pioneer1. It was not just her disagreement with Malcom, maybe I saw it as her disagreeing with everything he represented -- including myself.

There's a difference between wealthy and rich. Bianca Jagger and Jackie O were wealthy. Trump and Madonna are rich. And some people have so much charisma they don't need money. There are many worlds out there, requiring different keys to enter.

This raises a good point - because you and I deal in different currency. Your understanding of marrying up or down may be based on monetary value whereas mine is based in information, access to places that most people are unaware even exists, and opportunities to increase territory. Money can’t buy access - it simply makes it easier to move through once access is granted. Tiger’s father was military and he saw the world from one perspective - but he and his wife couldn’t give Tiger full access. They took him as far as they could. Elin's mother is high-level legislator for the Swedish government and her father headed news bureaus in Berlin and was a U.S. White House correspondent. They don’t hand out those press passes to just anyone. So when Tiger tied the knot with Elin, his star was heading light years away from earth. By the way, any woman agreeing to give birth to man’s offspring upgrades that man- full stop. Also note: accepting a position as a Nanny is much different than having to work as a nanny. The aforementioned allows access - whereas the latter is employment. Maybe you missed the sentence where Elin was asked by the wife of the Swedish pro-golfer to be a nanny to her children when they came to the U.S. - Not only did Elin arrive in the U.S. on someone’s dime - she landed smack dab in the middle in Tiger’s world. She worked as a nanny one time in her life and did it for about a year. The next year she was engaged to Tiger. Elin is said to come from a family of intellectuals. She lived a life of privilege and used her wits to continue the lifestyle she’d grown accustomed to and Tiger’s babies are now citizens of the world. So, all this just to reiterate - when wealthy black man marries a white woman -she may be prettier than a black woman to the man - but no one gets wealthy without a strategy.