...men talking about the sexuality of women. smh. Freud did this. Even went so far as to deconstruct the female orgasm; something he, of course, never experienced. A classic example of male presumptuousness. And just another reason why communication between black men and women becomes blurred.
Everybody has heard the old cliche contending that "women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex". This is true because what a woman really wants is the emotional intimacy and sensuality of sex. She doesn't necessarily need the verbal BS or the perspiration-tinged smell of stale cologne to arouse her. She can get off on her ability to fantasize and let the skills of the somebody who lets his penis do the talking, temporarily transform him into the man of her dreams.
And then there's the astute observation that a woman's sex organ is her brain, not her vagina - which isn't even an organ, but an orfice. If a man knows his way around a woman's body he's aware that all the erogenous zones lie in the areola, and the labia which are just teeming with the potential for fire-works via the the Bartholian glands. Clitoral climaxes come in second to the earth moving G-spot variety. Nor should foreplay to be overlooked, Not every women has to be peeled off the ceiling to be satisfied. Being tenderly caressed and gently nipped can also thrill, all of which boils down to her sexuality being an extension of a female's individual personality.
Vibrators are called sex toys and that's just what they are. Toys to facilitate recreational sex. They are not a replacement for males, they are an alternative to them. ( Less lascivious than the porn movies men resort to. )
In a study, when asked if they'd rather go shopping or have sex, more women actually said shopping, and when questioned as to whether they'd rather spend an evening at home, curled up in bed, watching TV instead of hangin' out in a singles bar, hoping to get lucky, they were evenly divided on their preference. Go figure.
Yea, every woman appreciates a good lay. But a lot of factors figure into it. In the future Artificial intelligence may even become a factor, rearing its ugly head, making things hard. 😜