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Mel Hopkins

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  1. So sorry for your loss @Chevdove ...💔
  2. @E.equals.dtb 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Yes! You are already on your way! See what you did there - you identified your audience and started with speaking engagements! I hope you sold your books afterwards. Every “free” lecture I’ve given always offered exhibit space. See you on #readingblack.com - please share your strategies too! Even the ones that you think failed. Maybe someone can help you get a win!
  3. @E.equals.dtb I wrote a response to your post the other day but for some reason - it's not here. 😞 Anyway, "black people" is not your audience. Some black people might be in your audience but we're not a monolith. Therefore, some of us may hurt your sales more than help. A lot of new writers make the same mistake especially those who think they don't understand 'marketing (promotion)'...But I believe you do understand how to promote your book because you worked in nonprofit! Just like a nonprofit doesn't serve everyone -neither will your book. BUT you do have a very specific audience. It's the audience that is most receptive and will benefit from your message. Find that group first and start speaking with them...and they will help you sell your book. Also join us over at #readingblack.com - it's another discussion forum on aalbc.com (this website) that helps authors with strategies for selling. MERGED Also, I should be more specific about what I mean when I say find that "group." This group may be those who identify as "black" but remember there 's a lot of "black" people in the world. Further some "black" people may be women, men, or other? Some black people are christians with a big giant E in front of the "c". Some black people are buddhist and that's a huge undertaking in itself. I have a friend who is the most militant black man I've met but he almost had me thinking about following buddhism because he made it seem perfect for me ... You see where I'm going with this right? When I first wrote my book - I thought it was for every black woman in the world - but what I found out is Black men and women who were into STEM and men who read comic books loved my book. I would have never guessed but that's what my audience looked like. In an effort to narrow down your group to get honest reviews and cut down on your frustration - determine the characteristics of the group who is willing to listen and learn and that's where you start.
  4. This was an intriguing observation. Sadly, that last line took the focus off the real problem - school funding. Sadly conservatives spew this same faulty logic. It's not helpful nor is it accurate. Black people don't have the money. Most of us live above the poverty line but our money is spent just to exist. You do know there's been quite a lot of studies done already and the results indicate our biggest expense is housing, food and transportation. The expenses of alcohol, tobacco and luxury items are practically nonexistent. In this article, the quote mentions that classes have increased in size. We know schools are underfunded so In this case, it looks like that dumb-ish is called tuition. Further don't forget the black tax and poor tax that we battle - Housing; or loans that we have to take out for school; or credit card purchase interest rate because we, like you just mentioned, (practically most) earn money at the poverty scale. Unfortunately credit cards help ends meet for those who are underpaid. Let's not put the blame on black people - there's a war on anyone who is not wealthy. - it's been going on since the 80s. Those who handle the purse strings believe funding should go to those who already have funding - not those who don't. That's what has to change! By the way, I did know about how poorly the CUNY teaches are paid - but what's worst is one professor said that some in administration who don't have degrees get paid way more. Something is not right.
  5. Also March is Women’s History Month...
  6. “Watch for the signs That lead in the right direction Not to heed them is a bad reflection They'll show you the way Into what you have been seeking To ignore them you're only cheating” ~ Getaway by Earth, Wind and Fire @Cynique wow, gteat stiry! I wonder how often the Universe conspires to work with us and we don’t listen! Maybe the world is the garden of eden... and we humans just don’t fit.😳
  7. It has but I needed to understand the present. Excellent analysis!
  8. What is psychic spying? Is he the one? And if yes why do I keep missing the signs? I just listened to a voice mail of his and realized what he said went over my head. Will I get out of my own way? Ok I guess that's sufficient
  9. Not a clue! But as a sci-fi/paranormal writer it helps me tackle problems in the abstract that I can’t solve using logic and reason. In fact, i started writing supernatural/sci-fi prose because it helps me to understand human behavior and the natural world.
  10. @Delano me too Twin! I’m in a macro phase right now. I feel frustration when someone wants me to focus on minutia.. It feels like I’m way out there right (wherever that is) taking in the big picture.
  11. @Delano , the action is highlighted in your quote above. I read it the first time but it resonated when @Chevdove quoted as further insight. When I "created" a man perfect for me - it was so I wouldn't have the unpleasant experiences of my previous relationships. BUT that's not choosing,at all. That's NOT Kuumba (divine creation)" that's freakin' commentary!!! Creation would be envisage a desired marriage based on nothing in existence... When I reread your quote, it clarified a lot of things for me. It reminds me of that other quote attributed to Einstein "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." Thank you!
  12. @Chevdove man! I hope you had/have a vocation in government and public affairs - because you are beautiful and have a beautiful way about you too! A lot of wars would not have been started if you were at Camp David! 😊 Also @Delano dang! Choosing based on past experiences is actually the antithesis of creation... Damn... maybe we’ve been doing this life thing all wrong. Thank you Delano and thank you @Chevdove for quoting!! Welp, “No lies detected here”.
  13. And their lies your problem @Pioneer1 you let your imagination do your thinking and you create nothing of value. I never wrote I resented black men -you wrote that I did. Why do you want to know about my experiences with black men or any man? You wouldn’t understand it anyway. Heck, you don’t even have the guts to put your skin in the game. It takes courage to be vulnerable to another person.. to allow them to get close enough to even be hurt by them. It takes even more courage and heart to bring children in a world that’s brutal... It’s even more difficult to raise them up to be productive healthy and happy - even if they were an “accident”... yet I did just that. No, Pioneer you don’t get to live vicariously through my “stories”... You don’t get to know what black men did in my relationships with them. Here’s all you need to know about them - They are/ were brave enough to engage. Smh
  14. @Pioneer1 maybe, but effective. you”ve been unmasked as a hater of black women. Now it makes sense why you “say” you never married a black woman.. you “said” you made them call you daddy , but you played them. And didn’t you “say” “no children” too? Is that a conscious decision? Is it the truth? Did you lose a child? (If so, my condolences) BUT If you can make babies, do you hate black women so much, you don’t even want to procreate with us? Wow! So, unless it’s a health problem - you didn’t even make a contribution to our “black” family. Well dang, at least me and black man had a baby together. All that whining about “white supremacy” and it turns out “you” the hater here.
  15. @Delano thank you! But let’s not use Pioneer’s avatar as an example of how black men behave. His account is not a representative of any black man I take seriously. At least none I’ve ever met in real life. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again - his avatar reminds me of a group of people using one account. The Pioneer1 account displays as the social media’s version of FBI’s cointelpro... or the reverse black kkk lol - I’m not phased by the Pioneer1 account - I’m tickled by it ... reminds me of the black uncle everyone keeps their distance from and says “yea ok”.
  16. @Pioneer1what are you going to do file police charges on my behalf? Sign up to be my fixer? Lol! get out of here with your little list. You’re not qualified to assess what women find too difficult to talk about.
  17. Welp, @Troy your response to Chevdove applies perfectly to your explanation to me...And I couldn’t have said it better. Your foundation forms your worldview. Everything you’ve “learned” is synthesize through that lens.
  18. You’re welcome! Between you, Cynique, Chevdove , things are never stale!
  19. Really @Troy? Really Agent Provocateur? Then this means you don’t have a clue as to what influences your own behavior. You came from a woman. A woman gave you your primary education. It’s the same education that you built on. So, since your mother didn’t know what influenced her, your foundation is weak at best. Would this be correct? If yes, then I’m not sure what influence you’re under but those black men are the norm. There’s a reason we women call some black men “rare air” brothers. They are rare! But for the average black man? I can predict what they are going to say before they say it. Same thing Nubian wrote; what you call the “red pill” was said by some tired ole “woke” “militant” 50 years ago. I even posted the article. The tired rhetoric is INEFFECTIVE. Ain’t nothing life-changing about some rehashed 50-year-old commentary on black women. You say don’t go on social media? This is social media! And the same thing young black men say on twitter, facebook, instagram is the same exact thing said here! Except there, they plug in the latest celebrity’s name to go with the rhetoric. The young black women even have a “name” for those young black men...”F-Boys” and “Ashy Larry” They even add twitter accounts to list so ofher young black women know who to avoid. I guess they know who IS not an influencer. So, anyway, you may not know the names but you do know the language. It’s the same. @Del and Richard Murrary bring new thought to the forum... but maybe that’s because Del left the states... or simply both have elevated their thinking. Anyway, folks like shiny things...you should know this by now - or is it lost on you that you’re inviting purple hair women into your orbit? smh And yes, I selected Shakespeare on purpose because contrary to your misguided belief I’m 100 percent conscious. i’m very deliberate in my actions. Like I said those were painful life lessons but they taught me how land body blows. Heh heh heh...
  20. This is powerful! We do protect a black man’s image, don’t we? I think this is why so many are having a negative reaction to the R Kelly saga... Black women have covered black men for so long - that many (mostly men but women too) are shocked that a black woman produced and directed the film that gave his alleged victims a platform. Many black women have normalized the horrible treatment they’ve receive at the hands of black men, they call men “soft” who treat them well. Go on social media and you’ll see some black men say they are supposed to be “Future” to their “Ciara”. Instead of being kind to their woman; as Ciara’s husband “Russell” is to her. Those are the same black men who believe Ciara will tire of how well her husband treats her and her son with Future and she’ll come crawling back to Future. That’s how brain damaged some of young black men (and black women) are today. But I digress. I know some of my experiences with black men aren’t for publication either. And I can tell you, it’s those stories that haunt me; making it difficult to finish my second book. Some times, I tell myself that I’m being too sensitive or maybe I deserved it - but then I realize that is exactly how battered women rationalize their relationship experiences. So, yes I’ve been sorely disrespected by many black men. None of it deserved. But those experiences afforded me a lot of painful life lessons too. And now I know what it is like to experience kindness. Yet, I absolutely understand your position.
  21. Welp, your comprehension is illogical and that’s shoddy math. But if that’s your world view then you own it. Your inferiority complex has nothing to do with me or my words. As for this topic; it states the obvious. Black women ARE beautiful. It is part of record and was never up for debate. “Then will I swear beauty herself is black,   And all they foul that thy complexion lack.” Shakespeare~ Sonnet 132
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