Pioneer1

Problem is, sexual attraction is so powerful it often OVER RIDES logic and even wisdom. You find yourself attracted to some women no matter how toxic they are. You even know they are manipulative and conniving but they are so attractive you often take chances with them thinking you're smart enough not to get caught up in their drama...lol. Before you know it, you're a good man or good woman who messed around and made/had a baby with some loud ghetto fool you wish you'd never met.

Neely Fuller Jr. touches on this subject for a caller:

......not to mention some people LOVE being abused. I didn't believe it at first. When I used to hear it as a kid, I thought it was some sort of misunderstanding or exaggeration. But the older I got and the more experience I had the more I realized that some people actually love and seek out abuse and if you don't give it to them, they no longer find you attractive.

Personally, I support an egalitarian society where women really DON'T need a man....nor would men need women. It would all be voluntary. I'm glad this society has gotten to the point where a woman can work and support herself without having to submit herself or her dignity to some asshole who is abusing her and the children every night. However that doesn't change nature. In nature....among humans....men were equipped with testosterone and stronger muscles for a reason. Well this whole "I don't need a man" business comes as a result of living in such a sophisticated well built society that most women (and most men for that matter) take their security and comfort for granted. We have machines to do much of the heavy work and we have police officers and a military to keep security and stability in our society. All it takes is for a natural disaster or some major social disruption to break out to turn all of this upside down and the demand for REAL MEN to step up will be as strong as ever. That "I don't need a man" shit will go right out of the door. Really.....if we want to be honest.......this "I don't need a man" business is really another way of saying I don't need a BLACK MAN. When you hear most Black women say they don't need a man, they are really talking about BLACK MEN. Because most of them definitely feel they need White men to keep the lights on, bills paid, their job to keep a pay check, and the car fixed. For a lot of our women....perhaps even most....the only thing a Black man has been "needed" for in their life is for entertainment (sexual, emotional, etc....) but if he is removed she'll move on and find another or just do without but life will still go on. Remove White men from the picture and the house she live in will collapse, the lights and gas will get cut off, schools will close, crime and chaos will be off the chain......until society rebuilds itself.

I agree with the young sista that mass incarceration is a new modern day form of slavery. It's very unfair and racist and actually is part of a major conspiracy not just here in the United States but through out the Americas. I was looking at an article earlier about gang members around Latin America being rounded up and shipped to some brand new "Mega Prison" down there being deemed as the largest prison in the Western Hemisphere. When I saw the pictures of the men being hauled there....I saw THOUSANDS of brown skinned Indigenous looking men stripped damn near naked and tied up on the floor in a scene reminiscent of Chattel Slavery itself. However this sista IS a yound sista and like a lot of young people, may not have the full understanding of how to PROPERLY correct this problem.... Simply abolishing the criminal justice system and prisons and letting all of the inmates go would be a disaster at this point because there is too much dysfunction and violence in the United States right now. While a lot of innocent people are locked up, a lot of people who SHOULD be locked up are roaming free! This system has made a lot of monsters and Frankensteins that must be locked up for the safety of society itself or else you will continue to see more and more brutality and theft in the community. Black people need to understand this and start keeping law and order in our own communities. It's not enough for us to complain about police brutality and how unfair White folks are enforcing the laws in our community if WE won't take the initiative to do it ourselves and take the lead. We can't have it both ways. You can't sit around eating chilli-cheese fries and smoking blunts all day watching people get molested, shot, beat up, stabbed and grin at it finding it entertaining....but then start having a fit and doing jumping jacks when White folks swoop down and arrest EVERYBODY at the scene. Hell SOMEBODY has to take charge and keep order! If niggas are too lazy or crazy to do it....then SOMEBODY has to! One of the things I love about the Nation of Islam is they have their own police unit where they police themselves and keep order in their own community. Not wait on White folks to do it.

Back then, a lot of people.....a couple on this site I remember....disagreed with me when I criticized Kapernick's methods. I said that they would be useless and a complete waste of time and effort. Even the fact that you want to "take a knee" during the national anthem was suspect to me. Take a knee? BOW??????? That's showing even MORE honor and respect for the flag than standing! Hell, you're better off just walking off of the damn field or turning your back to it.....not taking a knee. Then I found out that the concept actually came from some White dude who used to be in the Marines who had a small meeting with him and asked him to do that instead of something else he was doing in protest that I forgot. But he pretty much got gaffled up and tricked by some White boy and the other Black folks dropping to their knees following in behind Colin got duped as well. Time out for negroes constantly doing meaningless shit that don't work. Symbolism and empty rhetoric. We know what works. And it's not bowing and kneeling and marching.

And did the brutality and killing stop? So what good was all of his sacrifice and financial loss? Like Neely Fuller Jr. said, a lot of our people are GOOD for doing what DOESN'T work. Find the very methods that DO NOT work at all...and double down on them! Sometimes I wonder if some of these niggas were put on the planet simply to do the most ass backwards and ineffective things to demonstrate to the WORLD what doesn't work. Serve as an example of what NOT to do. How NOT to end up. Don't smoke crack or you'll end up like this: Don't run around getting girls pregnant and abandoning the children or your community will end up like this: This is how your community will look if you let the women head the family instead of the men: Just exist as a great example to show the rest of humanity what NOT to do.

Sometimes you have to let SOCIAL DARWINISM run it's course.

Not me. I EARNED these grey hairs. Seems to me if a Black man lives long enough to get grey in THIS society, it should be a symbol of PRIDE and ACCOMPLISHMENT.

Wait for it...............

My thoughts are.....Rihanna is STILL sexy! I know quite a few bruthaz were heated over the picture because her man (Rocky ASAP?) was in the back holding the baby and they thought the image kind of "emasculated" him....but it didn't bother me. Both of them are millionaires and I consider them a power couple who don't have to necessarily abide by the "traditional" rules.

Exactly. If the players REFUSED TO PLAY....that would have been effective! That would have not only grabbed their attention but would have brought much of this nation to it's knees from all of the money so many people were making from NFL games from the owners down to the tail-gaters! But see..... Somebody.....some White boy from the Marines...got to Colin's ear and TOLD HIM that he should "take a knee" in protest because somehow that would be better....and he listened. And his methods have proven to be absolutely ineffective and useless.

My hair has turned grey waiting on it.....lol.

What you're talking about is boycotting....which does work in many cases. And even that doesn't work like it used to because White folks really don't need our money like that. Some of the small businesses might, but the major corporations could care less about Negroes keeping their little money in their pocket. Hell, the White folks in charge PRINT all the money they want out of thin air.....you ain't hurting them. I'm talking about this so-called protesting where people are just getting in the streets by the thousands making a lot of noise acting crazy and twerking until the police roll out and break it up. Call themselves trying to bring "attention" to police brutality....as if it NEEDS attention. Everybody knows these racist cops are killing unarmed Black folks. So who's "attention" are they trying to get? Who's living under a rock and doesn't know what's going on at this point? The real question is what they going to DO about it....besides wearing out their damn shoes marching up and down busy streets and pissing off the traffic while chanting slogans? A lot of people MIGHT be on your side if you didn't block off the damn streets and intersections yelling and carrying on....as if acting crazy as hell is supposed to stop these demonic bastids from killing Black folks. They don't give a damn about folks "protesting". What's that supposed to do???? Obviously protesting ISN'T working because the killing is continuing. Which is why White folks keep encouraging it and lately they've even been PARTICIPATING in it in mass numbers......because it DOESN'T work. Hell, most of these protests and marches have more White folks up in there grinning than anyone else..lol. Just like so many people were encouraging Colin Kapernick and other football players to take a knee in protest. Because they knew it WOULDN'T work or stop the police killings. Just a silly ass statement and waste of time....and they knew it. We'll know when something DOES work...... Because most White folks won't participate in it, fund it, or give it any publicity. They'll hope it goes away and if it doesn't....they'll try to make it illegal or try to stop it by other methods. Now you know you're on to something....lol

So in other words.....🤨....it's go continue for a while.

I agree. It's NOT common sense to the average Negro. Which is why so many of our people are constantly on the LOSING side politically, economically, socially, legally, etc.... What IS common sense for other groups, like sticking together, helping your own, pooling your resources together to buy land and gain political power......the typical Negro has to be TAUGHT and ENCOURAGED and in some cases TRICKED into doing it. A damn shame.

I'm not advocating that we do away with Black History month. People should be free to celebrate it if they choose. We can also have an FBA/ADOS/DOS month also. Why limit it to ONE month? Why not 2? or 4? Spread them out around the year and have one for every season. Same with television channels. BET isn't enough....have the FBA Channel to compliment it. At the end of the day, as long as we don't consider ourselves Americans or citizens or significant members of this society....simply see ourselves as "outsiders" constantly trying to win over the approval of other people....the "real Americans"....the problems will persist. We need to start controlling the narratives of this society instead of marginalizing ourselves and acting as if THIS isn't our land and we're just waiting to go to some other land waiting to welcome us.

Polygamous marriages doesn't increase your chances of contracting an STD any more than a monogamous one does. If your partner is out there cheating and sleeping with multiple people.....it doesn't matter if they vow to be with you alone or you and another. A cheater is a cheater and "titles" don't stop them.

No, both are about the same distance. I knew New York had a bunch of them, but they really weren't events I had a desire to attend....lol. Toronto has the diversity of New York without (or atleast a lesser amount of) the negatives. Crime, filth, racial/ethnic hostilities, etc..... See..... I want to take a beautiful Haitian or Belize sista back to my hotel room without worrying whether or not she's trying to set a brutha up and do him in....lol. I want to be able to simply TALK to a Caribbean sista without 4 or 6 Caribbean dudes standing back staring at us raising their shirts and flashing guns...lol. YOU can have the New York street festivals....thanks for the offer...lol

richardmurray I guess it depends on what you're looking for when you go there. When I went there, I was going there to snag a few of the women and look at the rest.....lol. I wasn't interested in all of that so-called "partying" so many people do. Getting drunk, high, dancing around, and acting crazy........ To be honest, I haven't been to Mardi Gras much less the Carnivals in other countries so I really can't speak on them too much. But I've heard from those who've been there that a lot of those places aren't too safe for Americans, especially when you're drunk and got money. Caribbean women are Caribbean women. The ones up in Canada are just as sexy as the ones in the Caribbean or Brazil as far as I'm concerned, without the risk of being kidnapped...lol

La Fiesta De Carne.....lol. A lot of people know about Carnival....but how many know about Caribana up in Toronto? Much nicer, cleaner, and safer.

Oh now see...... I thought Richard was being a bit HYPERBOLIC by saying "favorite" love songs; but Mel wanna get all technical....lol. To make it clear, those songs aren't exactly my "favorites" in the sense of there being no songs better than them. They're just a FEW of my favorites. I could list about 30 or 40 songs in each category that I enjoy just as much.

Problem is they aren't even TRYING to do it. It's one thing if there was a collective effort to throw off the shackles of Caucasian colonialism piece by piece and reform their culture. But I don't see any major effort on the part of any nation in Asia, Africa, or Latin America to do this right now. The closest we came to this so far was during the various Communist revolutions of China and Cuba but that was basically replacing one White ideology with another.

richardmurray Well, for one thing they don't call it "White History" they chop it up into ETHNIC groups so that it will be more acceptable to the public. "Irish Pride" sounds more palatable than "White Pride"....lol. But, I think it LIMITS us to pull out a week or month and set it aside to focus on our history when we SHOULD be doing it all year round. Why do we need a "month" to focus on Black History? Why do we need a special class to do it? Why don't we just DO IT all year round in every class we have the opportunity to do it in? That makes us more UNIVERSAL and takes away limits.