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Thank you FAS!!! ... because there is a bigger picture! @Troy This is sad but seems true. @Ldvirtue Yes, there is something to be said about these early years! As a parent though, It is so scary to see and live and know and... disagree with some of what my 'kids' do, and feels so helpless sometimes because of Big Government and all their propaganda... But, because I tried my best to guide them in the first few years of their lives, I still hope that they will make good and responsible choices in life. I remember soaking up all of the magazines and information about the first few years of a child's life. And I love Dr. Dobson!!! One day, I read a magazine about how to check your baby's intelligence and based on this test, it suggested that a child could likely have a very high intelligence: It said somethink like, 'If you put blocks in front of a baby around the age of 11 months, an intelligent baby would begin to organize the blocks; and if a baby stacked the blocks to a certain level, it marks that they would probably have a high intellilect; somewhere between 19-22 blocks high meant a very higl level. I was totally in doubt, but immediately grabbed my 11 month old baby and left my apartment, got in the car and drove around to the nearest Roses store, and I bought a box of colorful blocks. I went back home and did as the magazine suggested. I put the baby down, opened the box and dropped the blocks in front of him, disarranged, and then sat back on the couch. Okay . . . drum roll ***** Immediately, the baby began to become curious and mesmerized by the blocks and immediately began to stack the blocks!!! He stacked the blocks! As the stack became taller, the baby stood up and carefully continued! Then, the last block that he decided to stack, was a rectangular shape and he carefully placed the block on its' broad side... I was so afraid the stack was going to crumble... but it did not! After that, the baby did not stack anymore blocks, he slowly backed up and then toddled away from the blocks and went on to play with another toy. I could not believe my eyes!!! The baby left the stack there all day and night. I counted the stack and it was 22 blocks... ... today, that baby did pass national exams above average! LOL! OMG! And i did the same thing to my next baby and his stack was also that high! Now, I would like to believe that all of the hell I went through to stay with my babies when they were [i felt] too young to talk and fend for themselves helped in their baby days of exploration... not that they seem to be all that grateful... now.... smh! But they both seem to be responsible, have a good sense of consciousness... acheived above average in academics and etc. Yes, I can understand what you say! But even still, this society competes with the parents that do care and do try too. That TV and now, internet are like--the BEAST of BEAST! LOL! You know, I was rigid [so says my kids, some of the time] about that TV and then came the internet... LOL @Pioneer1 You don't? Yes, I believe them... maybe not pres. Trump, he says too much to know what to believe coming from him, but the others, yes, I do! I do believe that these Republicans saying thiese acts of terrorism is racist-- in that they are sincere. No way! This is a conditioning, and a choice that is being made. This, IMO is not GENETIC at all. It is not apart of any RACIAL MEMORY and it is not born in them. This is all taught and conditioning. WOW! I was wondering about this! Did he kill his sister for this reason!? OMG!

I agree that some Black women are not 'proud of their African looks' but this is because of not being conditioned or educated to even know how to define this at some early point. In the 60s, I remember the CRM pushing Black dolls but the hairstyles 'African hairstyles' came later. I remember the 'BLACK HAIRSTYLES' of the day!-- It was little ponytail extensions that were curly-cues--STRAIGHT-TYPE-- SHIRLEY TEMPLE curls. And our mothers pulled our hair back in a knot and, with a small comb attached to the extension, shoved the ponytail in the back of our head, and then dress us in our Easter dress and off we went to say our Easter speeches. This pics were on the back of Church fans, and church programs. This was the African hairstyle... until Jayne Kennedy broke out with the 70s afro. So to a BLack girl, 'what is the African look'? But then, later on came the jokes about extensions and etc. and in this, I agree with the 'blow to self-esteem'. I am aware of how Black girls, some Black girls, felt bad that they had 'bad hair' or 'no hair' because they butchered their hair with chemicals. But, by the time that I came along, in the 80s, I never went through that self-esteem issue that i witnessed a lot of my cousins and relatives express. I butchered my hair, but I never felt a sense of low self esteem as a result of doing this. This is universal. It's vanity that exist amongst all women all over the world. Superficail beauty standards... trying to get to the river of youth that the angel stirred up... this is global. But again, every culture may have a distinct trend of trying reach a superficial 'beauty standard'. I remember some of White girls emptying a can of hair spray in the school bathroom trying to get that Farrah Fawcette 'wing style' or the ones in the 50s in the beauty shops trying to ge the Dianne Carroll stiff hairstyle look. And so, yes, Korean shops sell extensions that Black women buy, but Korean women spray the crap out of the hairspray too. They have to buy that product too. It's not all having an anxiety attack due to low self esteem, but it's the hairspray and extensions that give us the look we want and think is right.

I think all of this 'conditioning' is negative whether it came from our media, government or our own mothers rushing us to the sink to 'relax' our nappy heads. This kind of conditioning is superficial on many levels, not just 'to look European' here in America. The western world has taken beauty standards to another level, but beauty standards have been blown out of proportion long before too, imo. But when people have a cultural identity, this deflects a lot. And therefore, Black women today, are not so low with their esteem that they have anxiety problems. We, as a whole are healty to a point and have vanity just like other women do. We may have an inflated believe in that our RELAXED and PROCESSED hairstyles are awesome, or our AFROCENTRIC BRAIDS and Twist is the 'only way to go', but it's all vanity. Culturally though, I do think Black women have taken a hit in the past, but not today, so much as the past. @Mel Hopkins absolutely! @Pioneer1 They're style has nothing to do with low self esteem though. I do think that we have a significant problem with being 'conditioned to see European beauties today' to aspire to have that look and appeal, but it does not mean it is expressing low self esteem and 'giving up' not caring how bad 'they' look. It is seen as an enhancement, be that as it may, I agree that it is conditioning byway of media.

Oh no! I now have to go back and re-read! I skimmed over the comments. LOL. But at first glance, I have to tell you, I did not agree for the most part. Okay so here I go, looking back over the comments. Okay this comment makes me understand from @Pioneer1 perspective when he wroter about, sort of like-- 'throwing the towel in, so-to-speak and feeling a sense of doom, [ie I don't agree completely about it being 'a Black-woman thing]. I don't believe that Black people do NOT have an anxiety problem but perhaps based on some of the issues @Troy mentioned that Black people have collectively been through such as seeing their women raped or their kids sold off into slavery and etc., has caused a sense of doom that goes deeper than anxiety--a sort of resignation. I think that is because, we may have been conditioned to see the past horrors but also conditioned to NOT see our present status as being all that bad perhaps. For many, today is much better than the past, but hey, in some regards, we may have been sort of 'dumbed down' too. We too, maybe NOT showing outwardly anxiety about life today, but it could be a sort of resignation. @Pioneer1 Yes, I agree partially. Each group may show stressed differently based on certain issues we are having to deal with on a cultural level. "Hopelessly unattractive"!? LOL! That's just plain crazy! "beyond standards of beauty in this society"!? No way, not today! "Don't even see a need to compete." !? Compete for what!? and Compete against whom!? Okay and this one just BLOWS ME AWAY! "They [Black Woman have] Very low self esteem can make it to where you'll just give up and not care about your looks or body image." That is ridiculous. IMO Black women have been conditioned in America to aspire to certain beauty 'role models', whether they want to look like Diana Ross in those days or, Like Peggy Lipton, that means they have a lot of self esteem. Like most women of all cultures we have followed trends that may or may not be superficial, but that means Black women do care and get 'DOLLED UP' just like women in all cultures. That is a joke, -- right? LOL. Now, I can absolutely understand this circumstance if a BLack person is the minority in a predominantly all-white school but, not if there are significant numbers of other Black students with the same culture. Like the other groups, Black students will 'group up'-- that is a natural process like the other cultures. Like, 'who cares' if there are a significant percentage of Black students? Have you ever been a part of a school where this has happened? I have not. No, -- I disagree. LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE; meaning Black students will congregate to one another and they don't 'give up' or 'throw the towel in' and resign to feeling rejected by other groups in a school environment. However, on another level, I do feel that 'nationally' Black people do suffer from BLack Oppression by our government in certain ways and in terms of this thread beginning, about the teenages having anxiety like a psychotic person, I think Black kids and people do show anxiety in certain ways. There you go. Yes. I agree. @Troy I agree with you partially. I agree that Black women have been flooded with 'standard of beauty' that was not Afrocentric at some point, but not tody.

@Mel Hopkins Will do! @Troy This would help me.

@Troy He was a Raleigh North Carolina Police Officer and he basically said that many people have been misled to believe that once you sign up on Facebook, you can delete your account but that is not true. Then he said that if you post a pic or something that you later regret and try to delete it, however, this will not happen but, it will still be there no matter what. Then he said that if can affect you job in the future. So he advise students to stay away from facebook. @Pioneer1 LOL! I do NOT have what it takes to stay tuned in long enough to do what Cynique did! I have short attention span! And also, like MC Hammer said-- regarding @Mel Hopkins-- being First Lady-- She is polished and awesome imo and as MC HAMMER SAID, when it comes to MEL HOPKINS, "I" ... CAN'T TOUCH THIS!...

SWEET PEA WHITAKER--May he RIP What Happened!? I mean, what really happened!? Was this the first time he’d crossed that street or what? Aren’t we speaking about a professional boxer who probably was accustomed to jogging and crossing streets? Well, anyway, this is sad news. I met him years ago, and thought that he was so very nice. The reports say that he had just had a photo session the day before! And, reports also have 'exonerated' the driver of the vehicle that struck him already. No charges are expected to be filed. Oh well,.. I met Sweet Pea Whitaker back in the 1980s at the Scope during a CIAA Championship game and later at my college in Norfolk, Va. and that was how I came to know that he was famous. I was a CIAA ‘ball girl’ and went to take a break and sat down in the bleachers for the VIPs. At this time, I did not know anything about him. But he was sitting directly in front of me and he turned around and introduced himself to me. He had bodyguards all around him. Later during that time, he handed me a poster that said, “10” and asked me to hold it up and then he took a picture. LOL. It just occurred to me that he might have been flirting with me!!! OMG! Shoot! LOL. Just kdding. I still have that pic, but well, those dayz are gone! LOL! I am a different person now! Now I'm a 10 x 10 x 10... LOL. But, back then it took me a while to realize who I had just met! Man! Again, he was so nice. My husband grew up in Norfolk and recalled how he was recruited and trained to be a boxer and became a favorite, he said, because ‘he had a left hook’. But, he quit because, he said that it was too intense for him. He said, they worked him out so hard that after the next day, he could not even lift his arms. Well, anyway, this is horrible news. I just read that Sweet Pea had financial debt and drug problems. And, the news reports says that he died on the scene. I also just read that Sweet Pea was arguable the best boxer of all times! May he rest in peace. REAKING Former world champion boxer Pernell "Sweetpea" Whitaker struck, killed by vehicle in Virginia Beach · Staff report Jul 15, 2019 Updated 21 hrs ago Pernell "Sweetpea" Whitaker, a former world champion boxer, died Sunday night after being hit by a pickup in Virginia Beach. … Whitaker, 55, was a four-time world champion who grew up in Norfolk. He won an Olympic gold medal in 1984. Ring Magazine named him its 1989 boxer of the year. ... https://pilotonline.com/sports/other/boxing/article_f4e8d6de-a6fd-11e9-ac4a-db3b99f41acb.html Post Script: How does a pickup truck hit a person all by itself? I guess they meant, 'after being hit by a PERSON driving the pick up truck'...

Not all Black Police have been silent though. Man, was this recent? I guess I need to google. This is shocking news -- for me. OMG.

@Pioneer1 You are so right. Besides, it seemed like she was exhausted. So true. WOW! Yes, I am not a facebook junkie at all. I do use it but it is very rare. At an orientation once, a North Carolina Police Officer who came to speak at a major university advise college students to stay off of facebook for various reasons! And, I never forgot what he said. They may turn up sooner or later.

@Pioneer1 I acknowledge what you say, but I totally disagree. Yes, and again, I acknowledge what you believe, but you are absolutely wrong. However, I would not make any attempt to change your mind.

@Troy I didn't follow the story ver well, but yes, I believe this topic went viral before Colin was noted for his position. @Pioneer1 You struck a nerve!!! Add to this list the former President Obama, okay! He too is bi-racial but many Blacks will get angry if this is noted by a Black person. Yeah, regarding Kim K., @Pioneer1 this is old, old, .... very old news in how Black African people have historically been sidelined! You may not agree, but this is the very process in the term 'CAUCASIAN' and more ancient terms being changed in its' original meaning! Today, many people, WHITE PEOPLE in SOUTH AFRICA are known to be WHITE, CAUCASIANS and EUROPEAN, but if the higher powers allow this to continue, thousands of years from now, this term 'AFRICAN' will be defined as being today's White European Caucasians. Your belief too about the term 'Jew' means a White person, but this is not true in ancient times. There are so many terms today that we believe define White people but this kind of history is deceptive.

WOW tht video is amazing. His weave looks so natural but, imo, he didn't look bad at all prior to the hair. I don't see it as an enhancement for him. He look good both ways.

That is crazy!!! They made her bi-racial. So she is like--a robot.

LOL @Delano caught me off guard! I've had my laugh for the day.

@Pioneer1 You are absolutely right. Well, just to be sure, I certainly do NOT want you to be shamed, ridiculed, suspended or banned! I look forward to reading you! Yes, I see this too and tend to get these vibes coming from some posters, but I don't know if it is a gender issue. I think a lot of you for this! @Delano Yes, I hope you are wrong.

That is crazy! But about the article; from what I read, Colin spoke up after it went viral on some social media sites. So, I don't believe that Colin is the spark of this issue, but he became involved later.

She may not, but she will be missed...

Oh yes! These are my very thoughts!

@Pioneer1 Well, if you give her some space, then maybe she will offer some input. I love her writing style.

@Mel Hopkins Oh yes!

@Pioneer1 You almost had me confused until I read @Troy's quote. No, blonde hair and blue eyes do not occur due to 'a lack of melanin'. These traits are based on, I believe, 'sex-selection' in a quest to have this trait. As most GENES are passed on in PAIRS, this trait originated from an ancient Black man with African traits. These genes scientifically correlates to how certain other GENE PAIRS that are recessive are passed on through reproduction that regards the study of [1] CAT COAT COLOR and [2] HORSE COAT COLOR. It is recessive and it has been determined that it is also based on a MUTATION but like @Troy pointed out with 'left handedness', some traits that are recessive does not mean it is defection. It depends on other factors but I am not well versed in the specific aspect of it. Oh no!-- That's not the way I remember it. I think you are speaking about 'albinism' and not 'blue-eyes'. Eye color can be passed on in many ways but scientist can determine if certain eye colors come from a mutation or albinism or a combination of both. No it is not that 'cut and dry' so-to-speak. Brown skinned Africans have 'pale skin' relatively speaking, and like Europeans may or may not have 'albinism'! Again, your comments are regarding 'albinism'. Again, I am limited on how to explain this, but 'albinism' versus 'pale skin' can be two distanct aspects. They both have an origin but how these traits are passed on through reproduction has been studied and explained. Pale skin with little melanin can be recessive but not albinism. Some forms of pale skin with little melanin because of 'a mutated gene for albinism' is recessive but distinct and can be seen with the very CHROMOSOME that carries this gene. There are differnt forms of albinism. But I believe that both of these happenings does stem from one specific origin. Many Europeans have lighter skin but are not expressing albinism and this is the same for 'brown-skinned' people of African descent. You're right about how this society uses 'the one-drop rule' but that is the confusion. If a child is born from a White mother and a BLack father then, I think this is a relative situation in certain other specific regards. If the mother exposes her child to the Black-African culture, I believe this has a bearing on that child too, being African American, no matter how light skinned they look. Historically and even scientifically, a child's ethnicity is based on the father.

Missing you @Cynique !!!

As a Whole, ??? I think we are somewhat divided. I think some Afro-Americans want this government to acknowledge that we should receive some type of Reparations while others, especially of this Y-Generation, may not focus on their identity as being Afro-Americans and therefore, they just want equality.

@Pioneer1 Blonde hair and blue eyes does not come from White-Caucasians or even Caucasians as a whole. This has been proven scientifically. These traits have origins in Black Africa! In order to have both blonde hair and blue eyes, you have to have melanin--Black melanin--I forgot the scientific term but you are way off. Maybe, like you, some Black women believe they are enhancing themselves with 'Caucasian--White' traits because today, we see many Europeans with this appearance. But at some point in the past, this trait became an obsession amongst Europeans and now, we think they are where this originates, but it doesn't. Now, I have never heard of that. I think it is the opposite; I think that blonde hair and blue eyes are an enhancement; a beauty trait; but that doesn't mean it looks good on everybody. I personally would not style the look, but @Pioneer1 truly, it is not 'defective'. It is a recessive trait but it is not defective. Blue eyes are also a mutation, and I think I have read that some people have certain issues like color blindness linked with this mutation, but again, it is not regarded as defective. Just because there are mutations does not equate to a defection, imo, but Hey, I may be wrong. But, Albinos present a whole distinct issue. African people have problems with White Supremacy too, just like this whole world. Yes, I understand this! Regarding dominant African traits of which even in the past, blonde hair and blue eyes was never a dominant African trait--it is recessive. Pioneer, you don't believe that many Black women today are also affected due to their own mothers who many are bi-racial or White? Oh My Gosh, that's terrible!

@Mel Hopkins WOW! Only 15 and at Harvard!? Now that is amazing!