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@Troy LOL! True! — I’d been gone! —I can’t even lie or hesitate on that score!—But now though, I am happy I did not have that option. I have thought about it, and well, what marriage is NOT DYSFUNCTIONAL? I believe a successful marriage can be achieved but overtime, definitely not in the beginning. And then there are some marriages that, due to an unwilling spouse, the dysfunction is too much to repair the relationship. But, in light of this titled thread though, ‘to each is own’ or ‘Chacun te se gout’, whatever ‘floats your boat’ … but as for me, Lesbianism is not for me. A long time ago, I thought I had been to many lovely places and seen many beautiful gardens. Gardens are one of my favorite places to go, and well, a Black, AfroAmerican man took me to a fantastical garden, one that I could have never imagine I’d ever see and since that time, I know for me, anyway, there is no ‘toy’ or etc. that could replace that kind of love that only a malefactor can provide for me as a woman. Being in a magical garden, for me, is a spiritual awakening that can only be achieved with another spirit of the opposite gender. But again, I believe everything is of a physical nature, and going into a garden is first desired and accepted in the mind and spirit, before it becomes physical and before actually opening that paradise gate and entering inside. So for some people, they may get to that magical garden in other ways. My choice is a malefactor because I know the positive aspect of being manhandled. LOL. Sometimes, I think Black women are frustrated with Black men and the ill treatment (we) receive from them that is so common because of reasons that are not always obvious. A lot of men that I have come across, not only Afro-American are not ‘alpha’ men, but they are co-dependent. I think even some men that boast they are ‘all that’ are really matriarchal and boast a lot but they are not spiritual enough to be alpha. They are controlled by their mothers’ NEGATIVE CONDITIONING and cannot interact with the Black women of their own generation positively to have a beautiful relationship. I find that some Black men insult Black women and attack us passive-aggressively about some preconceived notion in what they believe about Black women that may not even come from a past relationship but rather what they have been pre-conditioned to believe therefore, they look for it and say things pre-maturely. It’s like they encourage bad behavior in a Black girl and don’t even give a relationship a chance to blossom.

Chev You know what? No lie, but as soon as I saw the words "my inspiration to physical fitness" I KNEW you were going to talk about Ernestine Shepherd. I acutally mentioned her on a post a few years ago. She looks great for ANY age, but the fact that she's in her 80s is an added benefit. For some reason I find that an already attractive woman becomes MORE attractive to me when I find out she's much older than I assumed she was. Probably because it's a subconscious manifestation of good genes. Some people are just genetically GIFTED with strong great looking physiques even unto old age. You can always improve yourself but people should realize that no matter how hard they work out or how well they eat, there's a good chance they will NEVER look like these people. They simply don't have the genes that allow it. 　 One of my kids pedaled a bike with a group all the way from California across America to Virginia. That sounds like something off of Forrest Gump....lol. Well sis...... I don't know what kind of shape you're in PHSYCIALLY and I wish you all the luck. But based on the few exchanges I've had with you, your MIND is absolutely gorgeous! I told one of my dudes the other day talking about the Cardi B - Nicky Minaj incident that as a man I would rather have a 250 pound Oprah who is intelligent, can hold a conversation, and acts like a lady....than a 115 pound Nicki Minaj who is loud, offensive, with a demonic disposition.

There used to be more spiritual businesses. I think so there are many world's in NYC. Yiu are forgetting its also a mecca for the arts film television music and publishing. The only other city that hss that richness is London. Which also has a large black population.

😄 Oh snap! This is like Marley Dias, her mom and their close relationship with Black Thought and The Roots! - I love it! Black folks are forming powerful coalitions!

I would have loved to do that! Del and I rode 100 miles with a group once. I rode a bike from NYC to Washington DC with a group and have ridden from NYC to Philadelphia a few times by myself. Like Del I too am coasting on years of being an athlete, but I think genetics is a big part of my benefit too.

Beautiful. Aw Del now THAT is cynical LOL! KIds have kept together many a dysfunctional marriage. If it were easier for people to raise kids on a single wage (free of government involvement with child support payments), more marriages would have dissolved. Today it is FAR too easy to get married and FAR too difficult to end a marriage. Legal (government sanctioned) marriages should be eliminated.

@Delano, what say you about NYC being a spiritual mecca. @Mel Hopkins, whatever the reason, I'm sure I;m not alone is saying, I'm glad you hang around here. 🙂

You really do crack me up... you disagree but intuitively hit on all the right notes. (You know that’s why I hang around here... it’s like manna for my 3rd eye) It’s not a spiritual mecca because it’s home to financial markets - it’s home to financial markets because of its spiritual energy. Thank you for reminding me - 😊 By the way, does Dallas have a Giant Ferris Wheel ? Oh never mind - I guess the churches aren’t working - they have plans for their own Giant Ferris wheel on the water.. (I didn’t even know Dallas had a body of water lol! Welp, now they’re getting their own Sun Dial... to Join London, New York, Dubai, Chicago , and the list goes on

Virginia has arts and a nicer ocean, but churchwise they are similar to dallas. I never heard anything about New York being a spiritual mecca. Honestly it seems like one of the least spiritual places in the country. It is the home to the world financial markets -- that alone should disqualify it. The land mass has been completely paved over with concrete making is entirely devoid of nature. The lights drown out the stars, cutting you off from the rest of the universe. The air polluted and it is too noisy to even think clearly divorcing one from their own psyche. Just a few many reasons I would live almost anywhere else than New York City Spiritual Mecca -- I dunno about that one sis!

I left the black church back in the early 80s... why would any woman listen to some man spew misogynist bs. I Also left because I’m not into worshipping Ha’Satan.. It never made sense to me to give equal time to an entity that according to scripture work for but is no where near the greatness of THE ALL. The reverend at my church helped baptize me into the First Christian disciple of Christ denomination -and they don’t mention the accuser in sermon, song or praise or worship. Only thing I missed was some “ Sanging”. I can’t imagine black american women are actually leaving the church - but i can see the young women not joining in the first place.