@Cynique, @Pioneer1 So true.
This is so true too, and today, for me, it is very frustrating. This process too, I believe led to a high percentage of Hen-pecked men in our culture, more than we want to admit. I learned through social media about 'the Watts Riot' and then saw some films and it was amazing to see how we evolved. Shortly after these times, came the obsession with the Peggy Lipton' look in the Mob squad. I never even watched that show, I was too young at the time, but somehow, I became rapped up in that propaganda. Black women became obsessed with relaxing their hair and Black men became obsessed with white women. So by the time I became a part of the dating scene, I found myself somewhat defensive at times when I was approached by Black men. I found myself in a dilemma; I wanted to be in the company of Black men but then, I was predjudice and defensive thinking, I was going to be exploited if I let down. I think some people may view me as being brow beaten, but I don't see myself that way at all. I am cautious.
@Pioneer1That is exactly what it is!--a Defense Mechanism.
And, I don't have an answer yet as to why some women end up with a terrible relationship even after using this approach. I don't have an answer yet, but I am working on it, because I think it is an important question to answer!
This 'Gender conflict' between Black men and women definitely has something to do with the Movement of White Supremacy against our well being, but still, how do we move beyond this?
I don't know, but I think that if Black women don't put up some kind of defense mechanism to cause Black men to slow their steps when they think they can just dominate us, then we will be destroyed! Some Black men are not genuine in their reasons for approaching Black women and sometimes they play too many games!