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I got so much to say... where to start... ๐ญ
My perception of dating now is that it's severely broken. Here's why from my point of view.
Do not court someone and expect them to chase you. Too many men in my gen do this. And it is ridiculous.
They will approach you, and after so many times talking, expect you to prove yourself as to why you'd make a good wife to them. Like they want you to chase them, beg them, and do wifey things for them.
If I was the one courting him, I'd understand, but he walked into my life. Not the other way around. You're supposed to be convincing me that when you propose I should say yes, while also seeing if I'm actually the one you wanna propose to.
It didn't used to be that way, but too many guys think they're slick and irresistible.
I also don't like that men in my generation want a traditional modern woman. It's one or the other.
Like, the black community is very matriarchal and so women are expected to work as hard if not harder than men, but then we're expected to submit and pretend like the community is patriarchal and do the cooking and cleaning all by ourselves to prove our womanhood.
If you want a traditional woman you have to be a traditional man and take on the "outside" duties and responsibilities. You can't expect me to work along side you and then take on all housework by myself. I know some who live like that and I'm not doing it. That's a scam.
We split evenly in duties, or you take yours and I take mine. My own mother was a housewife and wasn't expected to do anything but housework. Cooking, cleaning, decorating, organizing, HOUSEWORK. And she was ๐ฅat it.
I always wanted to be that, but with this world as it stands I don't think I will. ๐
Plus, there's the difference in opinion in when sex is supposed to happen. So many men now think just cause you like them that means you drop your panties or it's not sincere. There's no build, no playfulness, no sparks, no crush, no butterflies to a lot of dating anymore. Just "let's go out, eat, text, eat again, fnck, then never talk again." I've seen and heard about it too many times and I refuse that lifestyle. It's self destructive.
So yeah, that's just my take. I'm sure others have their own experiences with the dating world.